Hello. Very interesting forum. I'll be trying to get some tips from here, there's some really good advice.
I've realised I'm rubbish at this stuff because I've always had uncomplicated un-game playing relationships, but now I find myself single and maybe in need of some skills. Especially as I'm in my early forties and a lot of the older women I may encounter may be a lot more experienced in this than me.
Problem:
Girl in her thirties, mutual friend told me she was hot for me. I got her number, gave her a call, we chatted for quite a while flirting on the phone. I take her out a couple of days later, had a pleasant time. No kissing. That was weird but ok maybe she's a slow mover. That's cool. I did try but she said she wanted to wait until the next date. Hmmmmmm.... ok I wrote it off as old fashioned and decided to give her a chance.
On that date I arrange another date with her for a few days time. She phones me very late at night the day before. Cancels. She suggest we meet up a couple of days later. So the time comes for that one and she keeps phoning saying she's going to be late, then cancels due to time running out (Whoa.... flaky if you ask me).
She again suggests we meet up the next day. She phones me the next day and makes an excuse about having to take her car to be fixed (it was a daytime date). By this time I mentally make up a "surry luv, 3 strikes and you're out - and guess what. you're out." and find myself slightly going off the boil.
Phoned her a couple of times after that. She never responded. I gave up.
She phoned me recently from her car while shopping, jabbered random crap at me about some event that had happened to her for 20 minutes then told me she would "Have to continue this later. I'll phone you tonight". And guess what. She never phoned.
I'm getting the impression I'm drifting into the friend zone by mistake. I'm not interested. I don't have time.
Questions -
1 : What do you make of this? I thin it's a case of back burner and move on personally, but then I wish she'd stop phoning me and using me as a friend for twenty minutes then blowing me out.
2 : If I want to "Politely" tell her I think she's taking the piss, and please either date me properly or go away, and explain to her that I don't go for this kind of treatment, how could I say it to not hurt her feelings? I know that sounds like a contradiction but you know what I mean.
Sorry about the long post.
I've realised I'm rubbish at this stuff because I've always had uncomplicated un-game playing relationships, but now I find myself single and maybe in need of some skills. Especially as I'm in my early forties and a lot of the older women I may encounter may be a lot more experienced in this than me.
Problem:
Girl in her thirties, mutual friend told me she was hot for me. I got her number, gave her a call, we chatted for quite a while flirting on the phone. I take her out a couple of days later, had a pleasant time. No kissing. That was weird but ok maybe she's a slow mover. That's cool. I did try but she said she wanted to wait until the next date. Hmmmmmm.... ok I wrote it off as old fashioned and decided to give her a chance.
On that date I arrange another date with her for a few days time. She phones me very late at night the day before. Cancels. She suggest we meet up a couple of days later. So the time comes for that one and she keeps phoning saying she's going to be late, then cancels due to time running out (Whoa.... flaky if you ask me).
She again suggests we meet up the next day. She phones me the next day and makes an excuse about having to take her car to be fixed (it was a daytime date). By this time I mentally make up a "surry luv, 3 strikes and you're out - and guess what. you're out." and find myself slightly going off the boil.
Phoned her a couple of times after that. She never responded. I gave up.
She phoned me recently from her car while shopping, jabbered random crap at me about some event that had happened to her for 20 minutes then told me she would "Have to continue this later. I'll phone you tonight". And guess what. She never phoned.
I'm getting the impression I'm drifting into the friend zone by mistake. I'm not interested. I don't have time.
Questions -
1 : What do you make of this? I thin it's a case of back burner and move on personally, but then I wish she'd stop phoning me and using me as a friend for twenty minutes then blowing me out.
2 : If I want to "Politely" tell her I think she's taking the piss, and please either date me properly or go away, and explain to her that I don't go for this kind of treatment, how could I say it to not hurt her feelings? I know that sounds like a contradiction but you know what I mean.
Sorry about the long post.