Went on a date with a girl, which involved getting some drinks where everything seemed to go well, she was laughing, sharing stories, asking questions, etc. heavy flirting with me initiating a lot of touch but her not doing it herself (although she never stopped me or backed off), but no kissing. At the end she asked me my schedule, if I would be around, a few more personal questions and we went our separate ways.
We hung out again after that - not really a date but just a spur of the moment hang out, which lasted almost the whole day. Again she wasn't really initiating touch other than sometimes bumping into me but was okay with me being very touchy-feely. When we were leaving she didn't initiate a hug/kiss so I did, and gave her a kiss on each cheek (figuring maybe she's not really ready if she hasn't reciprocated physical contact).
After that things went down hill, she tried to make me jealous by asking another guy to come to get coffee with us, openly flirting with him and ignoring me, but when she noticed I wasn't paying attention to her games she would start coming over and bumping into me. I ended up walking away, because I figured this was game playing and not worth my time. Next time we see each other, she constantly hovers around me, stares at me, gives me some advice, etc. I ask her out a couple of days later, she says she can't because she's hanging out with a guy friend that week. I took that as a blow off and let it be or attempt at jealousy and let it be.
After that we didn't see each other for a couple of weeks, at which point she still continues to hover and stare at me, she would find her way into any conversation I was having, regardless if it was with a guy or girl throughout the whole time we were in the same place. I ignored it a bit, but then asked her out again a couple of days later (stupid move in hindsight, but hey that **** is 20/20), and she replied a couple of days later saying she's sorry she replied late but she's busy with a project at work for at least the next month, maybe more but wanted a rain check.
I told her okay, well give me a shout when you're free and we can try and set something up then ghosted on her for a couple of months, had other prospects, holidays, etc. However, I ended up bumping into her again and now she's pulling the same crap, hovering, staring at me, isolating herself from her friends to be around me, but won't say anything this time. I've tried to be cordial and say hi and ask how are you doing in an a pretty indifferent manner only to get a cold vague response then next day she would immediately start trying to get my attention (same type of crap again, lots of strong eye contact, lots of attempts to be in my proximity, or if I am having a conversation with someone she would find her way to that area) but again never initiated conversation.
The question is do I give her any attention or do I make her continue to pursue try to get my attention? What about for her birthday, do I not bother saying happy birthday to her for that as well?
We hung out again after that - not really a date but just a spur of the moment hang out, which lasted almost the whole day. Again she wasn't really initiating touch other than sometimes bumping into me but was okay with me being very touchy-feely. When we were leaving she didn't initiate a hug/kiss so I did, and gave her a kiss on each cheek (figuring maybe she's not really ready if she hasn't reciprocated physical contact).
After that things went down hill, she tried to make me jealous by asking another guy to come to get coffee with us, openly flirting with him and ignoring me, but when she noticed I wasn't paying attention to her games she would start coming over and bumping into me. I ended up walking away, because I figured this was game playing and not worth my time. Next time we see each other, she constantly hovers around me, stares at me, gives me some advice, etc. I ask her out a couple of days later, she says she can't because she's hanging out with a guy friend that week. I took that as a blow off and let it be or attempt at jealousy and let it be.
After that we didn't see each other for a couple of weeks, at which point she still continues to hover and stare at me, she would find her way into any conversation I was having, regardless if it was with a guy or girl throughout the whole time we were in the same place. I ignored it a bit, but then asked her out again a couple of days later (stupid move in hindsight, but hey that **** is 20/20), and she replied a couple of days later saying she's sorry she replied late but she's busy with a project at work for at least the next month, maybe more but wanted a rain check.
I told her okay, well give me a shout when you're free and we can try and set something up then ghosted on her for a couple of months, had other prospects, holidays, etc. However, I ended up bumping into her again and now she's pulling the same crap, hovering, staring at me, isolating herself from her friends to be around me, but won't say anything this time. I've tried to be cordial and say hi and ask how are you doing in an a pretty indifferent manner only to get a cold vague response then next day she would immediately start trying to get my attention (same type of crap again, lots of strong eye contact, lots of attempts to be in my proximity, or if I am having a conversation with someone she would find her way to that area) but again never initiated conversation.
The question is do I give her any attention or do I make her continue to pursue try to get my attention? What about for her birthday, do I not bother saying happy birthday to her for that as well?
