How bad is it to cancel on a girl?

[Captain Rizz]

Let's say you suddenly need to get something important done. Is it bad to cancel? Neutral? Could be a power move?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Women do that all the time, so go ahead and be a woman.

Unless there's an emergency, having to cancel any appointment / date shows pisspoor planning.

 

[SW15]

Don't do it. Women cancel dates all the time. When 2 people are date cancellers, that's very difficult. Plan your life better.

 

[Captain Rizz]

I'm glad there's a consensus!

 

[Mike32ct]

I’ve you’ve been dating a while, she’ll might understand.

But if you cancel a date during the early “probationary period,” there is a risk she will ghost you afterwards. It’s like calling in sick your first month at a job.

 

[SW15]

if you cancel a date during the early “probationary period,” there is a risk she will ghost you afterwards. It’s like calling in sick your first month at a job.

Women have so many options that they don't have to tolerate a lot of stuff that they don't like.

 

[BadBoy89]

If the woman is under 30, do not cancel. Even if your house is burning down, do not cancel.

If the woman is 30 - 33, cancel for decent reason

If the woman is 34+, cancel if you can get 2 Whoppers for the price of 1 at Burger King.

 

[BPH]

I just wanna know what the "important thing" is.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Who cares?

If something comes up, something comes up.

Things will sort themselves out.

 

[ManFromTartarus]

LOL the thirst & neediness on this thread is humorous.

If the "something" is more important than being with this woman, then stick to your priorities and cancel and offer a reschedule.

If you have her up on a pedestal, worship her, and want to keep her happy regardless of what's important to you, go ahead and disregard your own priorities in life and keep the date ..... knowing full & well that she can ghost you at any time.

As for "power move", that's a pretty fem mentality to use standing someone up on a date as a power strategy. Re-evaluate that thought process.

 

[Scaramouche]

Let's say you suddenly need to get something important done. Is it bad to cancel? Neutral? Could be a power move?

Hi Captain,
Well,Shvit happens,but even with the most profuse apologies it's not a good start....as for power moves,I have never experienced the abundance that would enable these,nor even the need for dominance,it comes with too many responsibilities.

 

[jamesfromhouston]

To be honest I cancel all the time.

My strategy has always been to set up dates with multiple girls in my orbit on a particular night that I feel like having fun because sometimes some of these girls might take ages to reply and others might not be able to make it for their own reasons. But most of the time, at least 2 (or sometimes more) of them might say yes.

What I end up doing is to pick one and cancel on the other. I usually just say "Sorry something came up. Let's meet another time."

This usually works early in the courtship and what I learnt is a girl with high IL will usually put up with this during the early stages of courtship. If they've become plates; they might find consistent cancelling annoying but once again if they have high IL for you, you can get away with it.

I think cancelling last minute can also be a power move on the girls especially if they are hot because they're not used to guys just cancelling on them. Most guys are simps.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

If it's truly something that came up last minute that can't be avoided, say a last minute deadline your boss needs you to get done ASAP for work or you are really sick or you have to take a family member to the hospital, etc then that's fine obviously. And most people will be understanding as long as you are straight with them and let them know you really would like to see them and offer to reschedule.

Now if it's something like you'd rather sit home and watch a new episode of your favorite show instead then that's simply you not being interested enough in her to begin with and if that is the case then don't bother setting up the date in the first place.

 

[The Duke]

You know she has 5 other guys she is talking to right? You want to risk giving your spot up?

Doesn't matter if it's women or running a business, or trying to sell something. You don't give away opportunities to your competition.

 

[Knight of Roses]

I cancel with b1tches all the time. Especially if something better comes around. Sometimes you lose them, but whatever, you’ll find another.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Is it bad to cancel? Neutral? Could be a power move?

If her name is Aileen Wuornos, and you were scheduled to meet her in the parking lot of an abandoned K Mart after dark, canceling the date just might preserve your life

 

[Macadellic]

I go through a phase of setting up dates and canceling on all of them. Even to the point of saying “I just parked” she responds and I cancel.
Never had the intention to actually meet just wanted to set a date and cancel.

Then there are times when the day and or night of the date is the day of and I truly do not want to go or simply just want to do something else so I cancel.

I simply do not give a care.