Having my cake and eating it, thanks guys!

[ShortyBrown]

Originally posted by dietzcoi
(.)(.), Bugsy, etc.

Don't waste your time trying to convince the AFCs.

Seems like about half the posters here are either too young to understand anything or AFC. Why would anybody who suscribes to this board think that having more than one girlfriend was wrong? It is one of the major points of this board!!!

Women should not post here. We already agree that what women say and what they do are two different things. It is a tenet of the Bible. So why would you listen to what they say?

They complain about jerks and bone them constantly....

Thanks to the AFCs here I am becoming less and less AFC and more DJ so I guess we should keep the pro-marriage, pro-children, pro-Oprah, pro-raising other men's offspring group around. We need them....

Dietzcoi

If you're still trying to get ideas from how women tick from other men at your age, there aint nothin' here for you either.

Anyhow, my girls haven't met. They don't actually know the specifics of what I get up to in their absence. So they're hardly fighting over me. I give them both what they need.

They don't need to meet. They know you're seeing other women. Women are competitive, and they all wanna be the one that you like the best.

All this talk about being free and unbound by a relationship by way of casual sex is a joke. If casual sex is all about personal freedom,and equality amongst the sexes why are there so many rules to it? Why are men always dictating the terms of what goes on? (this is why I won't do phuck buddies again. I won't be dictated to.)

Again if you think all women can handle it, why the above? and why the need to spell it the phuck out to these broads? why not give women credit where it is due?

Its not petty semantics, to say " I don't want a relatonship and I am going and phucking other girls," and "I am not after a relationship, but I think you're an awesome little woman and I want to keep enjoying your company" the second is not condescending and shows that he thought enough of my maturity and intelligence to know that I should not really expect too much of him. (not that i was) plus when a simple "I am not after a relationship" escapes a man lips in my presence, I assume that he is dating other women. You'd have to be dumb not to .

On a personal note: I do not believe that polygamy is a bad thing. Whatever turns you on. But it never really works is the point I am trying to get across.

 

[MysteryWoman]

Originally posted by ShortyBrown
If you're still trying to get ideas from how women tick from other men at your age, there aint nothin' here for you either.

They don't need to meet. They know you're seeing other women. Women are competitive, and they all wanna be the one that you like the best.

All this talk about being free and unbound by a relationship by way of casual sex is a joke. If casual sex is all about personal freedom,and equality amongst the sexes why are there so many rules to it? Why are men always dictating the terms of what goes on? (this is why I won't do phuck buddies again. I won't be dictated to.)

Again if you think all women can handle it, why the above? and why the need to spell it the phuck out to these broads? why not give women credit where it is due?

Its not petty semantics, to say " I don't want a relatonship and I am going and phucking other girls," and "I am not after a relationship, but I think you're an awesome little woman and I want to keep enjoying your company" the second is not condescending and shows that he thought enough of my maturity and intelligence to know that I should not really expect too much of him. (not that i was) plus when a simple "I am not after a relationship" escapes a man lips in my presence, I assume that he is dating other women. You'd have to be dumb not to .

On a personal note: I do not believe that polygamy is a bad thing. Whatever turns you on. But it never really works is the point I am trying to get across.

He's a Gemini, what you do you expect?

 

[bugsquish]

Thanks Don Ronny

Dietzcoi I know what you mean, but if there were no differing opinions there would be no discussion!

ShortyBrown, I wasn't aware that there were rules concerning casual sex... That defies the point doesn't it? I give as much freedom as I expect. I don't think all women can handle it. But the ones that can't are the ones I wanna avoid anyhow. For now at least. I still say your differentiation is a little petty. It's irrelevant though. Check my original post babe, I actually didn't spell it out until she asked.

And polygamy, whether good or bad, is natural. As for if it works or not, ur probably right. But I'll keep trying As a little update, I nexted HB no2 today. It seems she's not so interested in a single guy. Oh the irony! Monogamous by default Hopefully not for long...

MysteryWoman, i don't get it?

