how and what brought you to this board??

[im gonna be a dj]

what occured that you seeked out adivce on women, and found this board.?

I was in college living in one of the college apts, and as luck would have it, i was assigned a female roomate (common over here in canada). She was a 7...but i had never had a g.f before or any experience with any woman to speak of.

Initially i didn't care too much about her as i really couldn't give a **** about her(was a dj without knowing it), and she began to like me. Of course she had a b.f at the time, but anyway she started spending more time with me than him...once i noticed she liked me i of course became more and more AFC....being a challenge is especially hard when you're living with the damned girl....at any rate by the end of the semester i was doing her homework, buying her stuff etc etc you get the picture..

i could feel her pulling away from me and that of course only made me try harder. (i cringe when i think about it now). To top it all off, i decided that on my birthday i would treat her. Let's just say i spent over 3K on that night and she didn't even wish me a happy birthday.

End of the semester arrives, we have a big fight. I spend the next month calling everyday, sending flowers to apologize...even though it was she who was at fault...she was upset that i was upset that she had stood me up.

After a month she tells me one day to stop calling her, i stop. But i wanted answers....so i started seaching the internet and lo and behold found this site and it all made sense... Did i mention i never even got to hold her hand much less a kiss.

 

[gav]

Originally posted by im gonna be a dj
i spent over 3K on that night

what?? You spent 3000 dollars on one night? what did you do?

lack of women brought me to the site, nothing special

 

[Don of Truth]

Nice AFC job !

Hey...I gotta hand it to ya. You did a great AFC job! lol

It's very positive that you began searching for answers as this is one of the MOST valued male traits. TO SEARCH FOR ANSWERS THROUGH REASON !!

And since you are here...well, you have it.

Another valued trait ? Well, that would be ACTION built on a foundation of the answers you have discovered.

NOW..I came here because I am always learning about seduction and women so ...one day I found this place through google.

 

[Maxtro]

Oh my God your school just handed you a girl to live with?! I don't live in Canada but I go to Cañada College.

Your story reminds me of the beginning of American Pie 2. But you didn’t get any good bye sex.

I’m here because I want to improve my game with women, improve my confidence, be happier, and have lots of sex.

 

[niteguy2003]

I'm here because I was tired of being the nice guy and having the girls walk all over me and wodering why my ex all of a sudden broke up with me when I thought everything was "A OK". Now I know why and I WILL never let it happen again. I did a search and luck would have it I found this site. I was Soo AFC. My personality is naturally too nice. I had to learn to control it and trust me it was hard. I still find myself being too nice sometimes. I still have a lot of work but I WILL get it. I am in my 6th week of the DJ boot camp and let me tell you It's not easy. I hated to step out side of my comfort zone. Now I have made it a point to look every one in the eyes when I speak to them and say to anybody and everybody. Good luck guys.

One of my favorite quotes from this site is "If people don't like the way I am, then they can get the Fvck out of my way"

-Jeremy

 

[comic_relief]

Best accident ever

I found this site on one of the best accidents of my life. I was doing a speech project and put in the word confidence in the yahoo search engine. I was also having oneitis for this chick and looking for a way to get her on other sites but they did not help. I now say "Fvck her, she is a 7"

 

[Locke]

i'm lucky enough to know the right people. i was talking to a friend one day and mentioned that i had problems with women, so he showed me this site.

 

[bob246]

Two guys called julain and piso i think wer talkin about it on www.acne.org and well here i am.

 

[RedZone122]

Originally posted by im gonna be a dj

She was a 7...but i had never had a g.f before or any experience with any woman to speak of.

Initially i didn't care too much about her as i really couldn't give a **** about her(was a dj without knowing it)

How had you never had girl experience, but you were a DJ?

 

[Ice Cold]

Re: Re: how and what brought you to this board??

Originally posted by RedZone122
How had you never had girl experience, but you were a DJ?

Dude - whatever. Don't harass the guy.

