Have you ever changed a girl's mind about liking you?

[forgottenDreams]

Well we spoke again and I decided to tell her that I'm going to go by what she suggested "our interests are different" and end it right there. I told her it's best because I don't want to be the guy who doesn't get the hint and push it to a point where it becomes disrespectful for the both of us.

I closed it in a civilized way and ended it for good.

But let me vent something on here please and get it out of my system:
She was the FULL package of what I look for in a girl. The short nails, the perfect face, the right body size, the hair color that I like, the dimples on her cheeks, the perfect eyebrows, the long eyelashes, the thin lips, the smell of her perfume, and way she dresses, the education level she obtained...

FvCK man!!!...why? WHY????

 

[Larry Lurex]

Why does it say "Don Juan" under your username?

 

[Valentino14]

Well we spoke again and I decided to tell her that I'm going to go by what she suggested "our interests are different" and end it right there. I told her it's best because I don't want to be the guy who doesn't get the hint and push it to a point where it becomes disrespectful for the both of us.

I closed it in a civilized way and ended it for good.

But let me vent something on here please and get it out of my system:
She was the FULL package of what I look for in a girl. The short nails, the perfect face, the right body size, the hair color that I like, the dimples on her cheeks, the perfect eyebrows, the long eyelashes, the thin lips, the smell of her perfume, and way she dresses, the education level she obtained...

FvCK man!!!...why? WHY????

Lame. Why did you even call her back? If you banged all those girls like you said this girl wouldn't even matter to you.

I don't care if you believe this or not, the number is probably higher I approximated because I lost count.
If you didn't have issues getting women yourself you would've asked "were they all quality women?" instead of questioning the number of how many I slept with.

Good luck to you.

hahaha yeah, ok.

 

[forgottenDreams]

Lame. Why did you even call her back? If you banged all those girls like you said this girl wouldn't even matter to you.

You assumed I called her back, I didn't say I did. You obviously have a very negative way of thinking, always assuming the inferior position.
Leave me alone and go fix your own problems. Why are you tracking this thread if you don't believe it, too much free time?
If you think no girl will ever matter to you then you need some help.

hahaha yeah, ok.

I feel bad for you mate, you wish everyone had it as bad as you so you feel better about your failures.

 

[floydb25]

(The following isn't meant to attack. Just real talk, and such.)

She wasn't perfect... You're just infatuated (based on LOOKS), and want what you can't have, so you make her out to be even bigger than you already did. You don't even know her... at all. Everyone puts on their very best front in the beginning.

This is why people get strung along, used, played, heart-broken, etc - then cry about it to everyone. They have their head in the clouds, focus on only the good points, rush in heart-first, etc - when the person they're pursuing is not even quality to begin with. They're simply hot, unavailable / challenging, and show only their good side. This is actually how a lot of players operate, and keep people obsessed with them.

Notice how the only "good" points you list are based on her external (fake) appearance. Has nothing at all to do with who she is - because you don't know a thing about her.

But look at the bad points you're not seeing. She's obviously stuck up, high maintenance, and has high standards; gets rid of, and loses interest in people people easily. Probably jumps from guy to guy... Like you said, it's too early to know. But she doesn't CARE - because she has too many options, and expects immediate perfection.

Even if you didn't get rejected now - you would be later. That's how it is with high class girls, and probably why you want her (ie, high value). You'd be doing most of the work, living up to her standards, praising her all along the way, watching her seek other options, never being satisfied... Blah blah entitlement bull****.

You'd soon learn how much **** you'd have to deal with, and how unpleasant she really is... You just didn't get the chance to see it. Like I said, the chase is ALWAYS better than the catch. And hot girls are VERY seldomly quality people. Especially the high class, fake barbie princesses.

Compared to most girls out there - she isn't ****. You're just focusing on the wrong qualities, and pretty much acting like a female in this situation. Since she's hot and unavailable - you view her as high quality. Actually being stuck up, rejecting you quickly, not even giving you a chance, or giving a **** if you fall off the face of the earth (and being hot) increases her value to you. Then getting caught up in the challenge, tolerating her BS, trying to change her, etc... Though it didn't go that far. Same **** with shallow girls and their bad boy bull****.

Hot + challenging + stuck up != quality.

So yea... stop acting like a teenage girl, and don't be "crushing" on chicks.

Appreciated. :cheer:

 

[forgottenDreams]

(The following isn't meant to attack. Just real talk, and such.)

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Appreciated. :cheer:

I agree with you mate. That's why I decided to tell her it's not going to work out and I'm going to take her advice that "our interests and lifestyles are very different".

Deep inside I didn't want to say those words to her but I knew it was what's best for me in the long run, and I matter to myself more than she matters to me.

Your feedback was very much appreciated

 

[JoeMarron]

My god..someone actually took the forum's advice. Gentleman this is a great day.

 

[forgottenDreams]

Just to help other members on here, here's where I went wrong with this girl:

I confused playing hard to get (being a typical girly girl) with no interest. I thought I could pursue her and put effort into it, but that doesn't work when a girl has no interest and made up her mind about you.

That sums it up folks

 

[Zarky]

She was the FULL package of what I look for in a girl. The short nails, the perfect face, the right body size, the hair color that I like, the dimples on her cheeks, the perfect eyebrows, the long eyelashes, the thin lips, the smell of her perfume, and way she dresses, the education level she obtained...

see:

Classic oneitis denial. Sure to crash and burn, if not sooner then later.

I used to confuse my interest in women with their interest in me. Very common thing to do. These days, I never allow myself to get very interested in a girl until I know (by her actions, not words) that she's interested in me.

 

[JBB84]

You're lucky you ended it now, even if deep down it wasn't what you wanted to say. What lead me to this forum was a girl I had been chasing for months, getting laid, but her being "confused" and very hot and cold the entire time. When people know, they KNOW. The guys who said their best relationships came easy were right...it happens naturally. I loved the chase and the challenge, but I was crushed in the end. She kept me around until she found someone better, and best of all, now she so desperately wants to be my friend. Lucky me ! Its straight up out of 500 Days of Summer. I implemented NC as of 2/20 and she tried to contact me once on chat. Told her I was busy working and said "later." Haven't heard from her since. Save yourself the misery.

 

[forgottenDreams]

You're lucky you ended it now, even if deep down it wasn't what you wanted to say. What lead me to this forum was a girl I had been chasing for months, getting laid, but her being "confused" and very hot and cold the entire time. When people know, they KNOW. The guys who said their best relationships came easy were right...it happens naturally. I loved the chase and the challenge, but I was crushed in the end. She kept me around until she found someone better, and best of all, now she so desperately wants to be my friend. Lucky me ! Its straight up out of 500 Days of Summer. I implemented NC as of 2/20 and she tried to contact me once on chat. Told her I was busy working and said "later." Haven't heard from her since. Save yourself the misery.

Thanks mate, I agree with the best relationships being the ones that come smooth and natural without the chase. I guess I was blinded by her beauty. Lesson learnt. I just wish someone would prosecute the fat ugly hairy feminists that keep feeding **** into girl's heads on how they should let the guy chase them.

Those ugly feminists have it so bad they want to ruin it for everyone else out there :crazy:

 

[bigneil]

I've never changed a girl's mind, but I've changed my body and then had the girl change her own mind.

As floydb and others have noted, this was about as pure a rejection as mankind has ever encountered. Only her best friends got a more honest description of her lack of feelings.

Remember, it all starts with her physical attraction to us. The rest of her behavior is just an excuse to justify WHY she reacted the way she did.