HELPPPPPPP am I seeing her to much already or ?

[z28andGT]

GREAT SITE GUYS, My post is this. I met a girl about 2-3 weeks ago while she was working. She had a serious boyfrined at the time but I kept hitting on her when I saw her.
One night they were having a big fight and I called right in the middle of it. I asked her to go for a drive in my new car. She said yes and I picked her up at about 10:30. She stayed with him but I guess due to me being in the picture nhe broke up with her.
WHY did she even tell him about me?
Anyways the night they broke up she called me. I picked her up 2 hours later and we have been together ever since. I have my suspicions that she may have slept with him about a week later but don't have proof.
She says the main reason they had proplems was that he was very busy with his company and didn't give her enough attention or affection. I on the other hand have done totally different.
Since the 2 weeks I have been with her I have spent every night at her house, talked on the phone all the time, stay at her house during the day when shes home, bought her a new phone, helped her with her car, and taken her out a few times to eat. I have also sent her flowers and took her food while shes working.
Basicly if I am not home sleeping "which is rare" I am with her. We have spent every day and night together for the past 2 weeks. She HATES to be alone. The prick who she was dating for 8-9 months had his own house and didn't stay there much. I have even let her drive my new Camaro to work and stuff.
Somthing that bothers me though is that it seems we are CONSTANTLY talking about this guy...............
I am doing everything in the world for this girl, spending 24/7 with her and I feel I am a better guy.
The old boyfrined in all actuallity is a nice looking guy. He has a nice house, nice cars, his own business and has the serious GQ look going on. I don't want to get screwed over by this girl but I almost feel that even though she tells me hes NOTHING like me and I am so sweet and all that she still talks about him all the time.
Am I doing all the right things here or not. I can't really do much more in the 2 weeks we have been together.

 

[z28andGT]

By the way I am 23 and she is 26 and very gorgeous. She has had alot of boyfrineds though. Should I be concerned?

 

[echo1212]

First I have to ask before anything else...are you two having sex?

 

[NewMan]

Dude - this smells of rebound.

 

[z28andGT]

Yes, The night he broke up with her it was about 6:30 she called me and I picked her up at 8:00. She was upset because this guy apparently did not give her a chance to even try and work it out.
I guess as soon as he found out I was around he told her to get lost. This guy is a total jerk. You know the type bad boy like, nice cars, house and all that. The guy can pick up probably any chick in the bar. GRRRRRRRR. We had sex 1 week ago. Thing is I have talked to a couple of people who know her and she always went for the "bad boy" guys. She is already trying to get me to grow my hair out longer for some reason. The old boyfriend had this Bon Jovi style hair with highlights. I have the normal short spiky hair. We have had sex and I can tell she knows what she is doing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She has mentioned that she is ticked because she had tried to call her ex to give him his stuff back and the dumb ass said KEEP IT and quit calling me? Someone else told me that she has probably had 8-10 boyfrineds in the past 2-3 years?

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Originally posted by z28andGT
I asked her to go for a drive in my new car. She said yes and I picked her up at about 10:30. She stayed with him but I guess due to me being in the picture nhe broke up with her.

Wow! Talk about trying so hard to impress!

Anyways the night they broke up she called me. I picked her up 2 hours later and we have been together ever since. I have my suspicions that she may have slept with him about a week later but don't have proof.
She says the main reason they had proplems was that he was very busy with his company and didn't give her enough attention or affection. I on the other hand have done totally different.

REBOUND!

Since the 2 weeks I have been with her I have spent every night at her house, talked on the phone all the time, stay at her house during the day when shes home, bought her a new phone, helped her with her car, and taken her out a few times to eat. I have also sent her flowers and took her food while shes working.
Basicly if I am not home sleeping "which is rare" I am with her. We have spent every day and night together for the past 2 weeks. She HATES to be alone. The prick who she was dating for 8-9 months had his own house and didn't stay there much. I have even let her drive my new Camaro to work and stuff.
Somthing that bothers me though is that it seems we are CONSTANTLY talking about this guy...............

And you only known her for two weeks and you are doing all of this? No wonder these broads are so spoiled! My man peep game, when a woman keeps a man name in her mouth, she's not over him.

I am doing everything in the world for this girl, spending 24/7 with her and I feel I am a better guy.
The old boyfrined in all actuallity is a nice looking guy. He has a nice house, nice cars, his own business and has the serious GQ look going on. I don't want to get screwed over by this girl but I almost feel that even though she tells me hes NOTHING like me and I am so sweet and all that she still talks about him all the time.
Am I doing all the right things here or not. I can't really do much more in the 2 weeks we have been together.

You're trying to compete with homeboy in which you cannot b/c as soon as he step back in, she's gone and you my friend would have wasted valuable time and money on a female who was never yours to begin with.

 

[z28andGT]

Why would you say that? I have done more emotionally and such for this girl than he ever did. She does talk about him alot though.
The other night when we went out to dinner she was telling me how usually on Thurday nights she would be at his house playing with him and his 6 year old daughter.

 

[echo1212]

First, why are you upset at her ex? If I found out my gf was talking to some other guy as close as u2 were, I'd kick her to the curb to. Think about it. Its direspectful to their relationship for you to be flirting with her and for her to be recipracating. I commend him for having the guts to do what he did. So many people think its ok to hang out with and flirt with other people while in a relationship. Bravo to him.

In addition, you're headed for a big heartbreak here. There is not a doubt in my mind that she is 100% heartbroken over this and is using you to help heal her wounds. I can gaurantee you that if her ex called and asked her back, she would jump at the chance in a heartbeat.

