Help! I'm paranoid and care way too much about what others are thinking about me!

[dirtyvibe]

viper, i used to be worse than you. i would be scared to play a 1v1 in strategy games because if i lost, the other player might think im a bad player.. so i played team games so that the other people wouldnt know who was bad, me or my team mate =\ . how did i get the confidence i have now? first, i broke all my computer game cds in half and deleted all the games off my hard drive. luckily, my tv broke so i couldnt just play video games.

then, i tried the dj boot camp a few times but i couldnt find hte time to do it/ was too nervous.

so, i gradually just started talking to people, and now im more socially confident than 99% of people and nonpuas are amazed that i can just go sit at random tables and talk to girls, pick up girls at malls, be the center of conversations like i am, etc.

i too had problems with my voice. it was so deep people couldnt understand me. i worked on projection a little, but mostly i just tried to talk slower to project confidence and now i have no problem with it.

i also had issues about height. then i came to realize that height doesnt matter. even girls that say they wont take shorter guys dont know what theyre talking about; if you can display confidence, w/e it wont matter. im only 5'8, though i do look pretty good, have a bad natural voice and had major confidence issues surpassing even what you have, but i managed to turn it arround and become who i am today and im a lot happier for it.

what you lack, viper, is will power. no one can give that to you. that is something you have to develop yourself. other people are giving you advice like just snap out of it, etc. it seems you arent capable of doing that. i suggest giving ac/dc a call since hes offering it (i never did that, but he sounds like a genuine guy) and moving your confidence in baby steps.

good luck man

 

[Viper]

VIPER. I hope you've ****ing learned something. Nearly everyone who has wanted to help, and has had full capability of helping you has given up on you.

You are using this place as your own journal, and people are ripping on your entries. START YOUR OWN JOURNAL SOMEWHERE ELSE, WHERE NO ONE CAN READ IT...IT WILL BE FAR MORE PRODUCTIVE.

I'LL SAY THAT AGAIN BECAUSE IT'S IMPORTANT...YOU WILL NOT FIND ANY ADVICE BY POSTING HERE. START YOUR OWN JOURNAL SOMEWHERE ELSE WHERE NO ONE CAN READ IT...IT WILL BE FAR MORE PRODUCTIVE.

You complain about how terrible the advice is, how stupid the people are, the best thing for you to do is LEAVE. I'm serious. If you are SINCERELY looking for advice, you will NOT find it from anyone here anymore, because you don't think that any of it is legit, and you refuse to take any of the advice anyway. If you seriously think that everyone is wrong, then YOU CAN ONLY SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS YOURSELF. If you can dish out the insults, you obviously think that you're better than everyone else (and if you think that I'm a dumbass for saying this, you're only proving me right), and you can handle your own problems.

Were is this complaining bullsh*t coming from? Honestly, I've done it in past threads, but I personally think your just grabbing it out of your ass this time around. If your attempt was getting me to leave, forget it, buddy, no one's asking you to read my topics, you got a problem, simply don't view them.

Originally posted by sjchris
Viper
Posts: 397

sjchris
Posts: 13

You're right, I don't have a life like YOU do.

Haha, wow, the fact that I spend a few MINUTES posting here a couple of times a day, really tells about MY LIFE. Sorry try again buddy, next time, try to use actual evidence.

 

[Soupar]

Stop acting so offended, everything you've been told here is the truth. Dirtyvibe just gave you good advice, you should be concentrating on that other than trying to get revenge on people who offended you OVER THE INTERNET. This is really pathetic, and if you're truly not a troll and want to learn, it'd be best for you to shut the **** up for awhile and go study the bible.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by Soupar
Stop acting so offended, everything you've been told here is the truth. Dirtyvibe just gave you good advice, you should be concentrating on that other than trying to get revenge on people who offended you OVER THE INTERNET. This is really pathetic, and if you're truly not a troll and want to learn, it'd be best for you to shut the **** up for awhile and go study the bible.

Stop putting words in my mouth, who ever said it was false and me acting offended? Your acting more offended by it than me. And you people say I whine.

 

[CeAt]

Originally posted by Viper
How can I have a BAD reputation when I don't even have a reputation, period?

Viper, Then do what what I said in your school you ****ing IDIOT!