 

[ShortyBrown]

Originally posted by bugsquish
Thanks Don Ronny

Dietzcoi I know what you mean, but if there were no differing opinions there would be no discussion!

ShortyBrown, I wasn't aware that there were rules concerning casual sex... That defies the point doesn't it? I give as much freedom as I expect. I don't think all women can handle it. But the ones that can't are the ones I wanna avoid anyhow. For now at least. I still say your differentiation is a little petty. It's irrelevant though. Check my original post babe, I actually didn't spell it out until she asked.

And polygamy, whether good or bad, is natural. As for if it works or not, ur probably right. But I'll keep trying As a little update, I nexted HB no2 today. It seems she's not so interested in a single guy. Oh the irony! Monogamous by default Hopefully not for long...

MysteryWoman, i don't get it?

As long as you can see the point I am trying to make. It's usually assumed by a fella that a girl can't handle the idea, and most men continue to assume that. Hence the debate. It takes a rare woman, and usually one under 25, as they'll be looking to find the experience beneficial (I did as you can see lol )

I think that the idea of Bonk Buddies illustrates the never-ending power games that men and women pull on each other well. If I find another bloke that will meet me halfway about having a casual thing instead of telling me that he'll see me when he sees me and thinking I'll just nod my head and smile, I'll think about giving it another go. But I don't think I'll find one anytime soon.

 

[Drex]

drama drama drama, that's what all the women bring to every thread they post in!

 

[dietzcoi]

Drex

You got it!

Dietzcoi

 

[Demon]

The issue is geographically-dependent.

 

[bugsquish]

Originally posted by Demon
The issue is geographically-dependent.

Why? Please elaborate Demon!

ShortyBrown I had to give you some ground there because I was thinking of a similar experience around a year ago. I was seeing two women at the same time and they knew about everything and even stayed over at my house at the same time. They even tried to get on with each other. But when it all fell apart I found out the truth behind the facade.... One of them pretty much hates me now. The moral of the story? They may act OK with it but may not actually be OK with it. But WTF, I'm honest - my conscience is clean.

Another update, HB no 2 that I NEXTed last night just sent me a text saying she was hungover and fell asleep. She's so so so so sorry and hopes I'm still talking to her. I think I'll let her speculate for a couple of days (weeks?) before I consider replying

 

[ZeeOwl]

I'm a similar situation to your bugsquish. Thought it might add an interesting bit to this thread.

I was in a LTR with my gf for 3 1/2 years. We'd been living together for the last 2 1/2. I broke up with her about 2 months ago, due to personality differences, and the relationship was too low-key for my needs. We broke up on good terms, remained friends. We still see each other occasionally (1 or 2 times per week, including sex sometimes), but I'd been clear with her that were were no longer a gf/bf couple, we were both free to see other people if we wanted to.

This Friday, I'd gone out clubbing, and at the end of the night I called her to come over (she isn't into clubbing). The next morning, she gets me talking about our peculiar situation, and the fact that we see each other on a regular basis, even though we're not a couple anymore (ended up spending most of the weekend with her). And that we therefore have a "relationship" together again. Anyways, after about an hour of discussion, her trying to corner me into making some kind of commitement and making us "exclusive" again, she gave up. It took quite a bit of artful dodging on my part, because I definitely didn't want to promise her anything, but also wanted her to want to remain available if possible. I know that she appreciates many things that I bring her (including the best sex she's ever had), she told me herself. And she's no clueless bimbo. She's 51, and a psycotherapist. So I had to do some major psycological and emotional weaving. Luckily, I have a fairly good understanding of female psychology from experience in LTRs and my AFC days. I'd often gotten good results using the therapist approach. Those skills came in really handy here.

Well I did it. She's interested in taking what I'm willing to give to her, and I didn't have to Next her. Though of course I did mention the possibility. I think I'm going to have to space our little sessions out more, to prevent this from happening again, because salvaging it was quite a bit of work. Anyways, I've got to keep some free time for improving my DJ skills, prospecting and dating too. Just some more proof that straight-up honesty can get you what you want from a woman. It's all in how you present it, and show her what's in it for her.