Have you guys ever spied on your girlfriends?

[thewarrior]

OP, todays_news is right. This girl has become your obsession, someone that you spend almost every waking conscious moment thinking about, and this is why the relationship will almost certainly fail if you don't turn this around. Once you put this much emotional investment into a relationship it leads to a whole host of problems - jealousy, insecurity, lack of confidence, excessive attachment, etc.

This is besides the fact that you have severely crossed the line when it comes to respecting another persons privacy. Would you like someone to do that to you? There is absolutely no trust and it stinks of insecurity on your part.

If you don't change this, it will doom this relationship. I guarantee it.

Just out of curiosity - ever caught her looking at porn?

I do feel bad about doing this and I'm going to cut it out. As I said already, everything she has told me matches up with the electronic data. I'm going to put this to rest and trust her for the next 10 weeks that she won't be sucking some guy's **** or getting pounded. I hope she has the decency to call our relationship off and not keep saying "I love you" when she's sharing her body with someone else.

 

[Reckoning]

I spy when it comes to her Facebook activity. She gave me her password willingly without me even asking, so I think it's nothing bad when I log in to see what she's been upto in her inbox and chat history with people.

 

[Rescue Mission]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=174898

post 19, I already gave you advice, and even though you responded as if you got what I was saying, you come back here with THIS even more-so pussified thread???

You are a stupid inexperienced person, and you are going to deserve all of the heartbreak you are going to get.


Here is the post again for you, you inexperienced little child you:

thewarrior - are you ready for 100% brutal truth? I hope you take this seriously, because what I am about to say is guaranteed to be the TRUTH, and the WHOLE TRUTH about YOU, and guys LIKE YOU:

First of all, I know exactly who you are, thewarrior - you are just like every other guy who lucked out on a hot piece of azz, and because you felt like you didn't have enough game to consistently pick up quality chicks, you automatically, by AFC-logic, created a relationship OUT OF THIN AIR. As a result, now you are actually making THE RELATIONSHIP more important than YOURSELF.........as if THE RELATIONSHIP is a play that you are casting, all the tickets are sold, the main roles have been taken, and this play MUST happen, no matter what, THE RELATIONSHIP is something that you and your AFC mindset created out of thin air and made it sound important, so you can feel important.

The bottom line about relationships is, they are 100% GUARANTEED TO FAIL every time that you jump into one with the first chick who shows you high enough interest............the only way a relationship can possibly ever work, is if you were banging tons and tons of girls, and eventually you found one that made you forget about the rest in every way possible - THEN you have a chance.................find the girl first, THEN call it a relationship. This "play" that you are casting, THE RELATIONSHIP, you can have that with any chick, and the end result will always be the same - the play has a beginning and an end.

Now, I have already explained to you why you should not dare to have another relationship until you experience tons and tons of girls, let me explain to you why YOUR relationship is even worse than you think - NO ONE, NOT ANYONE, EVER TELLS THE TRUTH IN A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP.......she IS cheating, you SHOULD cheat.....mums the word and nobody finds out anything. Otherwise, a long distance relationship is basically another way of being a born-again virgin for a fixed period of time.

I know that you don't have any women interested in you, because you are SO STUCK ON YOUR GIRLFRIEND........so I want you to start improving yourself, start trying to get girls, and after you get a couple of them to hook up, and you start feeling better about yourself when it comes to being good with the ladies, you email your gf and DUMP her. Play over, the end.

 

[Rescue Mission]

also, a pvssy like yourself has ZERO chance of having a successful marriage........a successful marriage can only occur when the man is STRONG, CONFIDENT, and HAS HAD TONS AND TONS OF PRIOR EXPERIENCE WITH WOMEN.

 

[Scion]

you are just like every other guy who lucked out on a hot piece of azz

a 160 lbs girl isn't a hot piece of azz. This guy is just too pathetic. He's incredibly needy, insecure, no self-esteem and confidence. On top of that he's a creepy stalker. He fails in every way imaginable. He's no where ready for a relationship, he needs to stay single and work on his failures as a human being. You need to be secure in being alone before you deserve a girlfriend, and he clearly isn't.

