Walking Anomaly
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Hey all, Hows Life?
Anyway, straight to the point...I got this girl that seems to be sending mixed signals...We had a fling last summer, ended badly because she assumed we were together, and I went away to college and hooked up with another girl. She got pissed and we stopped talking to each other.
6 months later, we're talking again...and i can tell shes still interested...i mean, if she isnt, why would she start talking to me again, ya know? She also brings up us on occasion, saying when we first ended, she was upset because she thought we were together and was wondering why i had not asked her out and such.
Ya see, but my thoughts are that a guy and girl are not official until it is mutually agreed...and anything is fair game until then.
Now she says we wouldnt actually get serious officially because of lack of trust and because her brothers and family tease her about it, which i think is a garbage reason personally...I believe there never was a lack of trust, just the simple fact that she assumed we were together, and that i didnt know she would get pissed.
We have an awesome time over the phone, no doubt about that. But now that i think about it, maybe its the lack of physical contact...ya see, the kicker is that she lives about an hour away from me. Needless to say its a trek and a half for her to see me or vice versa.
This confuses and bothers me, obviously, because i wouldnt post about it if i didnt care.
Basically my question is this... Why would she keep talking to me and opening up to me and such if she was not interested?
And also what should i do about it? should I confront her about it? (saying if theres no chance of us goin official, then we should stop talking to one another now)
Should i just play it cool? ya know, maybe try to set something up so we could see one another.
Im not gonna try and explain to her the way my thinking is, about you're not official unless mutually agreed...you cant "rationalize" women into liking you by thought...in my opinion, ya gotta use emotions to do it...but the right emotion at the right time...if you get my drift.(dont tell how you feel too early)
but enough babbling!
Help me out guys. Im open to any suggestions or criticisms.
Much appreciated
Anyway, straight to the point...I got this girl that seems to be sending mixed signals...We had a fling last summer, ended badly because she assumed we were together, and I went away to college and hooked up with another girl. She got pissed and we stopped talking to each other.
6 months later, we're talking again...and i can tell shes still interested...i mean, if she isnt, why would she start talking to me again, ya know? She also brings up us on occasion, saying when we first ended, she was upset because she thought we were together and was wondering why i had not asked her out and such.
Ya see, but my thoughts are that a guy and girl are not official until it is mutually agreed...and anything is fair game until then.
Now she says we wouldnt actually get serious officially because of lack of trust and because her brothers and family tease her about it, which i think is a garbage reason personally...I believe there never was a lack of trust, just the simple fact that she assumed we were together, and that i didnt know she would get pissed.
We have an awesome time over the phone, no doubt about that. But now that i think about it, maybe its the lack of physical contact...ya see, the kicker is that she lives about an hour away from me. Needless to say its a trek and a half for her to see me or vice versa.
This confuses and bothers me, obviously, because i wouldnt post about it if i didnt care.
Basically my question is this... Why would she keep talking to me and opening up to me and such if she was not interested?
And also what should i do about it? should I confront her about it? (saying if theres no chance of us goin official, then we should stop talking to one another now)
Should i just play it cool? ya know, maybe try to set something up so we could see one another.
Im not gonna try and explain to her the way my thinking is, about you're not official unless mutually agreed...you cant "rationalize" women into liking you by thought...in my opinion, ya gotta use emotions to do it...but the right emotion at the right time...if you get my drift.(dont tell how you feel too early)
but enough babbling!
Help me out guys. Im open to any suggestions or criticisms.
Much appreciated