"Hell Hath No Fury like a Woman Scorned"

[MacDiddy]

so u think your a dog, but its a dog eat dog world out there.
you need to get out of the mentality that you did anything wrong.

A study has been done on cheating men, and it found that women usually become more scornful when men actually admit they had an affair with the relationship 9 times out of 10 ending up in divorce. However, those that did not admit it, despite overwelming evidence beyond a reasonable doubt, actually got away with it because the female still had a glimmer of hope that her husband was innocent. their relationsip was at least repairable if it did not continue as it was to begin with.

 

[da truth]

when a girl needs space, whats does that really mean? How long is enough for space to finally move on, especially if you know she is dating other people and tryin to figure out what she wants- to be single or be in a committed relaitonship? I've made my mistakes and two wrongs don't make a right but in her mind, i screwed her over nad its payback time.

 

[MacDiddy]

When a girl needs space, it means she is not attracted to you and doesn't want to be with you anymore. It might seem like she is confused, but there is no confusion. Just guilt in letting you go. don't get the two mixed up. What she say is not what reality is.

She's made up her mind and wants a new life. Your interference will just lead to her becoming more convicted in her decision.

She will off course be greiving, coz its not easy to let go of a loved one. This is not to be confused with her still wanting you in her life. She will expect you to be there for her as her emotional punching bag, teasing and taunting you till her decision to let you go is supremely justified. Then she will feel more comfortable in excalating the tension, to the point where she can tell you to pi$$ off!!

Its funny how most break ups follow the same formula!! if it hasn't already..... it will!!!

 

[da truth]

thing is that we have been on and off for a month now and everything seemed great. We awere still hanging out, being intimate and all. Then one day she told me that although she's happy with me at times, other times she's really sad cuz she thinks of all the **** i put her through. She stated that I didn;t give her enough time to heal and thats why she has been flaky with me and not giving herself fully to e like before. She really ocnfused the **** outta me cuz one minute she's thining of moving in together and getting married and the next day she says that things are moving too fast and that she needs time to figure out what she wants.
I felel like im in limbo and tht is what is driving me crazy. it would be diffiernet if she basically told me its over but she hasn't. i did the same thing to her and i feel its her payback now to have me suffer as i did to her.
I told her that i wuldn't take her back until shes 100% sure that she wanst to be with me and last time we got back together she was 100% sure though things seemed great at first- she was still confused.

Should I even bother in calling her to say whats up and let her know Im here for eher (as she was for me when i was doing my ****) or jus let it go completely. Her explanation for everyhting now is "time will tell". I fele like I'm giving up on us and should be doing more to assure her i'm here for her.

need advice please...

 

[MacDiddy]

correct me if I'm wrong, but is it when you start loving too much and having it too good that she starts to regress into that state where she's recalling all the bad moments?

I think she is with you coz she misses you, not coz she want to grow old with you... You can't take any of her reassuring word with credibility if those words have already been contradicted by her actions. You guys are in breakup phase. Nothing is what it seems..

Anyway, all this soap opera is preventing you from actually finding someone better or more compatible, and enjoying a decent quality of life!!! And that is what its all about if you value Long Term relationships.



A DJ has no time for BS or disrespect... period

 

[da truth]

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[da truth]

Update:
For the past week, me and my ex have been communicating everyday by either phone over via the internet. Things have been cool and she says that she wants to be friends with me and wishes that we can rebuild our friendship. She has also been emailing my friends' again after not oding so for over 2 months and has apparently wrote them saying that she still loves me to death and that she has tried to forget baout me but can't because I'm her true love and misses everything about me.

Today, I asked her flat out if she was seeing someone and see admitted that she was dating the same guy from her job that I feel broke us up in November. She said that he was her man but still wanted to be fiends with me. We reminence baout the great times we shared and she knows that what we shared wasvery special. I know her very well and told her that she is dating osmeone else to try ot forget about me and thats killing her that she can't and is till thinking baout me when she is with him. She didn't repsond but knows that I'm right about that. (Earlier this year, she wanted me to allow her to date and be in "one" relationship to see if she would miss me and that will let her know about us. We stopped communicaitng soon after because she thought that I could handle that situation but I couldn't and we had a big argument about it).

I'm confused because although I still love and want to marry her, I don't want her to think that I will be there for her while she is dating someone else. In doing so, she might take her time with this guy and then in the long run, i would be suffering as i wouldn't get what i wanted. She knows that I want to commit to her and i have other motives behind being her friend. But then again, I'm afraid of losing her for good and feel that I should try to be her friend no matter what. Any advice is apprecited.

 

[johnnyrem]

QUIT BUMPING THE THREAD. You're aren't getting the point, and if you don't get it by now, you never will.

You're beating this to death when it was you that cheated on her. You really didn't care that much for her or you wouldn't have done it.

Find another chick that you care for and don't screw around on her if you love her. Clear enough?

Let it die already.

 

[MetalFortress]

^what this guy said

 

[stevera004]

Originally posted by Ice Cold
Women are much more practical than we are.

We fall in love because "we like her"

She fell in love because you're capable of providing a roof over her house and taking care of a kid who's not yours. She said you're her soulmate and true love. Well duh... I bet she sucked you d1ck real well too, because she wanted the ring.

But naturally you just wanted to screw. You did it for 2 years with no strings attached. Good for you.

She's mad, because she wasted 2 years courting your ass and got nothing. Her market value dropped during those 2 years... face wrinkled... boobs sagged... Her options for a husband now shrinked. She'll be very mad.

And she won't sleep with you anymore, because you're not a potential husband. She understood that you didn't want to raise a cuckoo. (took her long enough)

So you're not getting any tail from that chick. If you want some, then show up with a ring and she'll fall in love with you again. I'll bet a million on that.

Cheers

Woah, you *are* one Ice Cold mvutherfvcker. And completely right too.