 

[Rescue Mission]

a 160 lbs girl isn't a hot piece of azz. This guy is just too pathetic. He's incredibly needy, insecure, no self-esteem and confidence. On top of that he's a creepy stalker. He fails in every way imaginable. He's no where ready for a relationship, he needs to stay single and work on his failures as a human being. You need to be secure in being alone before you deserve a girlfriend, and he clearly isn't.

you're right.

If he "lucked out" on an average piece of a$$ and is acting this way, then it is even worse!

 

[phenomenom]

WTF dude you are ridiculous.

Ok I can justify spying on your girlfriend as a test before marriage. I mean do you guys watch all those annoying as sh!t freecreditreport.com commercials, especially the one where the guy gets married and lives in his parents basement cuz his girls credit was bad....


but christ guy, how long have you been with this girl, it sounds like its only been weeks. You are giving her way too much attention 3 hours on the phone? jesus.

sending her flowers? why? who died?
she thinks shes fat? dont tell her shes beautiful if you think shes got fat thighs! you dont need to tell a girl shes beautiful, you show her shes beautiful by giving her fvck eyes, pinching her azz and shoving your d!ck in her.

Funny azz reply!! :rockon:

OP, if you're on this site you're here to improve your game, confidence, and all the other manlyy stuff, I hope. So I'm challenging you to dropp all this spying sh!t on your girl and use these 3months to improve yourself. Start working on readingg her through how she's talking to you. Whether its on the phone or webcam, pay attention to if she's acting differently or saying stuff that she dont usually say. Build your intuition on trust cuz you'll for the rest of your life.

YOu cant rely on spying to find someone you can trust. You have to learn how to read people so you can separate them between who you can trust and who you cant.

Use these 3months to improve yourself in reading people, trust issue, and grow your relationship instead of sitting on your pc twitching in paranoia and following a dot on a google gps map all dayy!

 

[#1Svedwyn]

No man donts listen to this guys who is telling is a bad thing...HEY! This guys are only saying this things because they fail too much with relationships and think all girl is the bad one. The truth is you are feeling some good connection in yourself with the girl is sooo good. And more cause you do need to protect yourself just to be safe hey! I think you should keep checking on this girl but not everyday but maybe 2 times in a week. If everything is good at the end when she comes back and you guys are in love them HEY! is sooo good and is no problem to get married.

If is true you got luck getting this one then I wouldn't mess it up more because another girl is gonna be the same thing again. If this is the one and you wait is good OK! GOT IT! HEY!

 

[Rescue Mission]

No man donts listen to this guys who is telling is a bad thing...HEY! This guys are only saying this things because they fail too much with relationships and think all girl is the bad one. The truth is you are feeling some good connection in yourself with the girl is sooo good. And more cause you do need to protect yourself just to be safe hey! I think you should keep checking on this girl but not everyday but maybe 2 times in a week. If everything is good at the end when she comes back and you guys are in love them HEY! is sooo good and is no problem to get married.

If is true you got luck getting this one then I wouldn't mess it up more because another girl is gonna be the same thing again. If this is the one and you wait is good OK! GOT IT! HEY!

Can someone please ban this moronic piece of crap?

 

[MikeBrown30]

She was living with me for a bit and used my computer to check email.
Yesterday, I used Google Chrome by mistake (normally use Firefox) to check my email and her account came up (she saved the login details in the browser.
I see an email from a guy asking what she and her roommates are doing because he's tired of staying in his room.
She replied back saying "going to the store".
He replies back a little later saying "ok I'm in da room".

After I saw his first email, I called her to see what's up.
Before she left 5 days ago, we had a long discussion and decided to stay committed and not **** around when we're apart.
I asked her last night if she still feels the same and is there anything I need to know.
She says "I'm only interested in you and nothing is up".

So you lied in this thread? http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=174898

You didn't "accidently" get onto her email account, you purposely went into it. To be honest, if you are going to be insecure, just break it off with her. So then if (when) she bones someone else, you won't be as hurt, compared to if you were still "officially" together.

