Having my cake and eating it, thanks guys!

[Bonhomme]

Typical attitudes

This dialogue between the gals and guys on this thread illustrates the difference between typical male and female attitudes on sex vis-a-vis commitment more clearly than anything I've seen in quite some time.

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My take:

The gal probably is trying to use sex to snare bugsquish into a committed relationship. But he was straight about his intentions, so I see no need to ***** him out for it.

He gave her a choice, and she took it.

 

[MysteryWoman]

Shorty Brown, there are women that can handle sex without emotions. And no I don't think you are prudish and friggid like some of the other guys on here do, and if you value sex as an outlet of love, well that is very good and is your decision. But calling this girl a slut is bad, you are starting to sound as bad as the most chavinistic DJs on this site.

I use to believe that women couldn't handle sex without emotions, but I now know there are lot who can. Don't believe what all women say, but watch their actions. Yes there are some women who pay gigglos, some get hurt and turn to one nightstands, prositutes (they are detached, but of course they don't enjoy it), and groupies who get a kick out of having sex with as many rock stars as possible.

Yes I still believe that more men can separate their emotions from sex than women can. But how many women end up continuing to have sex with husbands they either never loved, or fell out of love many years ago.

 

[BobbDobbs]

Actually, either ShortyBrown or MysteryWoman may be right about this girl's real feelings. There is no way to know. She did say she was alright with it. But as everyone knows, what she says and what she really feels may have nothing to do with each other.

The man was honest, though. Can't fault him for that.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by ShortyBrown
May I ask that some of you think outside the box for once? The way that I see it,this bird is so down on her self worth that she'd rather be a phuck toy than lose this guy all together. Wheres the maturity in that?

Think outside the box... is that a pun?

I don't think she's being a ****-toy... not anymore than he is... and I don't think it necessarily means she has low self worth... maybe she just agrees with him...???

I honestly can't believe the number of you (men and women) who are kidding themselves into thinking that women can have sex without forming attachments/wanting exclusivity.

WAKE UP=We can't do it. We are too emotional.We cannot phuck the same man more than a few times without getting sentimental IT CANNOT BE DONE.
I don't care what anyone says. It's simply not possible.

WAKE UP SHORTY BROWN: Speak for yourself... I think you are mad cool and post a lot of stuff I agree with... but don't think you can speak for the entire female gender... "We" can do it somtimes. "We" are not always too emotional. "We" can **** the same man more than a few times without getting sentimental. It CAN be done... Doing right now (well, okay not right now as we speak, but later tonight probably)... It IS possible... maybe it's just not possible for YOU, which is totally cool... but there are a lot of girls who it IS possible for... Whether or not bug's girl is one of them, I don't know... but don't discount the whole gender based on your opinions.

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Think outside the box... is that a pun?




"We" can **** the same man more than a few times without getting sentimental. It CAN be done... Doing right now (well, okay not right now as we speak, but later tonight probably)... It IS possible...

this makes you sound like a slut

even if i am being a hypocrite, i just dont like it when woman talk like this.

 

[Ronin I]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Having my cake and eating it, thanks guys!

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
oh what a load of wank, you forget this is about HIM , HIS improvement , HIS success.
because some chick might not be able to handle the fact "shes not being fawned over, or lied to about how special she is, is irrelevant.

you would be wise in remembering this, before regurgitating mindnumbing , mainstream AFC ingrained ways of thinking.
its bullsh!t and once again has NO place here.
either grow up and realise that the old AFCs ways are being killed off here and dont belong or go post on gurlproblems.com

I agree wholeheartedly with Mr. Boobies.

 

[MysteryWoman]

Originally posted by drixsa
this makes you sound like a slut

even if i am being a hypocrite, i just dont like it when woman talk like this.

Grow up and get used to it, this site is meant for free speech

 

[bugsquish]

LOL! Did I stir a hornet's nest? Thanks everyone for your comments. That story was pretty funny Ninja Pimp

I'm pretty sure I did the right thing. The strongest bond between us is purely sexual. She says I annoy the hell out of her being ****y etc. but she can't deny it turns her on.

We both went out to our club last night, and it was good to be able to get back to my old ways and make out with a nice selection of chicks and go home with a small collection of phone numbers. And her? She sat talking to her ex all night, and went home with him. She says she didn't screw him (just "sorting things out" ie. friendship) but I really don't care either way. Far from feeling jealous it is a relief that we're both gonna take advantage of this setup. I don't want her to think that putting up with it for my sake is gonna win me back. She always uses condoms anyhow.

