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I think for other men it's this idea of holding out for an ideal woman, and one that ultimately just never comes along.
Yes, holding out exclusivity, not sex. But apparently we have some misterious posters who cant get laid and they cope by saying he cant find anyone up to his standards.
 

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I don't want my daughter racking up a triple-digit body count.
Your daughter is going to do whatever she feels like doing. There is zero you can do to stop it when she’s out of your home. There’s nobody else to blame but yourself if your daughter ends up in one of Amsterdam’s fishing nets. Be her role model. Take her to her ballet class. Buy her flowers when she goes to recital. Treat her mother properly. Treat the guy who cleans the bathroom at the office like he’s going to sign your paycheck and make sure she sees you do it. Be a hard worker. Stop pointing fingers at anyone but yourself.
 
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Your daughter is going to do whatever she feels like doing. There is zero you can do to stop it when she’s out of your home. There’s nobody else to blame but yourself if your daughter ends up in one of Amsterdam’s fishing nets. Be her role model. Take her to her ballet class. Buy her flowers when she goes to recital. Treat her mother properly. Treat the guy who cleans the bathroom at the office like he’s going to sign your paycheck and make sure she sees you do it. Be a hard worker. Stop pointing fingers at anyone but yourself.
Strong Dads are essential to a functional society. We can point the finger at women all we want, while we are telling men to focus on spinning plates instead of focusing on their families and self development.
 

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I'm 2 months post break up, I've fkd 3 women and man its not even worth it. Boring sex. Although I'm comparing them to my ex which was best sex of my life. So if I stop ****ing Randoms does that make me less of a man?
 

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So if I stop ****ing Randoms does that make me less of a man?
No. Quite the opposite possibly. There´s a big difference between a guy who cant get laid and one who wont.
 
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This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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Rollo, do you think “Body Count” matters?

Absolutely. And the higher, the better. I need a girl who’s DTF (down to fvck) from the jump. For guys after 50, all that pretentious bull**** about long-term commitment should melt away to sexual expediency. It’s not about experience or some contrived want for a virgin bride. It all comes down to guys who fvck and guys who don’t. If we’re talking from the perspective of evolutionary effectiveness, women (and men) with higher body counts are effectively proven commodities in a sexual economy.
If you actually believe that, why would you have sex with any woman who is NOT a prostitute? Serious question. Banging pros is much cheaper than conventional dating, especially if you are a successful guy who subscribes to the notion of time = money. And you get what you pay for, every single time.

Speaking of the "sexual economy", guys like Rollo, who worship the notch count without regard for quality are the main driving force behind male thirst and the resulting pvssy inflation.
 
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I agree. The article doesnt make sense.

Its like Samuel L Jackson recently. Not the exact words but it was something like "If you dont like The Marvels movie or you dislike Brie Larson its because you are an incel".
That doesn't make any sense. I don't like Marvel movies because I don't like super hero movies.
 

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I don't care as much as a 'notch count' but I care about emotional baggage. If a woman courts the wrong men, her notch count can be low but she can still be ruined for any type of relationship. A woman with a high libido who had lots of positive sex will most likely have a lot less emotional baggage.
That's a relevant point. High notch counts and emotional baggage are often closely related so it is more difficult to separate those variables.
 

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If you actually believe that, why would you have sex with any woman who is NOT a prostitute? Serious question. Banging pros is much cheaper than conventional dating, especially if you are a successful guy who subscribes to the notion of time = money. And you get what you pay for, every single time.

Speaking of the "sexual economy", guys like Rollo, who worship the notch count without regard for quality are the main driving force behind male thirst and the resulting pvssy inflation.
This.

It's typical male behavior to pressure one another to" be better ". But in the current dating environment it works counterproductive for most men. This eternal peer pressure forces men to be with (mostly)toxic women.

A man on a dryspell (the exact length is a vague by definition) will be frowned upon by both every man and woman. While women will be celebrated for holding out.

Meanwhile I know dudes who go to the "frau hause" every week and have a notch count of hunderds.

Another thing: I'm extremely skeptical to listen to marrried men. Although marriage is the ultimate form of having a relationship with a woman, I need receipts. Nothing convinces me that Rollo doesn't have a dead bedroom.
 

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I'm extremely skeptical to listen to marrried men. Although marriage is the ultimate form of having a relationship with a woman, I need receipts. Nothing convinces me that Rollo doesn't have a dead bedroom.
Rollo is a 55 year old male who has been married to the same woman for 27 years and in a relationship with the same woman for 28 years. His daughter is now 24-25.

Most men who have been married for 27 years and in the same relationship for 28 years have diminished amounts of sex. Many bedrooms in couples that have lasted that long are close to dead.

