Had a girl from a club call a guy in front of me

[zinc4]

Right after she went back to my place from the club...didn't even have sex yet..arranged to meet guy right in front of me...I grabbed her and literally threw her out into the hallway against the wall outside my door for that blatant act of disrespect... And slammed the door in her face...put these disrespect ful women in their places if they act up...

 

[Who Dares Win]

Hard to disagree about you kicking her out.

Just curious about the reason for such behaviour, I have few options.

1)Its her way to indirectly tell she is not into you and you're not getting sex so you're suppose to not even trying, some kind of emergency friendzoning where its hinter that you're gonna just entartein her till the moment comes for her to go

2)She gets an ego boost out of getting a guy to his place, wasting his time only to openly disrespect him as if she is 2 steps above in the human hierarchy, think of dominas in ancient rome movies

3)She simply does what she feels to do without genuinely understanding the situation and the implications of it due to her low sensitivity and hamster powered brain

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Well, agreed with the sentiment, but there's no point in getting aggro about it. Personally I would have just cooly and calmly said, 'It's time for you to leave now', without even seeing her out.

That being said, I have no experience of this. By the time she's back to my place, she's not really interested in using the phone or talking to other people

I do ask myself why she came back with you though.... Was there any physical escalation between you?

 

[pyros]

I think you did ok.

When a girl you barely know disrespects that much, its ok to get angry and send her to hell.

Some weeks ago I had a situation with a girl where she really disrespected me and I just left without saying a word. Now I regret it, I should have gotten upset in front of her and sent her to the curb.

Show some cojones from time to time guys. Its not afc or beta, when the situation is clearly disrespectful show you have blood in your veins.

 

[TheBossman]

I wonder if girls like that go back to their girlfriends and they all giggle about it.. like she was some sort of lion queen. Like they are trying to show some sort of feminist dominance and they all lap it up.

"So, I called Tony and set up get together right there in front of him.. he got so jealous he professed his undying love for me and flew into a rage and started crying. Finally I had enough of his childish bu11**** and left..ohhh these little boys."

 

[Vulpine]

Right after she went back to my place from the club...didn't even have sex yet..arranged to meet guy right in front of me...

Ooof... that's new... a good one, too.
Such a modern twist!


I'm having a tough time deciding if you failed her sh¡t test...

Or trumped the ƒuck out of it.:rockon:

She'll be calling. The hamster is crazy confounded at this point. "He didn't even... He just... WTF?!!! I've never... *püssy tingling*"

Keep us posted.

 

[_sideways_]

Why did she have to screw up a good thing? She was about to get dycked down...

If i was in a playful mood, i would have got on my phone and "called becky"...

 

[Thorninmyside]

I don't blame you if she was for real. If she was gaming or **** testing, I might have grabbed the phone and said "this is going on my bedside table, or out in the hallway with you. Choose!"

 

[zekko]

Just curious about the reason for such behaviour, I have few options.

I also have to wonder about why a girl would do such a thing, I'll offer a few more possibilities:

1) Make the OP jealous.
2) As a sh!t test to see how he would react.
3) Maybe the guy was just a "friend", so that makes it all okay in her eyes.
4) Maybe she has so many guys hitting on her and so many options that it doesn't occur to her that it might be inappropriate behavior. Maybe she figures everybody does it, as plate spinning behavior.
5) Maybe she was subconsciously or intentionally trying to sabotage the sex? I'm dubious about this one though, because many guys wouldn't care, and just try to bang her anyway.

 

[Skyline]

Right after she went back to my place from the club...didn't even have sex yet..arranged to meet guy right in front of me...I grabbed her and literally threw her out into the hallway against the wall outside my door for that blatant act of disrespect... And slammed the door in her face...put these disrespect ful women in their places if they act up...

