Okay, so I’ve been hooking up with this guys or months (a FWB – we used to date/sleep together actually about 5 years ago) We were fooling around and doing everything but sex up until recently. My fwb tends to enjoy what I would consider slower sex. Over a month ago ago were in the lotus position. He tells me to slow down, I do (I’m not doing jack rabbit pow pow speed btw or anything like that), then he says, “ *my name* slow down” but kind of aggressively/sternly? It really threw me off bc I’ve never had anyone say or do that to em before. Okay, then we go for a 2nd round a few hours later. After we’ve finished he said, “I feel like I’m getting off and you’re not”. I said, “no, I am”.
The reason why I’m asking if the sex was bad for him because up until then things seemed fine. I was telling him the night before how I was craving pancakes and jokingly said that my doctor said I wouldn’t make it if I didn’t have them soon. He showed up that night and surprised me to make me pancakes. I guess he could tell I was feeling anxious (anxiety issues) be because he said he could “feel my energy” while trying to sleep, so in turn that threw his sleep off. I said, “no you couldn’t sleep because you were horny and you wanted yo put your **** in me”. He said, “woah, that was really vulgar for 8 am”.
Then he kissed my forehead before he left that morning and asked when I was coming back (I went to go visit my parents a few hours away). I told him Monday. I contacted him Thursday night seeing if he wanted to hang out and enjoy the weather before it got too cold. He said he was working that weekend. No reschedule, nothing.
He’s just been very distant the last month and we haven’t really talked. I asked him straight up why we haven’t hung out and he said things have just been hectic for him. Ppssh, yea okay.
Thanksgiving weekend he texted me at 5 am asking if I was back home, I said, “yea, I am what’s up?”. He responded back 3 days later with “oops”. What the heck was that? I just ignored the message. Then a few days ago I posted how I got a promotion and he was the first person to tell me congrats.
We clearly get along and I thought we were friends, or so I thought, so the only I can think of is he just didn’t enjoy having sex with me and now he’s just trying to do the slow fade?
The reason why I’m asking if the sex was bad for him because up until then things seemed fine. I was telling him the night before how I was craving pancakes and jokingly said that my doctor said I wouldn’t make it if I didn’t have them soon. He showed up that night and surprised me to make me pancakes. I guess he could tell I was feeling anxious (anxiety issues) be because he said he could “feel my energy” while trying to sleep, so in turn that threw his sleep off. I said, “no you couldn’t sleep because you were horny and you wanted yo put your **** in me”. He said, “woah, that was really vulgar for 8 am”.
Then he kissed my forehead before he left that morning and asked when I was coming back (I went to go visit my parents a few hours away). I told him Monday. I contacted him Thursday night seeing if he wanted to hang out and enjoy the weather before it got too cold. He said he was working that weekend. No reschedule, nothing.
He’s just been very distant the last month and we haven’t really talked. I asked him straight up why we haven’t hung out and he said things have just been hectic for him. Ppssh, yea okay.
Thanksgiving weekend he texted me at 5 am asking if I was back home, I said, “yea, I am what’s up?”. He responded back 3 days later with “oops”. What the heck was that? I just ignored the message. Then a few days ago I posted how I got a promotion and he was the first person to tell me congrats.
We clearly get along and I thought we were friends, or so I thought, so the only I can think of is he just didn’t enjoy having sex with me and now he’s just trying to do the slow fade?
