GTS Jeff
Don Juan
Hey, I'm a long time reader, first time poster (I think).
Anyway, the DJ forums have helped me out lots. I always had the DJ in me, but the DJ forums have helped me with letting it all out.
Back in my AFC days, I always had terrible luck with women, but ever since doing the DJ thing, I've been going out with an awesome woman (who my former AFC self would have considered "out of my league") for almost 7 months. But here is where the problems arise. She always voices her concerns that "I don't care for her as much as she cares for me" and that "I'm not letting myself get wrapped up in the relationship because I am afraid to be vulnerable". This issue arises every now and then and I need to figure out a permanent solution. She also tells me that she is sometimes jealous of her friends' boyfriends (AFCs) because 'they' do more sweet things than me. Her examples are "whosoever always writes love poems and leaves romantic little notes for her" and, "they always celebrate their anniversary every month."
In my mind, these sorts of things are a bit much and the last thing I'm doing is writing love poems. All this is starting to make me wonder, have I become a jerk? Have I gone too far? I do plenty of sweet things for my girl to make her feel good, not to the point of excessiveness, but I do do special things. I know that I'm a damn good boyfriend (she has said so too) but it's like my girlfriend is begging me to be a little more AFC...
What do you guys think?
Anyway, the DJ forums have helped me out lots. I always had the DJ in me, but the DJ forums have helped me with letting it all out.
Back in my AFC days, I always had terrible luck with women, but ever since doing the DJ thing, I've been going out with an awesome woman (who my former AFC self would have considered "out of my league") for almost 7 months. But here is where the problems arise. She always voices her concerns that "I don't care for her as much as she cares for me" and that "I'm not letting myself get wrapped up in the relationship because I am afraid to be vulnerable". This issue arises every now and then and I need to figure out a permanent solution. She also tells me that she is sometimes jealous of her friends' boyfriends (AFCs) because 'they' do more sweet things than me. Her examples are "whosoever always writes love poems and leaves romantic little notes for her" and, "they always celebrate their anniversary every month."
In my mind, these sorts of things are a bit much and the last thing I'm doing is writing love poems. All this is starting to make me wonder, have I become a jerk? Have I gone too far? I do plenty of sweet things for my girl to make her feel good, not to the point of excessiveness, but I do do special things. I know that I'm a damn good boyfriend (she has said so too) but it's like my girlfriend is begging me to be a little more AFC...
What do you guys think?