Guys, i have a major major problem....

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I typed this earlier, had to save it on a floppy disk

Hey Guys! I am very thankful that you all took the time out to really help me out, i really appreciate it, it makes me feel like people really do care and thanks a lot!

I'm at school right now at the library, i should be in Art class but i'm failing anyways, so forget it.

I've read all your posts, prolly 3 times over each, much appreciation all of your tips and thoughts really do help. I seriosuly do need to man up with her and stop taking this crap from her, and even have her make me feel like a "dog", just chasing or walking with her and she just walks off like no big deal.... seriously... wtf am i thinking.

Anyways, yeah i will listen to all of your ideas, i dont know about the part of dumping her or getting rid of her, I KNOW GUYS, i probably should, and i dont know why im continuing to let this go out longer, but then again, if i can get something out of it why not right? I wont stress so much anymore about how she treats me and all that. Although yeah, i definetly changed since she last dumped me.

In fact, I remember 5 months ago when i came to this site, i was dating my gf so far for about 3 months, i began to change, i started to apply all the "DJ techniques", and she didnt like it. She often told me ive changed, and that she didnt like it, so i felt as if maybe she was different, maybe she would accept me for who i was. WRONG!! she walked all over me, got everytyhing she wanted, i gave her the world, then she dumped me like a bomb.

So now im different, im not the normal dog to her anymore. She often complains, "I wont my old dasaniwater back", "i dont like how u are with me now".. Welll... i made hre a deal. She stop treating me like crap, then i will give her half of what i was before. But she hasnt taken my offer obviously. ]

So here we go, school begins today, oh yeah, im 18, shes 17. Anyways, school starts, i havnt seen her in 5 days, class just ended, i walk up the stairs and i meet up with her as she comes down the stairs, we both smile and say "hey", and all that, then i attempt to give her a hug and she kept walking and woldnt really let me. Maybe my fault? TRyin to hug her on the stairs, ok. i didnt let it get to me. She gets down the stairs, we walk, i tell her to give me a huh, she gives me the most lousiest hug ever, that lasts like 1 second, barely having her arm around me, and she continues to walk.. and im like "okay... now might not be a good time to try and kiss her obviously".
So here i am walking her to class, we get to the point where we both split up, she gives me another lousy hug, i try to kiss her, and she responds "eww no". I'm like wtF? OKAY yeah nothing knew, but im sick of these games. We talk on the phone, she loves me blah blah blah, but why does she treat me like crap with her actions? or out of no where?? Like we havnt been going out for 8 months. This isnt the first time either, i recall her being this way since 3rd month of our relationship, and even worse a week before she dumped me. I noticed she changed, i kept trying to force it, i did so many things for her, told her i loved her and she said she didnt care, broke my heart.

Anyways, so then she continues to walk to her class, and i yell out, "Are you seriouse??? We've been going out for 8 months, and you dont even kiss me? What kind of relationship is this???" and i walk off.

Next class period ends, she doestn come to class, i call her cell, shes having lunch with her friends, so then i join her. She completely ignores me or doesnt talk to me for the entire lunch, so i just get up and go with a friend.

Lunch ends, i catch up with her, we have next class together, she says where did you go?? And i say, "what do you mean? You left so i left" (she got up to go buy fries or somethin) Then she says "ohh, who did you go with" actin all of the sudden she cares. SHES A VERY JELOUS TYPE OF GIRL. Very controlling. This HB 8, freshman, had a huge crush on me, we use to talk and we were friends , my gf made me basically tell her to "fck off and never talk to me again", and i DID! omg. wrong move?? Well ever since, sheoften complains and complains "do you like her?? You can go with her. u know the stupid games... and im like "wtf i dont even talk to her anymore", and shse still argues to me about her a week later.

