Have you guys ever spied on your girlfriends?

[garruk]

I can understand wanting to have a general idea of what your g/f is up to, but you're taking it too far.

Do you even have any time for yourself in-between checking up on her in 5-6 different ways? Do you realize that the more time and energy you spend trying to keep tabs on her, the worse you life is going to get? Not only will you inevitably see a red flag and become over-paranoid, it'll bring you into a lose-lose situation. You either a) call her out on it, in which case she'll almost definitely dump you for being such a creep, or b) you lose all the opportunity to become a better, well-rounded man by placing all your chips into this basket.

When something does come up, you'll want to have some options available to keep your mind off the matter. Don't get so wrapped up in this chick's life that you forget about your own.

Life is short man. Girls will come and go - just read a few topics and you will see guys devastated from LTR's where they were sure she was "the one." Don't let this one chick get to your head so much that you miss the big picture.

so true, i can completely understand where you are coming from and why you want to do what you are doing; i personally often have the urges to do similar things. but jcballin is right, that time is better spent on improving your own character.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

It´s like playing with fire this whole thing.

At the beginning you will feel ok with the spying as she´s under control but the only thing you can control is yourself not her. If she wants to cheat she will.

The best thing a person can do (the way I see it) is to observe her beforehand. Knowing full well in advance what kind of person she is, so you later can "offer yourself to her". If you suspect she´s the loose cannon type, impulsive or likes a lot of attention, Watch out! NO ONE will ever be enough for her, and even if you´re around her all the time she will grow bored anyway.

Confusing Love with Obsession: When Being in Love Means Being in Control

Confusing love with obsession is a great book about this whole issue: http://www.amazon.com/Confusing-Lov...=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1277662086&sr=8-1
When you´re in business do you just hire anyone? Think again. Being in the love sea is as scary as falling into a deep ocean right? So we´ve gotta learn how to swim in order not to drown.