 

[todays_news]

Anytime I ever felt the urge to keep tabs on a girl..that was my gut telling me it was time to eject.

too true!!

 

[#1Svedwyn]

Can someone please ban this moronic piece of crap?

Ha Ha but I am already make report of sooo many of you to admin. I have big list I am collect everytime some one is making the bad one at me. Guess who new person on list is ha ha YOU!! HEY!!!!! In very soon all these american stupids be banned haha

 

[drak_ool]

I'm surprised nobody picked up on this: you consider marrying a girl who is 5 lbs heavier than you? do you have any idea what will happen to her AFTER she gets married? If wrestling in bed with King Kong every night is your idea of a happy life, then go ahead...

What you're doing is wrong for two reasons: 1) if you can't trust a girl, don't date her. It's as simple as that. If a girl wants to cheat, she can always do it. Even if it's not now, it will be in the future. will you always keep spying on her like this?

2) your own insecurities made you obsessed with this girl. This will only get worst. You need to work out on those issues instead of ignoring them and doing this stupid spying bullshyt.

 

[Chromeo]

I'm surprised nobody picked up on this: you consider marrying a girl who is 5 lbs heavier than you? do you have any idea what will happen to her AFTER she gets married? If wrestling in bed with King Kong every night is your idea of a happy life, then go ahead...

What you're doing is wrong for two reasons: 1) if you can't trust a girl, don't date her. It's as simple as that. If a girl wants to cheat, she can always do it. Even if it's not now, it will be in the future. will you always keep spying on her like this?

2) your own insecurities made you obsessed with this girl. This will only get worst. You need to work out on those issues instead of ignoring them and doing this stupid spying bullshyt.

ya I was just gonna say that, think of it like boxing, go find a girl thats in your weight division.

oh wait this girl is THE ONE i forgot.

YOU ARE BEING INSANE

Rescue_mission's got his scuba gear on and a fishing net hovering in a helicopter over your oil rig that is about to explode, cuz he knows hes about to be pickin up body parts.

Do this poor girl a favor and dump her, so she loses the weight and cuz to be honest you dont even deserve her at this point.

 

[Leporello]

I've never really considered marriage in any of my relationships, so I wans't expecting myself to be faithful (at leats in the long term) it seemed churlish to go to such lengths to make sure they wer ebeing faithful too...and so far as I know no girl I've dated has ever cheated on me.

Nowadays with Facebook, google etc. it's not easy to hide stuff. There's always a trail, even if you don't know it.

"Caesar's wife must be above suspicion!"

 

[r0cky]

I dont think anybody here is aware of the gravity of this. The OP is a psycho and half of you treat it like its not that big of an issue.
To the OP: please dude, get real psychiatric help, this is not an issue that can be solved with advice from a public forum

 

[Amazing]

Some of my friends spied on their gf's via GPS and chat logs.


one of them cheated and was afraid she would cheat back

another one just wanted to know what was up with his girl..didn't find anything.


you should have trust..but if there is a chance to do it and get away, if there are any suspicious one can easily tempt himself into it

 

[Bible_Belt]

You crazy kids and your electronic spying. You have it too easy. Back in my day, we crawled through the woods and spied the old fashioned way...and when I did, I saw her holding hands with some religious do-gooder who convinced her that sex was immoral. It took me months after that to get laid with that girl, we were almost 17 by that time.

 

[Amazing]

You crazy kids and your electronic spying. You have it too easy. Back in my day, we crawled through the woods and spied the old fashioned way...and when I did, I saw her holding hands with some religious do-gooder who convinced her that sex was immoral. It took me months after that to get laid with that girl, we were almost 17 by that time.

I suppose that's when you learned 'opportunity cost'?

 

[Semtex]

If I had the ability, I'd spy on my girlfriend...I'd spy on my siblings, my friends, my boss and most importantly my enemies. Imagine having a system/technology set up where everytime your name was brought up in a convo you'd receive an alert or an email with full transcripts of what was uttered. You will know before hand if you're getting canned, if your girl is getting porked by some other dude, or if the m'fcker down the street doesnt like your face and has sworn to do something about it the next time he sees you.

Yes, I do drugs...