Anyways, this message is getting really big. ill try to make it fast. WE have our next class together, its like filing crap. so its just the both of us. I hint to her that i dont want to be with her anymore, and that im leaving las vegas to move to california (my only reason to stay in vegas after i grad is to be with her), and she says "oh.. thats cool".. like she was down. And i say "not like you care or anything".. well idont remembre the entire convo, but then i tried to kiss her, she refused, and i said "okay then".. but im like fck it. so i force her to give me a kiss and i kiss her 5 times on the face. well she finally lightens up to me, and then a get kisses here and there, we talk we laugh blah blah blah. last 40 minutes of the clas, she comlpetely ignores me to play tetris on her nano ipod.
I was telling her, you know, i dont think this is even going to work out. you dont act like you're even crazy about me. imagin 20 years from now how youd be if we were still together.
she says "well i dont feel like i ahve to be crazy about you, or be obsessed with you and all that"..
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i say" well you should be, its the least you can do is be sweet for once and act like you actually love me"
she says "i do love you", i say "i gotta beg you just to kiss you. hows it going to be if we get married? then id have to buy you a diamond just to kiss you in the mornings"
she says " that would be nice"..
i say " no it wouldnt, i want you to start treating me better, and actually making me feel love if you want this to work out, and if you want me to do all these things for you."
she says " no" or something like that.. :cuss:
Well anyways, i took her nano away from her for about 7 minutse, and she was basically attacking me to get it back, she wouldnt be nice to me to have it back, so after seeing how crazy she went, im like "fine, take it".
So i let her play her stupid game for the remaining of the class.

Then i go with her to class, she plays hard to get again, i walk off, she follows me, and she asks "so are we together anymore or not", i say "i dont know, it doesnt seem like youd even care".
She says " well i would if you got me something romantic than just panties (I just gave her panties like 15 minutes ago, its a gift i got hre like a month ago that i didnt plan on giving her, but i told her about it and she really wanted it)
and i say "who do you think i am, im just going to buy you a necklace something nice with the way you treat me?? forget that. (ive definetly changd and shes noticing it) So anyways, she ligtens up to me and we kiss good bye.......... ..

Sorry it's so long.. just wanted to let you know, anyways tell me, we've been together 8 months, i think it would be a great idea for me to start acting like a DJ, than just this love stuff that doesnt even matter but let me get walked over. Thanks a lot for your help


P.s,, i dont take steriods lol
 
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It seems that you take alot of **** from people. It's not right. It builds up and you explode.

Its better if you deal with it on the spot. Tell them off or whatever.

Don't take **** from anybody. And if there is a problem telling them off... there's all sorts of trick you can play to make their life hell.

I prefer the direct approach... but in some cases its better to play behind the scences and not make your presence known. Should your mark ever find what you did... better not think about it.
 
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Oh and about the rest of your thread. What the hell?

You're toying with your girl (who is not interested in you anymore) and forcing her on you? Fighting to get a kiss and a hug should scream LEAVE HER NOW!!!!!. But it appears you can't see that.

Pull your head out of your ass!

You changed. Your girl does not like that. She does not have any power left. The ***** is crazy. Leave her immediatelly or things will get much worse.



Your best option right now is to leave and change. She is halting your progress. Now if you really want her. Come back later. Stay away for a bit, mack other chicks and remake yourself. Then start the relationship all over with the new and improved you.

If you keep playing "hit and miss DJ" with your relationship you will screw it up FOREVER.

I don't see why you would want her according to your opinions of her and her actions... but meh. I only hope you can wake up and see her for what she really is. She doesn't sound all that great to be hung up on.
 

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Dude you got lots to learn my friend. Trust me life gets better after high school. Especially college girls.
 

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Update

Okay guys, pretty much the above post i was in library, but the damn internet was dodgy and wouldn't let me post, kept getting blocked.


Its 8:40 right now.

Ive been asleep all day, didnt get much sleep last night. woke up about 2 hours ago, called my GF, her sister picked up, said she was busy or something for 10 minutes, i fall back asleep, i call 20 minutes later. Her mom picks up, i ask for her. I talk to my gf.. this is how i went

Me: hey
Her: Hey..
Me: Watchu been up 2??
Her: Nothing
Me: Oh, what were u doing when i called you before?
Her: You called?
Me: Yeah, your sister said you were busy
Her: i probably was doing homework then
Me: Oh, so what esle you been up 2 today?
Her: Doing homework.... (she has this voice tone as if im like interrigating her, she drags her words in a low tone that is sweet)
Me: Oh thats all, what were you doing right now?
Her: I was doing homework... (getting more irritated)
Me: Ok, il lcall you later ur obviously not in a good mood
Her: Ok, bye
me: *click*

I dont understand these stupid mood swings she has, or was i just really pissing her off in a way i dont understand how?
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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Oh Btw. Just for your info:

She WILL break up with you. Days in fact. It WILL happen.