 

[SuperMan_Wuss]

I came to this site because I was big time AFC, had serrious oneitis and didnt know how to get over it. I really liked this girl and she told me she had feelings for me but she was making out with another dude, my friend. So I wanted to either get over her or get her to want me. I found this site and realized how much of a chump I was and how she was manipulating me. I quickly did a 180 and havnt looked back.

 

[Brak86]

i was too nice to girls and i didnt kno how to speak to them....going to an all-guy school doesnt really help me either.... im a bodybuilder so as luck would have it...a guy named E-sizzle on bodybuilding.com forums introduced me to it....i still ahvent thanked him for it/....

 

[40quid]

How I got here . . .

I actually found this site via a friend of mine. However, by then, I was well on my way on remedying my AFC ways.

While a few months ago, I would always say that I was the "nice guy" who never got the girl -- and on the surface that was true. However, my biggest problem was not that I didn't attract women. It was that I didn't (1) have the self-confidence to believe that the girls would be interested in me, so that I never made a move and/or (2) would be so oblivious that I didn't even notice the obvious signs that girls were giving to me.

I hit bottom about a year-and-a-half ago when I met this one girl at a party. We had the coolest conversation -- it was light, fun, and intellectually stimulating at the same time. It was at a party that I wasn't even planning on going to. I was just going to show up and then meet my friends later that night. Halfway through the conversation with this girl, I got a call from my friends, so I got her number and left to meet them.

A few days later, I called her and set up a coffee date. We had the best time. We talked for hours and at the end of the night, she leaned in to kiss me. Later that week, she called me to ask me out to dinner.

And this is when everything went downhill. I started acting needy and tried to impress her because I realized that I really liked this girl. She was such a good girl and she just kept giving me chances -- we dated for almost two months after that. By the end, she didn't even want to see me.

I had this girl at 99% interest in me and managed to bring her down to zero because I was a total and complete AFC who didn't know jack about what I was doing.

This is what spurred me to improve myself. I'm slowly working on it, but I know that one day, I will be at the point where I just don't have to worry about women anymore, because I know that I can meet another one the next day.

 

[im gonna be a dj]

Re: Re: how and what brought you to this board??

Originally posted by RedZone122
How had you never had girl experience, but you were a DJ?

Because i didn't care about them..they were simply there, it is only when i started to like her and tried to impress her did i start acting needy and stuff..

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Being the 'Lover' that I am, I'm came here to help you boys become men!! And to help you distinguish and separate the hor from the woman!

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Personal study on female/male dynamics and interest inn other peoples handling and luck/lack of luck with women.

 

[Life-Trainee]

I had almost 0 communication with women because I didn't know how. Whenever I came close to a girl i'd become an AFC. I couldn't even talk to my friend's girlfriend. In the last year i've loosened up a bit and i find all sorts of reasons to talk to girls. My game needs to be polished a lot though.

 

[So Many Ways]

I stumbled on this site by accident. I found it through askmen.com message boards and then I found this site. It's a great site with plenty of tips to help guys improve their game.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

no reason to be confused, no reason for emails.... when she starts acting funny, don't hesitate to ask her what the **** is the problem? If she can't tell you what the problem is, hit the gate and don't waste your time. Tell her you enjoyed the sex and to give you a call sometime, then hit the door.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

During high school I was the worlds biggest AFC.

During my senior year of high school I went on 2 dates with a girl. She originally had very High IL in me. She passed the first date kiss test, lots of kino, etc. but her IL dropped in me in no time because of my AFC behavior.

I basically broke every rule in the DJ bible with this girl. For instance: calling her everyday, said I loved her on the second date, I tolerated her consistently flaking and cancelling get-togethers without putting my foot down. I sent her an AFC email telling her that I was angry because of the way I was being treated( never do this). Basically she began giving me the "I'm too busy to go out with you anymore" line.

I tried to figure out what I did wrong so i did a google search for "dating advice" and a link to an article on this site came up. This site showed me everything I did wrong. I wasn't being a challenge and I let her treat me like sh1t.

Remember guys, learn from my mistakes: live by the DJ rules, play by the DJ rules, die by the DJ rules.