SandHawk said:
TeachMe: We're not a relationship forum with tips on how to fix your broken relationship and messed up principles. We are a forum that focuses mainly on approaching and banging as much girls as we can or want.
You know I agree with you most of the time (And i love Amsterdam, by the way)...but being on this site since 2002, I gotta disagree with you about that
Sosuave is not about banging lots of girls. It's about becoming the man you want to be. I'd hate for the outside world (or other members) to think that we're just telling people to stick their d**k in random holes just for the hell of it. It's like this - You want to bang 100 girls? Build yourself into the man to do it. You want to go find ONE girl who you might wanna spend your life with? Build yourself into the man to do it. Become a better man, then pursue whatever path you desire.
His situation isn't bad because he's not out banging as many girls as he can. His situation is bad because he tricked himself into believing that dating someone for 4 months without sex is acceptable. He's settling. And he doesn't want to call it settling, so he lies to himself and says that he's "taking it slow" or some crap like that.
If it was some religious or personal mission to abstain from sex, I could buy into it. But he WANTs the sex. He's feeling her up. He's trying to make moves. And after 4 months, it's still not going anywhere. So here we have a man...an adult man...who is convincing himself that 4 months of dating with no sex is normal, acceptable, and healthy.
So he wants sex. She's not giving it to him. And it's been 4 months of four-hour drives just to see the sex he's NOT getting. That is embarrassing. And he's not even here asking us how to get sex. He's asking us how to earn the girl's forgiveness for (god forbid) being sexual with her.
We cannot help you with specific problems in your relationship,
So Mr. SandHawk, my friend, I respectfully disagree. I can help him with specific problems in relationships....once he is in a relationship. But to call this
thing he's experiencing a relationship is just an embarrassment to us all. I don't want him to go out banging dozens of girls if that's not his style. But I would want him to be getting sex from the women he calls himself dating.
Two months of this from the girl down the street would be too much. Four months of it from a girl 4-hours away is a goddamn comedy.