"Hell Hath No Fury like a Woman Scorned"

[da truth]

Wup guys. I need your advice on a some drama I'm going thru. I'm 25 years old and i was dating this woman, also 25 with a 3 year old child for two years. Everything was really great and she loved me to death and was very committed to me. She said that I was her soulmate and true love and wanted to marry me. Problem was that early in our realtionship, I was not able to commit to her or give what she wanted. She waited around as I did stupid **** to her like cheating, etc. to the point that recently she had it and broke up with me. She couldn't deal with it and is furious that now I wanna commit to her and she deosn't anymore cuz she so angry and pissed off for the **** I put her through.

She tells me that she loves me but needs time to get over the hurt and pain I put her through and needs time to heal. In doing so, she is getting revenge by being a ***** to me when I speak of "us" and throws it in my face that she is dating and sleeping with another guy as her way of getting back at me. She wishes to inflict the same amuont of pain I caused her and now feels she is in control and will do for her and that I gotta wait around tell shes ready like she did for me. She tells me its not over bet. us but that she needs time to figure out if she really wants this now.

her friend called me the other day and told me tht she still loves me to death and alhtough her acitons are questionable, this is her way of getting back at me and she talks about being with me and is hoping to heal and get over the hurt. her firend told me that she needs time alone to heal and not reminded of all the **** we been through but that she will be back but that she;s extremely angry.

We have brokeup twice in the past month becuase of this as she is intially very happy to be with me but as time goes on, her mood changes and angry comes again as she is still upset over the **** i did to her. We finally broke up for good unitl she is able to forgive me and commit to me again.

Can I get some advice or some insight as to my siutation. Should i even wait aorund or just move on for good?

 

[Hidden-Danjer]

Well if she really does like you, try this (tho I'm rather against getting back with ex's):

AVOID HER:

That's right, stay away from her, if she likes you so much let her come and find you.

I don't mean call her ever so often instead of once each day, I mean cut off all contact, make her come looking for YOU.

If she doesn't come looking then you have your real answer.

 

[BLUEox117]

Originally posted by da truth
Wup guys. I need your advice on a some drama I'm going thru. I'm 25 years old and i was dating this woman, also 25 with a 3 year old child for two years. Everything was really great and she loved me to death and was very committed to me. She said that I was her soulmate and true love and wanted to marry me. Problem was that early in our realtionship, I was not able to commit to her or give what she wanted. She waited around as I did stupid **** to her like cheating, etc. to the point that recently she had it and broke up with me. She couldn't deal with it and is furious that now I wanna commit to her and she deosn't anymore cuz she so angry and pissed off for the **** I put her through.

She tells me that she loves me but needs time to get over the hurt and pain I put her through and needs time to heal. In doing so, she is getting revenge by being a ***** to me when I speak of "us" and throws it in my face that she is dating and sleeping with another guy as her way of getting back at me. She wishes to inflict the same amuont of pain I caused her and now feels she is in control and will do for her and that I gotta wait around tell shes ready like she did for me. She tells me its not over bet. us but that she needs time to figure out if she really wants this now.

her friend called me the other day and told me tht she still loves me to death and alhtough her acitons are questionable, this is her way of getting back at me and she talks about being with me and is hoping to heal and get over the hurt. her firend told me that she needs time alone to heal and not reminded of all the **** we been through but that she will be back but that she;s extremely angry.

We have brokeup twice in the past month becuase of this as she is intially very happy to be with me but as time goes on, her mood changes and angry comes again as she is still upset over the **** i did to her. We finally broke up for good unitl she is able to forgive me and commit to me again.

Can I get some advice or some insight as to my siutation. Should i even wait aorund or just move on for good?

its pretty obvious that if u get back with her emotionally you will be owned by this woman, but dont let that stop u from a good **** sometime.

 

[cave dweller]

contact.....

Hey,

Cut off all contact with her and move on.

my 2 cents

cave dweller

 

[Wyldfire]

You violated and destroyed her trust by cheating on her. It's unlikely she'll ever get past that enough to fully trust you again. Without trust, you essentially have nothing of quality.

If you intend to cheat, you should not get into a relationship with someone else. If you feel you want to be with others, then you need to break up with your girlfriend/boyfriend first.