It would be better for your ego and your rep that you do it first.



You have been warned. There is nothing you can do about it.

Just beat her to the punch.
 

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ANSWER ME, HOW OFTEN DO YOU **** THIS GIRL???? cuz if its rarely, then please name to me ONE positive from staying with her and not dumping her ASAP....shes giving u nothin on a physical level, nothin on an emotional level, and she doesnt even talk friendly do u.....wtf?
 

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Well, we dont screw around that much because of her parents, they are VERY strict, im lucky if i can even take her out on a date. Usually if her parents are out of town she would invite me to come over and we have sex, but she often regrets it, or guilt trips during it. she always says we're not going to do that anymore, but the next time she does its like shes a totally different girl, shes a maniac nympho in bed. im her first too... but me being able to go to her house is like once a month, seeing as her brother is in town to stay for the year, i wont be able to come over for quite a while ....

I havnt touched her in ages. we were alone in a room , perfect oppertunity, but she wouldnt let me touch her.. . . I would dump her , but i mean, if i can keep her around, and get something out of it why not do it right?? I just dont understand her.. i wish she wasnt this way but she is. she hasnt always been this way, well yeah she has sort of, my fault for letting her treat me like crap for so long and disrespecting me (she hits me a lot for no reason, in the face)

but yeah, thanks a lot for your help guys, more would be appreciated.

she definetly doesnt satisfy me as a girl friend... i remember the days i use to be very lovey dovey with her, i guess she hated it... it annoyed her. but the way it is now, 0 lovey dovey, she appears as if we're not even going out.. i mean i try to hold her hand and she moves it. well the last time i tried was 2 weeks ago, i stopped, then seh started holding mine. i just wish i knew how to act with her.. i have a feeling im doing something wrong. or maybe shes just crazy. i dont know..

but anywys, i guess shes just not interested me in the level she once was.... i wish i could have her back like any guy and their ex's, of course i felt like sh was perfect for me, but lately my eyes have been getting oepened........ we'll see what happends i guess..
 

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Bro....

Walk Away From This Chick.

Obviously Your Girls IQ Is Less Than Hair.

Let Her Be Retarded With Someone Else.

Next time you guys talk tell her straight forward that her aquaintance was a pleasure till she became a dull boring unmoral b1tch. Walk Away From Her, and as much as she begs you, and calls you asking for forgiveness IGNORE it.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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DasaniWater said:
I havnt touched her in ages...
she definetly doesnt satisfy me as a girl friend...
but anywys, i guess shes just not interested me in the level she once was....

Break up with her.

If you're feeling it, she's feeling it too.

My last LTR? I realized one day my relationship wasn't going so well, so I told my buddy I was going to break up w/ my girl that weekend. She broke up w/ me that night.

DasaniWater said:
I would dump her , but i mean, if i can keep her around, and get something out of it why not do it right??
She will break up with you before you get anything out of (rather into) her.
 

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It's over, start cheating on her until you find someone and then break up with her.

She's obviously not that interested in you and is still into her ex. She's probably cheating on you. You where probably just a rebound guy to begin with. Since you've been togeather for 8 months, she's probably just waiting for the right time to break up with you.

The reason why the conversation is forced and the reason why ALL conversations are forced is because one party doesn't want to have one. When you genuinely like someone, you can talk about paint drying for hours.

Don't worry it's not your fault or her's really, sometimes things just don't work out.
 

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d9930380 said:
It's over, start cheating on her until you find someone and then break up with her.

She's obviously not that interested in you and is still into her ex. She's probably cheating on you. You where probably just a rebound guy to begin with. Since you've been togeather for 8 months, she's probably just waiting for the right time to break up with you.

The reason why the conversation is forced and the reason why ALL conversations are forced is because one party doesn't want to have one. When you genuinely like someone, you can talk about paint drying for hours.