She called me today and we're gonna hook up again this week. I've got the freedom now to hook up with some of these other chicks too. It should have been this way in the first place. But my skills and approaches are fine tuned to perfection now, knowing I got a couple of HB FBs on the go, cus I really AM indifferent to my success.

I guess I was still a bit of a RAFC when I got together with her. Things have turned out for the best.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by drixsa
this makes you sound like a slut

even if i am being a hypocrite, i just dont like it when woman talk like this.

Okay... first of all... are you kidding me!? After all the **** I've said on this site... you choose THAT statement to say I sound like a slut!? WOW. You can call me a slut, I don't care, been called worse. But I'm just surprised that THAT is what made you say "slut"... I mean, wouldn't it be "sluttier" if I said... "I can **** tons of guys, etc"... I said "the same guy"... I mean, not saying I'm a sainted virgin or anything, but come on... Is Bugsquish's girl a slut too?

Secondly, I'm just saying that it's not fair for ShortyBrown to talk about ALL WOMEN like we all feel exactly the same. I wouldn't dare try to speak for ALL women... and I just happen to know that there are women out there who ARE like I described. I can get emotional and sentimental etc and I do like it when there are feelings involved.. but I am also capable of handling it when there aren't.

As for the hypocrite part... how'd you like it if I said...
well I don't like it when men talk like that... (calling women "sluts")... It makes you sound like an *******. Get over it.

PS: Thanks MysteryWoman

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by drixsa
this makes you sound like a slut

even if i am being a hypocrite, i just dont like it when woman talk like this.

BLAAAAaaaaaaHHh , another deluded fool

 

[bugsquish]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
BLAAAAaaaaaaHHh , another deluded fool

Word.

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by Sexy_Malibu
Okay... first of all... are you kidding me!? After all the **** I've said on this site... you choose THAT statement to say I sound like a slut!? WOW. You can call me a slut, I don't care, been called worse. But I'm just surprised that THAT is what made you say "slut"... I mean, wouldn't it be "sluttier" if I said... "I can **** tons of guys, etc"... I said "the same guy"... I mean, not saying I'm a sainted virgin or anything, but come on... Is Bugsquish's girl a slut too?

Secondly, I'm just saying that it's not fair for ShortyBrown to talk about ALL WOMEN like we all feel exactly the same. I wouldn't dare try to speak for ALL women... and I just happen to know that there are women out there who ARE like I described. I can get emotional and sentimental etc and I do like it when there are feelings involved.. but I am also capable of handling it when there aren't.

As for the hypocrite part... how'd you like it if I said...
well I don't like it when men talk like that... (calling women "sluts")... It makes you sound like an *******. Get over it.

PS: Thanks MysteryWoman

excuse my witing skills, what i was tryin to get across was when woman talk to me like this in -real life- it is just such a turn off.

i jus think its so unnecessary from both a male and female side.

thats one of the things that i enjoy about this site b/c i can discuss what happens under the sheets without anyone in my real life getting into my business.

worse off i just think it is acting in such a low class way to brag about who you had or are going to have sex with.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

Originally posted by drixsa
excuse my witing skills, what i was tryin to get across was when woman talk to me like this in -real life- it is just such a turn off.

i jus think its so unnecessary from both a male and female side.

thats one of the things that i enjoy about this site b/c i can discuss what happens under the sheets without anyone in my real life getting into my business.

worse off i just think it is acting in such a low class way to brag about who you had or are going to have sex with.

Yeah okay I'll accept that... It is unnecessary from both a male and female side... but you didn't say that, you said women. And we're not in real life right here... we're in computer DJ land... And I wasn't trying to brag (believe me, on a site like this... it wouldn't even be bragging for me to say something like that, it would be asking to be picked on) I was just trying to make a point.

 

[Dark Nimbus]

Originally posted by ShortyBrown
THIS BIRD LIKES YOU BUG!!!She's using sex because she thinks that's how she'll get you. she's hangin' on the the vain hope that you'll see that she's the bomb and you'll fall for her. She's one of these silly broads that thinks that a man will come back time and again if she's good enough in the sack.

This sounds just like most of the poor guys who come here in the first place except most of them aren't getting the sex of course. They "like" a girl and "hang on the vain hope" that the HB will see their worth and all that crap, but how often do these girls feel sorry for the guy and cut him loose?!?