I'm all for not tolerating disrespect and putting people in their place, but shoving someone out of your house/apartment without saying a word is a bit extreme. You didn't even know this chick either, I would understand if she was crazy and f*cked up some things in your life but she's just some random ass stranger. And who knows you could've grabbed the phone from her ear while grabbing her waist with the other hand pulling her closer and leaned in toward her lips then the side of her cheek and whispered : "you won't be needing that tonight..." With a smirk as you take her phone and put it in your ,or her, pocket while leaning her back somewhere.

I feel like you could have handled this situation a lot smoother, worst case scenario would have been asking her to leave.

 

[skinnyguy]

You got what you deserved my friend. Stop trying to pick up hookers from the club.

 

[thunderbolt]

sounds a bit harsh brah. i would have confronted her about it but hell its not like youre married. the guy might have been her friend. blowing a fuse isnt the answer.

 

[Leprechaun2013]

I grabbed her and literally threw her out into the hallway against the wall outside my door for that blatant act of disrespect...

Sounds like AFC rage to me. Why didn't you just laugh in her face? You're lucky she didn't get pissed off and call the cops for physical abuse. Why are you taking a girl home from a club when you posted about having a new girlfriend?

 

[zinc4]

Women are stoned in parts of the world for lesser than this...I do the same to a guy who disrespect s me...

 

[Pardner]

Women are stoned in parts of the world for lesser than this...I do the same to a guy who disrespect s me...

Lay off the booze for a while.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I went through a (very short) phase of getting hacked of with women when they did something I didn't like. I quickly realised, thanks to notification by a couple of good mates, that I was just making myself look like a bell end.

As Leprechaun said, it's pretty AFC.

 

[zinc4]

I just dont have any tolerance for disrespect any more...used to I would always let stuff slide and not deem it worth upsetting me, but lately I just can't do that....exampke...a guy who was friend ly to me at a club the other night later blatantly amogged me while I was dancing with a girl by awkwardly wrapping his arm around her waist between my stomach... she hugged me close abd chose me over him, but that blatant act of disrespect really set me off.

.I stopped dancing with her to go to speak to him after he embarrassingky walked off in defeat.....I punched him straight in the chest abd told him disrespect me again and u will regret it......he ended up apologize ing to me and admitting it was lame and he said he just felt jealous because he liked her.....used to, I would have never had done this....I have just changed recently... it could be because my dad recently passed away.... but whatever it is, I feel like I would rather die then tolerate somoobe going out of their way to trash me....I've always believed being the bigger person is best, but I think I've reached my limit of dealing with ******* s...

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I just don't have any tolerance for disrespect any more.

That's cool man. Most people herein likely share the same outlook.

I have been in that place where I get riled and aggro, trust me, it wasn't pretty. What we can do is control how we react. Getting all shouty and aggressive is tantamount to acting like a spoilt child. In my experience, most women can't stand shouting in particular.

A man stays calm and addresses the issue in a collected manner. He excises is stresses via productive outlets such as sport or working out. He is never phased enough by a woman's words nor actions to become flustered.

I give myself a 6 month rule. I will attempt to reason with someone, give them the benefit of the doubt for that long. If after that time, they are still being painful, I just walk away.

The more I read the OP, the more I'm inclined to agree with Thunderbolt. You have absolutely no idea who the guy was, and she essentially was in your place, not his.

In summary, it seems like your untethered anger caused you to lose a potential chick. And to come full circle, that's why you need to reign it in, because you're already defeating yourself.

 

[zinc4]

She was already getting her bag getting ready to meet the guy...it felt it was ridiculous she came to my place and did that...it literally happened five minutes after she arrived... a chick from los Angeles of all places... I live in a very small studio apartment here and think my place turned her off.....I wouldn't have cared if she politely made an excuse to leave but to call up a guy and arrange to meet him right in front of me felt like a slap to my face...

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

That's fair enough. She may have been trouble by the sounds of it. But you are in control of yourself, not her.

Two things:

1. There is no need to react. Just act. 'Please leave', would have sufficed.

2. Consider adjusting your taste in women.