 

[DJ4Real]

accidental double post.....

 

[DJ4Real]

Originally posted by Viper
Stop putting words in my mouth, who ever said it was false and me acting offended? Your acting more offended by it than me. And you people say I whine.

And you can say that you aren't offended?:crackup:

Same bullsh*t everytime, you guys are going to go on and on for 'X' ammount of pages, about how I do this and that, people post advice, but I miss it because I'm paying attention to losers like you and oakraiderz.

and

Seriously man, I don't want to hear your BULLSH*T, if you don't F*CKING BELIEVE IT? YOU KNOW WHAT? GET THE F*CK OUT, I don't need the bullsh*t. You want to b*tch, make your own f*cking, "OH MY GODZ, RAGE AGAINST VIPER, HE IS TROLL LOL!" thread, don't do that sh*t here, asswipe.

and

And you guys call me insecure and no, your wrong, all the advice given in my old threads has NOT helped my situation.

oh I forgot one.

WOW, DID YOU EVER THINK THAT EVERYONE'S NOT LIKE YOU AS*HOLE? God, what an ignoramous.

lol, and you're not acting defensive and offended?

Are you trying to say that this is how you act when interacting normally?

If so, you need some serious anger management. No wonder you haven't any friends.

Dude I swear, you're the biggest jack a$$ on here.

You always want help, but you reject the advice. If our advice isn't good enough for you; then I guess you can stop posting your sob stories. We give dating advice; we aren't psychologists, but you need one.

Waste your time on here if you want because it's not our lives that are miserable, it's your so called "life" that is.

 

[AC/DC]

0WN3D!!!

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by CeAt
Viper, Then do what what I said in your school you ****ing IDIOT!

Welcome to 3 pages ago.

lol, and you're not acting defensive and offended?

Are you trying to say that this is how you act when interacting normally?

If so, you need some serious anger management. No wonder you haven't any friends.

Dude I swear, you're the biggest jack a$$ on here.

You always want help, but you reject the advice. If our advice isn't good enough for you; then I guess you can stop posting your sob stories. We give dating advice; we aren't psychologists, but you need one.

Waste your time on here if you want because it's not our lives that are miserable, it's your so called "life" that is.

Hah, you call me a jacka$$ yet you talk sh*t about what you don't know. I do indeed have friends, don't put me down, just because you don't. Perhaps I would actually read the advice, if I wasn't paying attention to all of your shenanigans.

 

[Kpocalypse]

Guys, just leave him alone. It's useless. He will NOT learn anything. Giving him advice is like teaching a blind retard to see.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by Kpocalypse
Guys, just leave him alone. It's useless. He will NOT learn anything. Giving him advice is like teaching a blind retard to see.

Haha, but what if it's the blind retard who's trying to give the advice? That's pretty much what its like with a few of you guys, if you would just shut the f*ck up, maybe I would concentrate on reading the advice and not thinking up a comeback.

 

[Mr. Unique]

Viper = Mr. cardio jr

 

[Viper]

Man, screw it, fine, if you guys want to be like little kids, if you SIMPLY CAN'T STOP TALKING, then you know what fine, I guess I'll just leave and teach myself to be a DJ, I certainly don't want to learn from little immature kids like you, who can't f*cking shut up. I'm tired of you f*ckers spamming my topic with this complaining and whining bullsh*t, god, you're worse than my little cousin. I'll say it once more, if you don't want to help, just get the f*ck out, I DON'T WANT TO HEAR IT, I DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR WHINING AND SH*T TALKING. That's all this sh*t has been for the last 3 pages, arguing, people talking sh*t about what they don't know, complaining, people being helpless *******s, people being hypocrytes, IF YOU DON'T WANT TO HELP, GET OUT! I'm tired of this bullsh*t.

I'LL SAY IT ONCE MORE! IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GIVE ADVICE, GET THE F*CK OUT OR DON'T F*CKING REPLY, DON'T POST THIS BULLSH*T IN MY TOPIC, GODDAMNIT, I'M TIRED OF YOUR CONSTANT B*TCHING, COMPLAINING, SPAMMING, *******RY, SH*T-TALKING AND BEING HELPLESS ASSWIPES. THIS IS WHY I CAN NEVER REPLY OR EVEN READ THE F*CKING ADVICE, MAN, I THOUGHT I WAS COMING TO SOSUAVE FORUMS, BUT APPARENTLY THIS IS *******S R' US. YOU HEAR ME, YOU WANT TO COMPLAIN ABOUT ME, GO SOMEWHERE ELSE.