You should just move on from this and learn from it.

 

[MrCode]

It's not worth it, move on. She would never really forgive you anyhow, so it is better for both on you if you never get back together.

Next time be a man and don't f*ck around or at least be honest that you don't want to commit. I know it is tough because I'm in a similar situation (not wanting to commit), but no one said it was easy being a man.

 

[da truth]

Originally posted by MrCode
It's not worth it, move on. She would never really forgive you anyhow, so it is better for both on you if you never get back together.

Next time be a man and don't f*ck around or at least be honest that you don't want to commit. I know it is tough because I'm in a similar situation (not wanting to commit), but no one said it was easy being a man.

to tell you the truth, i was extremely honest with her. She knew that I dint want a relationsship but decided to stay with me. I told her that I was seeing other woman and she is now mad that she allowed herself to fall in love so deeple with me n knowing this. She knew of thia ll along but hoped thta in time, I would change and finally commit to her. She is both angry that i did it to her and that she allowed it to happen...

 

[da truth]

she is alos mad that she koows that Im her soul mate and true love and thta our realationship was wondrful except for me not able to commmit yet. I told her that I am now ready to give her my all and settle down but she is mad cuz thats what she wanted all along but can't accepot it cuz she is very angry and dispoointed.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by da truth
to tell you the truth, i was extremely honest with her. She knew that I dint want a relationsship but decided to stay with me. I told her that I was seeing other woman and she is now mad that she allowed herself to fall in love so deeple with me n knowing this. She knew of thia ll along but hoped thta in time, I would change and finally commit to her. She is both angry that i did it to her and that she allowed it to happen...

Let me guess...you decided you wanted to commit to her after she decided she wasn't happy with you anymore, broke up with you and started seeing someone else, right?

If that's the case, you especially need to just let her go because you would be committing only to keep her, not because you want or are able to do so.

 

[Ice Cold]

She said that I was her soulmate and true love and wanted to marry me.

Women are much more practical than we are.

We fall in love because "we like her"

She fell in love because you're capable of providing a roof over her house and taking care of a kid who's not yours. She said you're her soulmate and true love. Well duh... I bet she sucked you d1ck real well too, because she wanted the ring.

But naturally you just wanted to screw. You did it for 2 years with no strings attached. Good for you.

She's mad, because she wasted 2 years courting your ass and got nothing. Her market value dropped during those 2 years... face wrinkled... boobs sagged... Her options for a husband now shrinked. She'll be very mad.

And she won't sleep with you anymore, because you're not a potential husband. She understood that you didn't want to raise a cuckoo. (took her long enough)

So you're not getting any tail from that chick. If you want some, then show up with a ring and she'll fall in love with you again. I'll bet a million on that.

Cheers

 

[da truth]

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Let me guess...you decided you wanted to commit to her after she decided she wasn't happy with you anymore, broke up with you and started seeing someone else, right?

If that's the case, you especially need to just let her go because you would be committing only to keep her, not because you want or are able to do so.

thats a very good point and you are right about that but I also am in adiffernt time of my life and we already making plans to commit to her (i.e. saving money for engagment ring, etc) but apparently waited too long.

 

[da truth]

thanks for the advice. any others are greatly appreciated. Any addiotnal insiight into my situation?

 

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[Ice Cold]

What do you want to know exactly?

 

[da truth]

I was hoping to get some advice as to if anyone been in the same situation and what to make of it.

 

[MacDiddy]

Yes, I've been in this situation and I think ur gf getting her friend to call you with such pathetic excuses is just part of the mind games shes playing.

Da Truth:: you have an opportunity to come out feeling like a man in ultimate charge.

From your point of view it should be like this..
You cheated on your lady.. so what!!!! Your a high valued man, I wouldn't feel to bad about this. .
she cheated on you... this cannot be forgiven.

Committing to her will result in high levels of drama in your life..

I'd start dating other woman and take what you can get from her without compromising your DJ principles.

 

[da truth]

yeah i know she's playing games as a way to get back at me but 2 wrongs don't make a rite. Actually the friend who claled me was my boy's girl and my ex didn;t know that I spoke to her. Im give it until V-Day next month and if **** don't happen before then, im movin on for good.

 

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