George Gordon
Banned
I haven't really posted here in awhile, but wouldn't mind a little feedback. What I mean is: how many of you find that you're "over-qualified"? you know, you have all this knowledge, but little experience? Anyway, this is were I feel I am, and just want to experiment now, because having this know-how accounts for about 10% of success while actually feeling it out and fitting your knowledge into something that works for you personally, accounts for 90%; the coordination, the timing, and intuition so to speak.
Okay . . . I read an interesting article on here (Master of the Universe), about the results from experimenting with mirroring. He said that he was sitting, waiting for his take-out food, mirroring this women the whole time. And when she was leaving she came over to him and brought up this connection she felt . . . or something along this line, I can't rememeber the name of the thread. If you read it, I hope it modivated to really just go out there and perfect your mirroring ability. At least, for me, I am discovering how important it is to establishing rapport and connection; commonality.
Now, as I said, I have been doing experiments with this just about every chance I get, both: while interacting with a person, and when a person is merely in my facinity; I am in their periphery but not interacting or looking at them. The results I am getting are phenomemonal. There is no real evidence that I can give you, but you start to feel this sensation with the person, they start to look at you differently, even with a person across the room. This, I have been doing also: mirroring someone at another table in a resturant while I am simultaneously having a conversation with a friend. And after about 5-10 minutes of mirroring, I start to notice that they start becoming responsive to me, it's like I have slowly come into their present sense of awareness.
I have also discovered that by mirroring people, my 'radar' or my awareness of what people are doing with their bodies is heightening, all without concentrating directly on their actions. In effect, I feel like I can listen to the person better, like I am thinking the same thing as them . . . maybe because we are both doing the same thing with our bodies at relatively the same time, which needs first, the mental/thought stimuli or incentive. But enough, analytical babble . . . I find that I intuitively recieve more signals than before, body language maybe. It's giving me so much power.
Important! I know exactly what I am concentrating on when I am interacting with someone, Them! fully and completely, in two ways: listening to what they say Verabally and what they are saying with their Body.
Oh! one more thing, which I had read when I did a little research on mirroring, is that a person is supposed to eventually start to mirror you back . . . which I discovered first hand- they DO! But more importantly than the truth that this does occur, is that it is a sign to you that you have established rapport.
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SO, has anyone else found similar affects when they've mirrored people? I am interested in some stories that would be of more insight into the understanding of mirroring (and matching).
-George Gordon
[This message has been edited by George Gordon (edited 10-20-2002).]
Okay . . . I read an interesting article on here (Master of the Universe), about the results from experimenting with mirroring. He said that he was sitting, waiting for his take-out food, mirroring this women the whole time. And when she was leaving she came over to him and brought up this connection she felt . . . or something along this line, I can't rememeber the name of the thread. If you read it, I hope it modivated to really just go out there and perfect your mirroring ability. At least, for me, I am discovering how important it is to establishing rapport and connection; commonality.
Now, as I said, I have been doing experiments with this just about every chance I get, both: while interacting with a person, and when a person is merely in my facinity; I am in their periphery but not interacting or looking at them. The results I am getting are phenomemonal. There is no real evidence that I can give you, but you start to feel this sensation with the person, they start to look at you differently, even with a person across the room. This, I have been doing also: mirroring someone at another table in a resturant while I am simultaneously having a conversation with a friend. And after about 5-10 minutes of mirroring, I start to notice that they start becoming responsive to me, it's like I have slowly come into their present sense of awareness.
I have also discovered that by mirroring people, my 'radar' or my awareness of what people are doing with their bodies is heightening, all without concentrating directly on their actions. In effect, I feel like I can listen to the person better, like I am thinking the same thing as them . . . maybe because we are both doing the same thing with our bodies at relatively the same time, which needs first, the mental/thought stimuli or incentive. But enough, analytical babble . . . I find that I intuitively recieve more signals than before, body language maybe. It's giving me so much power.
Important! I know exactly what I am concentrating on when I am interacting with someone, Them! fully and completely, in two ways: listening to what they say Verabally and what they are saying with their Body.
Oh! one more thing, which I had read when I did a little research on mirroring, is that a person is supposed to eventually start to mirror you back . . . which I discovered first hand- they DO! But more importantly than the truth that this does occur, is that it is a sign to you that you have established rapport.
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SO, has anyone else found similar affects when they've mirrored people? I am interested in some stories that would be of more insight into the understanding of mirroring (and matching).
-George Gordon
[This message has been edited by George Gordon (edited 10-20-2002).]