Man, if I knew half of you guys in real life, I would f*cking beat your asses because your such f*cking as*holes. There are a lot of people I respect on this forum, that do give advice, but agian, there are people who are just straight *******S, who only spam, talk sh*t and don't shut up.

 

[Holland]

Viper, why are you flaming people who give you advice. And then tell them they don't have a life. Theres only one person here who doesn;t have a life and that's you.
Don't believe me? Check the opening post of this thread, I believe you wrote it.
Now, go f*cking do something about it! Not tomorrow, not in a week, not even in a minute.
RIGHT NOW! *BIATCH SLAP*

 

[Viper]

Sigh, I don't even care about what you have to say anymore, it isn't advice, I'm not listening.

 

[Holland]

Ok this is about what happens when Viper

-Viper opens thread
-people give advice
-Viper thanks and comments on it
-all is fine and happy
-Viper gets more advice
-eventually Viper gets critisism
-Viper freaks out and starts flaming everyone who critice him
-people start to get more and more annoyed by Viper cause he can't take critism
-Viper freaks out even harder and proves himself like a keyboard jockey how he approaches girls and has friends and blablablablabla more **** no one really cares about, and how he would kick everyones ass if he would meet him (while he's scared as **** of all the mean kids in school)
-end of topic
- a few days later, Viper finds himself in his same state, opens a new thread and the vicious circle starts again


You must remember one thing: "Critisism is OK, in fact it's good!"

So why are you flaming people who critice you? Why? There really is no reason for it, so stop doing it.

Now I know you also flame the people who have lost hope in you. But that's not gonna get you anywhere. Flaming is just useless. Just ignore the people who have lost hope in you.

I wish you good luck, you will need it (yep, that's critisism, you'll probably feel the urge to respond to this with something like: "how the f*ck should you now, you ignorant blablabla, you don't know **** and in real life I would kick your blablabla"

Well for now, just don't do that.


Ooow oops. Edit.

Forgot to add the advice. First thing you need to do visit this site: www.doubleyourdating.com

Read the whole site and get you're email on the newsletter, they are full of advice and great story's. Next get the E-Book Attraction Isn't a Choice. Buy it or rip it somewhere (guess just rip it since you're pretty young and don't have the money to afford the products)

 

[Viper]

Yep, there you go talking again, I pretty much predict this is going to go on for pages if someone doesn't lock this or something, hell, I might as well abandon this topic, since no one feels like giving advice.

 

[Taviii]

Maybe try to go for the fat and ugly girls.

If you cant **** them then you need advice from Giacomo Casanova or Don Juan himself, not from us.

 

[Holland]

The advice is at the botton of my post, Viper.
That stuff changed my life, so I guess it's pretty good advice too.

 

[DJ4Real]

Hah, you call me a jacka$$ yet you talk sh*t about what you don't know. I do indeed have friends, don't put me down, just because you don't. Perhaps I would actually read the advice, if I wasn't paying attention to all of your shenanigans.

:crackup: I don't have friends? lol, good one. Yes, you're a jack a$$, seriously. You need heavy counseling or something because indeed, you do live in two worlds. In one world you act all innocent, "no one will play with me," "girls make fun of me," "I'm paranoid, let me cry on shoulder" oh and "give me advice, but I won't take it." And in the other world, "You're so stupid," "Stop talking to me, how do you know I don't have any friends," and "SHUT UP YOU A$$ B!TCH, your posts F**ckin s*ck." And some how, you manage to flip the script in each world with no shame.

Talking sh!t? how am I talking sh!t about you, when you're on here posting like you're the "sh!t" and that we are some how inferior to you? :crackup: The facts are: you don't know how to interact with people and you like the drama, you are a drama w*ore, dude. Do us a favor, ask your so called "friends" about how to deal with your situation.

Unlike you, we have lives to attend to, you need to buy one.