Don't worry it's not your fault or her's really, sometimes things just don't work out.

Agreed
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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hey

thanks guys. well the way it is, one minute she can totally be in love with me and everything is fine, next minute she just is "different"...

well im 18 shes 17
 

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ok so she wont even touch u.....what ARE u getting out of stayign with her???
 

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Dude...

YOU ARE BEING A CHUMP!!

You answered your own question. Why does she play games, why is she trying to control you?!

BECAUSE SHE IS FULL OF GAMES AND IS CONTROLLING!!

She doesn't like who you've "become" because you've become harder to control. She wants a pet poodle with a penis... not a man. Ditch the b!tch!

to be perfectly honest with you, it sounds a lot like you a got a bad case of oneitis. You see some of her flaws, yet fail to put two and two together. Somewhere in your mind that little voice keeps saying "she's great, she loves you!". That's oneitis for you!

Oneitis is a form of neediness, of irrationality. Overblown emotions that have no cause for effect. You need to tone down on all that crap!

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should become one of these macho types that have the hugest trouble showing any kind of emotion but smugness and aggression. No that's just stupid, and women dislike that type of guy in the first place. Emotions have a FUNCTION... though perhaps largely obsolete in this day and age they still serve a purpose AND they make you human.

The problem that chumpy guys have is that their emotions are unfounded, they are without purpose. Anger has a function... when someone tries to steal your food or fvck your woman you get angry, it spikes you with adrenaline and gets you in the right mood to fvck up that a-hole = self preservation. Feelings of love and attachment to a woman (oneitis) also has a function... it's to increase the chances of survival of your offspring, so you wouldn't knock her up and run off... so you can serve your purpose as a protector of a weaker gender and your offspring.

It all serves it's purpose, there is only a problem when it becomes unfounded. Like when you get oneitis over a woman that you aren't fvcking! This is stupid because a woman you aren't fvcking is never going to have your children and so the oneitis you feel that insures the procreation of your genes is completely unfounded, hence irrational and quite frankly crazy!

Now i know that's a simplified deduction, since you might not want children, but that's what those impulses and feelings are for, that's their purpose, and feeling them when their function is irrelevant is just silly and a waste of time.

Lastly... you don't need to "ask" her "what" the two of you are. This doesn't matter! The term gf is just a stupid term they give to a woman who is your exclusive lover. There are only red lights and green lights. When a woman wants to be exclusive with you, she will bring up the topic. When/if that happens, you can decide whether you want to be exclusive with her, whether she is worth it and is the type of woman you are looking for longer term, or NOT. Your call at that point. But there is never a reason to ask, if that's what she wants, then she will ask! If she never asks she either doesn't want to be exclusive or she assumes you already are... her bad then... and not your problem.
 

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sorry bro i dont wanna break the news but...THIS IS THE BIGGEST LOSER STORY:crackup:

you blaming her for being a biatch? buddy, you brought it unto yourself by irritating her with TOOOO MUCH attention:woo:

i suggest you break up with her right now, so can at least have a lil dignity and save face. im sure shes not the only one thinking you are a chump...i bet everyone around her (that incl her family, friends etc) think you are a LOSER.:down:

sorry for being harsh dude, but you seriously gotta wake up and smell the coffee...:box:

stay away from her!!! dont call her, dont go and see her, dont try to force her to hug/kiss you...just deal with yourself first to be a better person...then make her come running back to you (it will b real hard lol but possible)
you need to go out there and screw some more girls man...up your social value:up:
 
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Whoa, WHOA!!!

Hold on guys! What's with all the typing?! Don't waste your time.

We all know what he is going to do. NOTHING. I have no idea why he is with the b!tch. Maybe he can't get someone better, maybe its a habit (8 months is a long time), or maybe he's just a pvssy.

POint is: He isn't going to do anything cause he's too hung up on his "girfriend" and I use that term loosely. More accurately would be female he knows who will not talk to him, touch him, or be around him... aka "stranger".

He will get his ass dumped and he will be kicking himself around for not doing it first.

Oh well.

If you don't got balls to do stuff, you don't get anything but pain and misery and getting stepped on.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!! (I love being brutally honest.)
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

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