Penkitten it's different in the original comics published in the 60's or 70's. After she eventually found out, what I remember is MJ supporting Peter through the stress and danger of his alter-ego and absolving him of his failures to do more. I'm guessing you're talking about the movies, times change I guess.
Ease i would take Roissy's words with a grain of salt. The most honest article he ever wrote was about his own failed marriage. He has emotional reasons for banging the same drum all the time and in 5-10 years it will be obvious (and embarrassing to say anyone took him seriously). Paragon of reason my ass. Otherwise I agree with what you both said about Rollo's anecdote.
What I take issue with here is the idea that in all relationships your partner is going to undercut you rather than support you. A good woman will prompt you to re-establish your frame, not sabotage you. There's a limit to how much support you'll have (until you became a leech) but that doesn't mean relationships can't exist which are primarily cooperative rather than adversarial.
So many things in relationships are mundane -- washing dishes with your girlfriend for example. Even these things can be happy memories though if your frame is both correct. Who in god's name is going to be mysterious all the time? What kind of girl expects that? It's immature and it's stupid, and its doomed to failure. Lois in this anecdote was not a good partner, because she was too stupid to recognize what made herself tick, too passive to tell Clark to get his sh!t together, and too spineless to break it off when the relationship passed its expiration date. *Lots* of girls like her out there -- it can seem like the whole world -- but if you think that represents a typical relationship rather than an utter disaster from a deeply immature and oblivious couple, you are going to become cynical. Some girls like it rougher in bed and they'll ask you politely to pull their hair, rather than just being silently b!tchy and dissatisfied before they rationalize a reason to cheat on you.
If you get punked by an entitled princess who wants a superhero, but won't support you through your moments of humanity, you have no one to blame but yourself.
