hard one

[Sart]

Yeah, I hear what you are saying

Just a couple of misnomas. In Australia prostitutes who are legal are far less likely to have a disease than a girl you pick up in a bar because they are tested fortnightly and must use protection. She doesn't have a disease.

Also, in Australia pimps are illegal, not prostitutes, so we don't actually have a huge pimp problem. In other words, she didn't have a pimp.

As for me, look I am happy to have the other Australian guy give me a call and meet with him. My problem isn't looks, my problem however probably is that AFC thing. I am 6'1", 90kg, muscular, green eyes, blonde hair. ****, ALL my wifes friends say she married a "hunk". My problem is that I am an emotional wreck, I think I have too many female genes...I can empathize too easily with them.

Anyway, I also DO listen and I can see where you are coming from. Truth is, of course she would have sex with me, we already have the pathway is there and of course I could knock the boyfriend over and take her. What you are saying is - Even if I do this and was successful, I would turn her into a NON sex machine because the reality is that the problem lies with ME!

I can see that and I appreciate your honesty, as confronting as it was. It has been a wake up call to be honest.

 

[Sart]

adjunct

Sorry, regarding my post "above" I hear what you are saying. Plan A is back off and turn it into a emplyer/employee relationship. Plan B is have easy sex with her, destroy my business and have to deal with her problems AND probably turn her into my existing wife anyway because I have the problem I have.

Thanks to many of you, I do see what you are saying. Truth is, I am a pretty piss poor Don Juan, I do become their best friend etc. The hard part is changing to be frank. I can take Plan A, but I will still have the same problem. I need to change somehow, just where to start? Is there a users guide or something?

 

[bp1974]

Re: candour

Originally posted by Sart
Look, I am a stable, 37 year old businessman, relatively intelligent, actually apparently good looking, definitely strong and fit....

If you are so intelligent, why the f*ck have you invited the one person into your life who can ruin your marriage by letting your wife know how you two met?

So, thanks for your concern, I promise I wont do anything rash or stupid,

You already have done. I can't work out your reasons for doing this, unless you are in love with her, in which case it makes sense in a dumb kind of way.

I will now go back and read the rest of this incredible story and find out if my comments have come too late to do you any good.

Edit, having reead the rest of the thread: Sorry to hear that your wife has MS. That sounds like a rough situation for both of you. I still don't get why you now have a ho in your life who knows the one secret that can destroy your marriage. Unless your wife has told you explicitly that she is ok with you visiting prostitutes?? Maybe you want her to tell your wife so you have an excuse to get divorced?

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Re: thanks

Originally posted by Sart
Hi,

I dont know what an AFC is, could someone elaborate?

Okay, my wife has MS and tthat is why I have stayed around despite not having sex with her.

Also, in Australia prostitution is legal, we don't have pimps, she didn't have a pimp she was called a sole trader. When I met her she was actively trying to get out of the industry.

I guess I do look pathetic but I can take criticism, but does any of the above make a difference?

(The AFC Catholic boy in me comes out for a brief moment)

When you married her it was for "in sickness and in health" you bastard.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by Tha Realnezz
Thumbs down at,,

1.Paying for it.
2.Catching feelings for a hooker.

Doesn't get any more AFC than that. We are going to have to invent a whole new category of AFC specifically for Sart. Any suggestions?

 

[DJoystick DJango]

Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
Doesn't get any more AFC than that. We are going to have to invent a whole new category of AFC specifically for Sart. Any suggestions?

Rabbit holes are overrated !
Is it too late to take the BLUE PILL ?
- The Matrix (alternative version)

 

[Sart]

then depression set in

These are the sort of pointless, oneupmanship comments that simply show you have missed the point of the whole thread. I was hoping Clooney or Player Supreme would agree with Plan A, rather than have you three spit crap at me that I have already heard 100 times.

Try to part of the solution not the disease. Once again I can see where you are coming from but the horse has bolted. YOU try having no sex for three years. ALSO, this girl wouldn't say a word, she would have more to lose than I, and, whether you believe it or not, she isn't savvy enough in that way anyway.

My thrust above was to agree that the issue lay with ME! I need to fix ME! Where to start? Thats the hard one.

You can choose to help by giving constructive ideas or you can throw more crap at me over cyber space in a desperate attempt to make yourself feel superior to someone/anyone.

 

[NewMan]

***
These are the sort of pointless, oneupmanship comments that simply show you have missed the point of the whole thread. I was hoping Clooney or Player Supreme would agree with Plan A,
***


Why don't you read your post again?

You already know what you want to hear so go do it.

Everyone has told you already to dump this HO - and not matter what crap you spout - she is an out and out Ho - and you've fallen for her.

Why bother posting any more?

Because your not going to listen to the sound advice you've already been given.

Come back in 6 months when you've been well and truly burn't and are ready to shake off your AFC tendancies.

 

[Sart]

NewMan

With all respects Sir, I have already listened and decided to back right off, that was the point of my thread...advice! I was hoping to know where to start to change myself now.

The strong theme has been, LOOK AT YOURSELF AND FIX IT! I have complied and agreed, but what do I do now? I think there must be some way of changing my AFC ways....surely!

As for the girl, I have backed right off, made a point of not even being in the office thelast 2 days and have not returned an sms. I wont "dump her" she works for me, I simply will take my shoulder away, this will force her to rely on her boyfriend.

BUT! Where do I start, what do I read, why am I an AFC and how do I change? Just want to know where to start, is there reading material, anything?

 

[dietzcoi]

Reaad the "DJ Bible" and other posts on this site.

Find another post by an AFC similar to youu.... you will see how foolish he looks, and will be ashamed.

You just cannot see it because you are emotionally involved

Trust me WE HAVE ALL BEEN THERE! That is why we have found this site, and it has saved us from doing it again.

Read all of this site. All the advice, the bible, Doc Love, you name it. It will all help you.

DIetzcoi

 

[mrax]

I just wanted to say thanks to all who replied to this thread. I was in a similar situation - I dated a girl who might have become a prostitute after we met. It ended horribly, and I'm still in a lot of pain over it. Sart, LISTEN TO THESE PEOPLE. I only wish to God I saw this thread three months earlier.