The majority of the time the guy will just get jerked around and used regardless how nice he is to the girl.

Now here we have the reverse situation where the guy is using the girl for "sex" rather then "attention" and everyone's giving him a high five. It sounds rather hypocritical, especially because it doesn't sound like this girl really is into the idea but just wants to keep him attached. She's clingy like most AFC's and is using sex as an excuse to hang on. I feel bad for her like I do for AFC's.

These are just some of my thoughts because I'm not really convinced myself that "fvck buddies" are a good idea, especially if the girl doesn't sound like she can handle it in the first place. One thing that comes to mind is the constant need to keep prying into each others sex lives or else risk getting a sexually transmitted disease without knowing it. I think it's better if you cut the girl loose and find another one to have sex with until you find the need to move on again. If your skills are really polished so well then it shouldn't even be an issue would it?

 

[bugsquish]

Originally posted by Dark Nimbus
This sounds just like most of the poor guys who come here in the first place except most of them aren't getting the sex of course. They "like" a girl and "hang on the vain hope" that the HB will see their worth and all that crap, but how often do these girls feel sorry for the guy and cut him loose?!?

The majority of the time the guy will just get jerked around and used regardless how nice he is to the girl.

Now here we have the reverse situation where the guy is using the girl for "sex" rather then "attention" and everyone's giving him a high five. It sounds rather hypocritical, especially because it doesn't sound like this girl really is into the idea but just wants to keep him attached. She's clingy like most AFC's and is using sex as an excuse to hang on. I feel bad for her like I do for AFC's.

These are just some of my thoughts because I'm not really convinced myself that "fvck buddies" are a good idea, especially if the girl doesn't sound like she can handle it in the first place. One thing that comes to mind is the constant need to keep prying into each others sex lives or else risk getting a sexually transmitted disease without knowing it. I think it's better if you cut the girl loose and find another one to have sex with until you find the need to move on again. If your skills are really polished so well then it shouldn't even be an issue would it?

Actually, I'm pretty sure she can handle it. When I was telling her what I wanted to do she barely batted an eyelid. I reckon she values her freedom as much as I do. And she is getting the best sex of her life why should she give that up? We've both been taking advantage of our freedom and we're still hooking up this week.

 

[Don Ronny]

Sweeeeet!

Fvck Buddies are the best.

Wear a condom though. In fact you might want to 2-ply that hoe since she is all liberal with that punani and whatnot.

 

[NINJA PIMP]

Not that any of you gives a rats ass, but Ninja Dude now = NINJA PIMP

I never thought I would take a nickname from someone who calls himself Crotch Sniffer. But I think this one was pretty smokin so I blazed it in caps and now I look all impressive and alpha

 

[Monkey]

Re: Re: Having my cake and eating it, thanks guys!

Originally posted by ShortyBrown
Congratulations. You found a bimbo dumb enough and without enough self worth to be your favourite slut.

so true

 

[bugsquish]

Actually, she's not my favourite slvt. It's a tie

 

[TesuqueRed]

Bugs--I don't know if this is your thread anymore--you lost it 25 posts back, I think...

Anyway--just something to think about and play with when you date HBs or anyone: pretend they know what you are about, because they probably have an idea. They wouldn't be involved with you if they didn't have a sense about it and were--to a certain extent--Ok with it.

And maybe they aren't Ok with it and either say that or convey that feeling. But they're Ok with it to a certain extent--I'm saying this based on looking at her actions because she still gave her phone number, said 'yes' to and went on a date and then even had sex.

They won't resist trying to rein you in, of course, even if they're willing to engage with you on the terms they understand you to be offering (you're a player...in this case.)

HB1's tears was the clue which got me thinking about her behavior and why she might resort to something so dramatic immediately...

If she was in fact not Ok with it meant she wouldn't interact with you.

It may be that she is both Ok and mostly not Ok with it but is working through it. I expect she'll become very not Ok with it shortly. She probably can't handle the perception of being a fvck-buddy (especially if it gets around--so no tales out of school!) Or she'll want and need to have a LTR seen by everyone she knows--her public and social perception will require it, IMO...

Interesting how she sucked you into it--yes? Or was it that you allowed yourself to be--and even did much of the work? You have an issue here to think about.

In the meantime, enjoy HB1.

I now surrender this raging, cavorting thread back to the original hijackers...I hesitate to stand in your way...