You said yourself that all she does is talk about him. Which is understandable-her heart is broke apparently. She has asked you to grow out your hair..so you can look more like him, and I'm sure shes done other things of similiar nature. Not to mention you said shes had alot of bf's recently. Sounds to me like she is not long term relationship material in the slightest.

Above and beyond all that, your the rebound guy, which NEVER work out. Your best bet is to be a friend to her by talking maybe once a week with her until she gets over this just to keep in touch. Her healing should be helped out by her family or her girlfriends..not you. By you being over there all the time and doing what your doing will never and I mean never get you in a relationship with this girl except as a friend and a shoulder to cry on. All she'll remember from your relationship is how horrible she felt due to the breakup with her ex, and shell equate those bad feelings with you. Next her now..Good luck.

 

[Eyecandie4ya]

Originally posted by z28andGT
Why would you say that? I have done more emotionally and such for this girl than he ever did. She does talk about him alot though.
The other night when we went out to dinner she was telling me how usually on Thurday nights she would be at his house playing with him and his 6 year old daughter.

You are asking for a major putdown......and you know what? Continue to do what you're doing and you will see the results because right now you are more blinded than a blindedfolded bat and only you experiencing it will make you learn or not.

 

[z28andGT]

I had asked her to stay away from the guy PERIOD. I know from a friend that he still cares about her. But he cannot get over the fact of what she did.
She told me that she still wanted to be friends with this guy? I guess she had a strong bond with his 6 year old daughter. "she is a cutie and will be a BIG HEARTBREAKER when she grows up".
She still has her picture in her T-ball outfit hanging on her fridge. Should I ask her to take it down or ? I just thought that if this guy didn't give her the stuff she needed. I have so she will NEVER want to go anywhere.
I have given this girl more attention and time in 2 weeks than that guy did in 9 MONTHS! She always told me that his famous line was. " I am not putting up with your shat because Hot Girls are a dime a dozen in this town and you can be replaced pretty quickly" WHAT KIND OF A MORON tells his girlfriend that stuff when shes giving him attitude? I could never be that way.

 

[echo1212]

Well see dude, theres a reason that she stayed with him and is so upset over this..SHE LOVED HIM. SHE WAS ATTERACTED TO HIM-IN A BIG WAY. None of this "well he didnt treat her well, I give her everything..why" crap is b.s. It doesnt matter. What matters is the attraction one feels for another. It cant be explained..it just is.

As for you? I can see that no matter what advice anyone gives you, youre going to see things through your rose colored glasses and youre gonna get burnt..bad. Your heart broken. Your gonna feel some major pain if you stay on this coarse. Which you will.

Then and only then will you come to this site and accept what we have to offer. You'll have lived and learned my friend, and that is the best teacher of all.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

dude u r a chump an AFC - read the dj bilbe

y r u trying to aid and abeit a wh@re - oh yeah "she's gorgeous" -remember those words when she is screwing the next chump in a few weeks while u r outside washing her car and picking up her clothes at the cleaners - u come to her place with flowers and chocolate in ihand i imagine and in a loud ricky ricardo spanish accent u say "HONEY - I'M HOME" and to your shock and disbelief u discover she has her next naked pimp on top of her uttering those infamous words that u spoke yourself a few weeks ago "your gorgeous" - vicious cycle - chumps - say no to hos!!!

 

[z28andGT]

DAMNNNNNNNNN I am feeling really bummed here. So you guys are saying that no matter WHAT I do for this girl and no matter HOW much time I spend with her. She may never have the same feelings toward me as she did for him?

Thanks for all the help.

 

[echo1212]

How much experience have you had with women? You seem like this may be your first real dealings with a woman of this type? Am I wrong?

 

[b's nuts]

Don't you feel like you are buying her attention rather than having her want to give it to you? How many times does she call you, or do you always call her? You bought her a phone? Can't she get her own? Buddy, sounds like she is taking you for a ride, and I would jump ship as soon as possible. Your showering her with gifts. Any mother fvcken guy on the street can offer her the things you are offering her. Are you even sleeping with this chick?

 

[z28andGT]

I am 23 and she is 26. I have had 3 serious girlfriends and have only been with 3 girls sexually my whole life. All long term. The funny thing is that all 3 went to someone else while we were together. Yeah I am a nice guy and would do anything for a girl. Thats why I can't understand how someone could fall for a guy like her ex.
We all go to the same club to dance and stuff and I heard from a friend that he says he will no longer go to that club because he doesnt want to sit and watch us together. I seriously doubt this because he obviously didn't give a crap about her when he was with her so why would he care now.

 

[z28andGT]

Yes we are sleeping together. AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. I have been getting it everyday we are together. Her ex chump would only bang her 2-3 times a week at MOST so the guy must have a freaking problem as she is HOT. Maybe he was gay.?

 

[z28andGT]

As for the phone I knew her and her ex had 2 together so I bought her one so that she wouldn't have to even see this guy to get her phone and all that stuff back.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

"did u say u''ve done more for this girl - emotionally"- i thought i read that right - u r her emotional tampon!

change the title of this thread to "help she is playing me too much and i like it"

do not approach another girl until you read everything on this site TWICE!!!!

u r doing all the wrong things so well!!!

 

[Samim]

Wow. You are so AFC it hurts.

As far as I can tell, you've done nothing right in this relationship. She'll break up with you soon enough. And once you're recovered and done crying your "nice guy" hear out, I suggest reading the DJbible and Allen Thompson's articles on the main page.

Live and learn.