how and what brought you to this board??

[Dirtheart]

I came to seek help winning back an ex-. It hasn't done that, but it has shown me the error of my ways. I have made so many AFC mistakes, albeit by intention, thinking this is what women want?! How wrong I have been.

I think this board has explained why I've been able to chat up women with no problem, but why most of them ran away within such a short space of time.

 

[Bombshell]

Well having gone to a christian school up through 7th grade, everyone was afc around the 2 hot girls (out of like 24) in the whole grade so i never had any examples of what girls liked. Anyway i had various crushes on girls through gradeschool and 7th grade and couldnt figure out why they didnt like me being nice to them and instead would go for the jerkish types. (I was definately an alpha male around my friends but was a complete ******* around girls) Anyway i then transfered to public school before my eigh grade year in which again i was an AFC and continued to get turned down.

Finally in the begining of 9th grade I had a huge ass crush on a hb9 cheerleader who i suprisingly had the balls to approach (i also just started lifting wieghts at this time) and i got myself shoved into the the friend zone, i listened to her problems and how she fked some 18 year old guy she had a crush on (who was a complete jerk and i think got sent to alternative school) Finnaly as i was browsing www.bodybuilders.com like i normally did i stumbled across the sex forum and read a HUGE collection of lessons in a forum posted by a PUA master by the name of SauceHead which completely changed my life and got me completely interested in becomeing a PUA and on that forum was a link to this site TADA!!!! Ever since then i have spent over 400 hours studing to become a DJ and applying it. I would have stayed on that forum but the lessons stopped and its mostly just worthless afc questions.

Well after i learned how to cause attraction i dropped all contact with the hb9 and just started being happy and confident with my newfound knowledge and my resaults from bodybuilding. Now about 6 months later (wow time went by fking fast! To bad half of that was my first LTR) Ive never looked better and have never even dreamed in most afc days of having as many HOT chicks after my ass as i do now. Being only 15 with no car and in the middle of the country i can definately say i have not had as much out of school experience i would have liked but im definately working on it. But what really scares me the most (in a good way) is how much i will have improved tword the end of high school and in college.

Not only has this stuff helped me with girls but it has also opened up my mind in many ways especially to start hanging out with more people of the male gender. I have never had problems having friends once people got to know me but now i can talk to people in different grades ive never seen in my life as if i knew them like a best friend for years, girls included. Of course there are a few little clicks (sorry cant spell) but all in all id have to say in general im the most popular guy in my grade level, and if not that then im certainly the most confident and or attractive personallity wise =) (sorry for the brag at the end but i think its good to boost your own ego somewhere sometimes since i dont go saying that to everyone in public. IM JUST HAPPY WITH THE SUCCESS =)

 

[alboh]

At the risk of sounding corny, it scares me to think what my life would be like now if I hadn't found this site.

I spent pretty much most of grade 5 through to my first year of university socially isolated. When I was a child I was extremely hyperactive (later found out this was ADHD), and while I had alot of friends early on, once self-conciousness started to set in it devastated my self esteem. Being socialized from a hyperactive perspective gave me a really twisted view on how the world worked. And the internet pretty much assured I was isolated from grade 9 (the worst year of my life) on.

So I wasn't just an AFC, I also had no social skills (I didn't even know the rules so I ended up really annoying alot of people), was underachieving in school and in life. I had no hobbies or interests. I basically sat in my room, curtains drawn, all the time. It got to the point where I even lost any hint of wanting to have more in life.

I don't remember how I found this website, I started out reading the "dating tips" on the main sosuave page, wasn't too impressed. I eventually found the forum. I read "Just Be A Man" and got totally hooked.

This site gave me confidence with girls but most importantly I have real ambition now. I still have alot of problems (grades and internet addiction) but I know I can overcome them. I've come a LONG way but I estimate I'm only 1/20th of how far I want to be.

I bump into people I knew in high school now and alot of them are like, "WHOA!! What the hell happened to you?!"

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

Long story made short

I came from a broken home, raised by my mom who was working and taking care of three kids. Although quite affectionate, she never had time to explain how to form relationships with women. The bits of advice she did give were limited to cliches:
Be nice to women
Buy women gifts

My 'birds and bees' talk came from my brother and cousins....my mom was simply too busy.

I grew up to be a tall, handsome young man. My mom kept telling me that women LOVED tall guys so much that I'd "have to beat them off with a stick." Problem was, I was a complete wuss. In high school, I had two or three crushes; I never approached, always worshipped from afar. When I did muster the courage to talk to girls I was the most incomprehensible, quivering boy you'd ever seen.

This carried on through my first year or two in college. I gained a few friends, and felt awkwardly out of place when they told stories of their girlfriends, or sexual experience. It seemed like everyone else was getting laid, and since I didn't ask anyone for advice, they assumed I was too. Night after night I'd put myself to sleep with this question:

Why can't I get a girlfriend?????

I didn't know how to get one. The simple act of approaching was foreign to me.

Nowadays, I'm a bit resentful of my mom for not showing me the way (but then again, how could she?).

I'm not sure exactly how I found this site. I'm just damn glad I did.