Rollo and his wife might be closer to being an exception than the rule. None of us on this forum will know the answer to how dead or how alive Rollo's bedroom is.

Longevity is not much of an indicator of relationship quality.
 

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A man on a dryspell (the exact length is a vague by definition) will be frowned upon by both every man and woman. While women will be celebrated for holding out.
I think most men go through at least one dry spell in their life so its nothing to frown upon imho. I dont think its the dryspell itself that is frowned upon by other men, I think what is frowned upon is when men in said dryspell b1tch about it without putting in the work to get out of the dryspell, always finding excuses and whatnot.

And women being celebrated. I guess it depends on her reasons. If she spent her Party Years riding the carousel and now that she´s in The Epiphany Phase she wants to hold out, let´s just say that is not the type of women Im celebrating.
 

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Rollo is a 55 year old male who has been married to the same woman for 27 years and in a relationship with the same woman for 28 years. His daughter is now 24-25.

Most men who have been married for 27 years and in the same relationship for 28 years have diminished amounts of sex. Many bedrooms in couples that have lasted that long are close to dead.

Rollo and his wife might be closer to being an exception than the rule. None of us on this forum will know the answer to how dead or how alive Rollo's bedroom is.

Longevity is not much of an indicator of relationship quality.
A female dating coach should be married, while a male dating coach should be a player.

I think most men go through at least one dry spell in their life so its nothing to frown upon imho. I dont think its the dryspell itself that is frowned upon by other men, I think what is frowned upon is when men in said dryspell b1tch about it without putting in the work to get out of the dryspell, always finding excuses and whatnot.

And women being celebrated. I guess it depends on her reasons. If she spent her Party Years riding the carousel and now that she´s in The Epiphany Phase she wants to hold out, let´s just say that is not the type of women Im celebrating.
The latter will be the case 99% of the times.

To stay on topic: that's the reason why most women over 30 will face men like OP. The mere fact she's relationship oriented ,single and 30+ rings some alarms. Every man who been through the trenches knows this. Most women know 2 flavors: yes or no.

Unfortunately I've learned that on a individual basis its impossible to convince women about this reality.

Lastly: a LOT has to do with the aura you ooze as a man. A 40+ y.o woman will be able to categorize you immediately.

That's why her " born again virgin" phase is as unrealistic as it is. Better of she would say: I've been a slvt but I'm changing. Lets take our time and see where things go:
 
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Rollo is a 55 year old male who has been married to the same woman for 27 years and in a relationship with the same woman for 28 years. His daughter is now 24-25.

Most men who have been married for 27 years and in the same relationship for 28 years have diminished amounts of sex. Many bedrooms in couples that have lasted that long are close to dead.

Rollo and his wife might be closer to being an exception than the rule. None of us on this forum will know the answer to how dead or how alive Rollo's bedroom is.

Longevity is not much of an indicator of relationship quality.
Is @Rollo Tomassi monogamous? A married man of 27 years with a daughter writing this article is fvcking outstanding. There’s a guy in my other thread who’s a diesel mechanic who was lamenting for years about going out with mentally disabled single moms who take medication that’s trying to give me red pill and legal advice. This is becoming a joke.

You guys realize that Rolo Tomassi is a pseudonym created in the movie LA Confidential. It’s a name a detective came up with for the criminals that all thought they could get away with it. He is the pied piper. He is wagging his balls in your collective faces.

There’s an old saying, those who can’t do, teach. I don’t see Magic Johnson writing books or videos about banging 10k chicks in his time.
 
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A female dating coach should be married, while a male dating coach should be a player.
You have a point. I think there is room for exceptions, but if most male coches were married and most female coaches were single, something would not be adding up.
 

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Are you talking about a female dating coach for women?
Not necessarily. Doesn't matter if she has male or female clients.

A woman giving relationship advice imo has nothing to do with spreading her legs for everyone. Such a woman wont get beyond" tingles and feelz". If anything she should actually teach about how to get over urges, tingles and feelz and re focus on the relationship between the two parties.

Think about the master key and the lock analogy.
 

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Not necessarily. Doesn't matter if she has male or female clients.

A woman giving relationship advice imo has nothing to do with spreading her legs for everyone. Such a woman wont get beyond" tingles and feelz". If anything she should actually teach about how to get over urges, tingles and feelz and re focus on the relationship between the two parties.

Think about the master key and the lock analogy.
Blaine Anderson and Sarah Dawn Moore have made names for themselves as female dating coaches for men.



Blaine Anderson is a married woman. I do not think Sarah Dawn Moore is a married woman.

Courtney Ryan started out her YouTube channel as a men's fashion coach but eventually her channel became mostly about dating topics. She started her channel as an unmarried woman but has since gotten married.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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