Heard on my date

[thirdtimescharm]

You give them choices?!

Why give them so much power so early? what has she done to deserve this power sharing?!

The thing about women, you start giving them choices very early on and they turn to Mussolini (and by that I don't mean a fat bald Italian man) by getting used to the power and thrive for more.

Some guys take all this too literally. I gave her the choices of three movies that I wanted to see, so for me it was a no lose proposition. I -always- pick things that I want to do early on in the date process. Personally, I don't think letting a woman choose a movie is giving away any power, and it gives me a chance to learn something about her choices in a non-threatening way.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

Well, she did tell the truth but that is not what you wanted to hear coming from a woman who you have romantic interest on this day. She has dragged herself in the mud for the last few decades - she ain't smelling too good! Find yourself a nice virgin fresh rose whose head hasn't been damaged and whose body hasn't been dragged threw the mud!!

Rather presumptuous on your part...did it ever occur to you that I might prefer a woman who isn't one to throw their emotions on my carpet? Or that I am happy as a pig in sh1t to NOT have to go play romantic cupid to any woman on this day, and it serves my purposes just fine to keep all my plates spinning without any help from me today, where I get to go play tennis, do yoga, read and work on self-improvement.

And her body still looks pretty fine to me.

 

[iqqi]

Some guys take all this too literally. I gave her the choices of three movies that I wanted to see, so for me it was a no lose proposition. I -always- pick things that I want to do early on in the date process. Personally, I don't think letting a woman choose a movie is giving away any power, and it gives me a chance to learn something about her choices in a non-threatening way.

Lol, I agree. i can hear them screeching now, "NOOOO, how COULD you let her pick the movie!" "Now she has ALL the power!"

Get a grip. Isn't this the 25+ forum!?

 

[thirdtimescharm]

One thing to keep in mind about personality disordered women thirdtimes is that at the beginning of a relationship they will often confide something deeply personal real or imagined to their target in an effort to make you feel closer to them.

Another thing to keep in mind is that they can come across as tomboys in the sense they convey or outright tell you they get along better with men than women.

If her goal was to make me feel closer, the only way that is going to happen is when I take her pants off. :cheer:

As far as her being a tomboy, I don't that my perception of her at this point would label her specifically as "personality disordered" and I'm still not sold on labeling someone from one particular comment.

 

[Latinoman]

4 weeks...4 dates...

What about in between? Did you too keep contact with each other? I mean...emails, phone calls, IMs, Texting? If so...how frequently?

 

[Latinoman]

How old is she? Is she divorced (how many times)? Does she have children (how many)?

 

[thirdtimescharm]

"Half of every joke is the truth"

And yes, this also applies to women.

Ok, so she's half cold, heartless b1tch.

That leaves me another half I can work with.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

How old is she? Is she divorced (how many times)? Does she have children (how many)?

35, none and none.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

4 weeks...4 dates...

What about in between? Did you too keep contact with each other? I mean...emails, phone calls, IMs, Texting? If so...how frequently?

A couple of phone calls here and there, and various texts. Today's texts, for example, are starting to take on a much more sexual nature. This, I believe, is good news.

 

[Latinoman]

Four meetings and no sex...it is kind of long, IMO.

 

[thirdtimescharm]

Four meetings and no sex...it is kind of long, IMO.

No argument there, but I've got that covered from another source and I'm content to let things develop since this woman interests me.

 

[Latinoman]

I believe that when a woman refers about herself as "a horney slu_t" or "co_ck loving ho" or as a "heartless biatch"...that's a HUGE red flag. Especially very early in the dating stages.

 

[Rudra]

Latinoman, good to see you back here.

 

[mrRuckus]

So "cold heartless b1tch" texts me this morning "Happy Hallmark holiday day" which certainly cements her as someone who is not the sentimental type

"Certainly cements." Pfft!

Valentine's day is fvcking stupid. I am a sentimental type. But i choose the sentiments, not what everyone else tells me.

These are the types of conclusions women form about me, but are dead wrong because they try to play amateur psychologist.

 

[jophil28]

One thing to keep in mind about personality disordered women thirdtimes is that at the beginning of a relationship they will often confide something deeply personal real or imagined to their target in an effort to make you feel closer to them.

Yep, this one of their favorite tactics. Women PDs always play the Victim role in their 'stories' to draw out the Capt-Save-a Ho in you. If you play, she will then play harder with endless stories of how someone "done her wrong".
Boo hoo !

 

[Latinoman]

Latinoman, good to see you back here.

Same here.

 

[Bonhomme]

her: i'm a cold hearted b*tch
me: wow, that's f*cked up.

Ding, ding, we have a winner! :crackup:

 

[Scaramouche]

What about....Hmm So much for the warm nurturing sex?I'll bet Hitler had soft hearted girls like you for his personal bodyguard....Laugh and smile....

 

[Colossus]

I believe that when a woman refers about herself as "a horney slu_t" or "co_ck loving ho" or as a "heartless biatch"...that's a HUGE red flag. Especially very early in the dating stages.

As do I. There is truth in jest.

Also, 4 dates with no sexual contact is a bit long, IMO. But i dont know the situation so ill give you the benefit of the doubt.

 

[d9930380]

I agree with LMS and Joker in what they're saying that this girl is a bit ****ed up. If she was a ***** then chances are she wouldn't tell you, I think it's much more likely that it was a test looking to push you away.

She probably wants to see herself as a ***** to protect herself from getting hurt and she's giving you a warning in advance to allow herself to act this way in future.

However underneath there is probably someone very fragile and looking to be protected.

I understand why alot of people here would next someone like that but sometimes these relationships are what makes life worth living, it's a challlenge and the reward can be great too - just don't get in deep unless she does open up and even then always be on the lookout as she will periodically drop back to past behaviour.