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[zekko]

Straight guy staff will call me man/bud/sir or sometimes “boss.” The last one is kinda weird and could possibly be condescending depending on the tone.

Or Dane Cook's favorite, "chief".

Andre the Giant supposedly called everybody boss.

 

[Crissco]

I used to called the woman of the first night babe, hun, sweetie, dork..etc, i thought i was building up a rapport by doing that..It did work but looking back not sure if it was a good idea or not lol

 

[Mike32ct]

Or Dane Cook's favorite, "chief".

Andre the Giant supposedly called everybody boss.

Yeah I got called “chief” before. Chief and boss are roughly interchangeable in this context.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

I'd like some opinions on this. You know how some women call everybody "honey", "hon", "sweetheart", "sweetie", "darling", "dear", or whatever? Most of them specifically only call men by these names. Many of them are waitresses or clerks. I'm often a little surprised that they are allowed to do this.

I'm wondering, do you know of any men who practice this sort of habit? Do you think they could get away with it? Do you think there is any benefit for a guy doing this sort of thing? Any drawbacks? I've seen obviously gay waiters do this kind of thing, but I think it's definitely more common among women. Not sure what a male version of this would be, maybe a guy who called all women "Babe" or "Toots" lol.

Just to be clear, I'm asking out of curiosity, not because I'm looking to implement this as some sort of strategy for myself. As a phenomenon, it's always fascinated me. What do you think it says about women who do this? I think it gives off a kind of a low class, low value impression, but YMMV.

Sex sells and moves products dudebro.
It's just the way it is and companies know this thus they allow it.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

n. Not sure what a male version of this would be, maybe a guy who called all women "Babe" or "Toots" lol.

A dude doing the same in restaurant would faster than he can count to one, two, three be accused of harassments and fired if he did call women that in a restaurant for example.

 

[B80]

I sometimes use boss or chief for a cheap personal amusement. Particularly amusing calling women with attitudes it.

 

[BeExcellent]

I think it’s a contextual or cultural thing. I’m also from the South. Everyone does it. Names are almost too formal.

My father (graduated law school in the 1960s) routinely called women “Love”. As in “Thank you Love,” “Love, I need this transcribed by this afternoon…” stuff like that.

He was a John Wayne type man. Called his wife “Woman” or “Love” and called his daughters and women in the law office “Love” all the time.

I know a 24 year old male bartender who does the same. Calls women “Love” all the time. He’s hot and a big manly guy too. He’s also from the South. It’s a cultural thing. So is calling people “Miss” like “How are you today Miss BE?” It’s a politeness and genteel ness that you don’t find in New England or NYC.

I call people sweetheart frequently. Men or women. Men I’m dating usually get “Love” or “Darling”, which has a charming way of rolling off the tongue.

Other terms of endearment are more specific and therefore more personal/intimate.