First off, others have said it and so will I:
You are a very lucky person, you know your flaws. Once you have a problem, its time to remove them. So let’s get started one by one.
1)Shyness
You know you are probably more comfortable not talking to strangers as you have been in this frame of mind. It’s your security blanket. Ditch it. Shyness is more on confidence, so more you go out, more you start talking, and less shy you will be. “You don’t even try to make conversation with anyone” why so???? Go out and talk. Just do it. What’s the worse that can happen? On the extreme, you may probably have some big bozo guy come up to you, hold you by the collar and ask “Hey, how dare you talk to my chick?” Trust me that won’t happen. (Not if you do it the right way , lol). Practice making small talk, say at school, to the person right next to you “Damn a lot of homework today” you know stuff like that. I could tell you so much about just inner game, but I’ll just leave it at this: Practice talking, expand your social circle, make one new acquaintance a day, slowly and steadily, it will all disappear.
2)Conversation
As far as being thought of as boring, well you can change your thought. Realize it’s only to do with you. Only you have this thought, nobody else.
As far as experience and ideas go, well be interesting. How to be interesting? Watch a new cool movie, go get a hobby, listen to some cool music etc. The more you do this , the more tuned in you will be , and later on when people talk , you will be able to do relate to the idea , give your own into the knowledge pool , and basically have fun. You know, in a group, don’t even think people perceive you as a dud. Jus don’t. Go along with the flow. If you can’t add something, listen, maybe you’ll be able to use it somewhere else. Ask something if you don’t understand, go ahead, it doesn’t make you boring; on the contrary a good listener is always welcome. A person is only as boring and a dud if you do nothing but sitting at home all day. So just don’t be alone where you can be social. It’s uncomfortable at first, but you’ll get a hang of it soon.
3)Appearance
Well look, there’s nothing you can do about your face, or the way god made it. However, you can maintain it : get a good hair cut, go look up some fashion magazines or plow online, you will get an idea of latest trends in clothing and accessories are.
More than that , if your shirts are dusty , well wash them more , if your shoes are dirty , wash them also get a cool pair for yourself.(side note: you can also ask a girl if she could accompany you to the shop , girls are more clued in too.)
Listen dude, if you’ve always been like that doesn’t mean you can’t change it. You can and you better. You just need to get up and get going.
A final word on appearance: Google up “Neil Strauss” and look for the entry on wikipedia. You’ll know even though he is average looking, he can pull up all the hot chicks and read his book "
the game" its a gret read on how one can transform oneself.
4)Laziness
Well if you’re lazy then you gotta break out of this negative cycle. Start doing more positive things, get a hobby, and play a sport, in short get a life. You’ll slowly start being more active. An empty mind is a devils workshop, so never be lazy. Negative cycles have to be broken, and you better start doing them NOW.
Things don’t happen, you better make them happen. No wizard is going to change you overnight, you better do that yourself. To quote Michelangelo,"Trifles make perfection, but perfection is no trifle"
5) Girls
Enough said, just go out, be more social, be better every passing day.
Concluding remarks:
It takes time to reach the zenith, but you do slowly and steadily. Be more active , be more social , as a drill make it a point to talk to five girls a day , no matter what , even if that means going out of your way, don’t wait for your friends to be beside you , you want her , not they.
Every time you do something better and improve a bit, beat your chest a little. Most people are slaves to their fears, you aint no more, you’ve improved. Most guys will get over their fears in context , like playing better or being more studious , but lets see those guys walk up to a girl or worse to a group of girls and get them to a date.
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PS: The following articles are recommended reads, if you haven’t read them already
http://sosuave.com/articles/goodmen.htm
http://sosuave.com/rondavid/succeed39.htm
http://sosuave.com/articles/whynot.htm
And look over the DJ Bible and Don Juan Boot Camp
Till the next time: Keep talking . Ciao
