Life is full of surprises and yes, the game truly is a crap shoot. That doesn't mean you should not take a chance on someone, you just have to be smart about it. Your odds of success are directly proportional to your ability to discern situations, see people for what they are and take responsibility for your actions.
The negativity that you see here is the result of dudes getting burned, most of the time the reason for this is not because all women are wh*res. It's because they let themselves be blinded by beauty. Good genetics have a way of disengaging a brother's common sense. You read these stories and see red flags all over the place, b*tches straight up disrespecting left and right. But the poster ignores it because he wants to "get lucky" with the HB10.
Truth is that the most powerful tool we have as men in this game is qualification and most guys throw it right out the window because she meets the visual criteria and seems friendly. This results in massive failure because you can't make someone appreciate something that they did not have to work for. If you really want to surround yourself with beautiful, quality women, then you need to exude a vibe that says "I think you're hot, but I already got some hotties on my team... what else you got going for you?"
It's also human nature to ignore your own flaws and place blame for your situation on other people. A lot of these field reports show guys who have little to no game (to their credit at least they try). But when they pop off some corny sh*t, or are just not being congruent with their persona and get bad reactions, is it the chick's fault when he gets shot down?
Another scenario - a dude steals a girl from her boyfriend and develops a relationship with her. Months later she cheats on him and his whole world implodes. Is she a wh*re? Well DUH, she showed her true colors from the start of the relationship, dumbass should known what he was signing up for. But in the midst of heartbreak dudes dont want to hear this reality. It's much easier to chalk em all up as wh*res than to face the possibility that you made a bad choice.
On the flip side of this you have these players with ridiculous game taking new girls home every other night. They are the first ones to tell you never to trust a female because they sleep with committed/engaged and sometimes married women. What they fail to see, however is that their game is tailored to attract a certain type of hoe, usually one with poor self-esteem, morals and zero loyalty. The ones that actually have integrity do not respond to their game, in fact they are repulsed by it. But since they only look at the ones they took home, they assume all women are the same.
These are all just filters of perception - people asserting their viewpoints as fact because their myopic viewpoints don't let them see the whole picture. Don't let their ideas throw you off course. Take it all in stride and use your own experience and instincts as your guide.
When all's said and done, a woman who will open her legs to some dude she just met does not value her sexuality or womanhood, period. When your game is tailored for "fast seduction", is it really any wonder when you find yourself in the company of cheap sluts?
You also have to realize the general purpose of this site. I see it as sort of a wakeup call for the clueless. Too many guys work off the assumption that women are these delicate, god-like creatures who deserve to be treated with reverence and worshipped. Part of the deprogramming process here is to let these chumps know what they are dealing with, a very high probability that the precious angel they pine over is just a dumb hor with nothing more to offer than a pretty face or a nice ass.
The overall tone comes off as negative because its HARD WORK getting these guys to see women any other way (especially when its that one "special" girl).
Personally, I have been in several great relationships, that mostly didnt work out because I wasnt ready to settle. Still good friends with a few ex's and they'd take me back in a heartbeat. From experience I can say that good, loyal women are out there. The only trick to finding them is being a good, loyal man who knows what he wants and is not afraid to say NO to a pretty face for the sake of his own standards.
The trick to keeping them around is very simple. Keep them on their toes. Let them see they have competition sometimes and dont become boring, predictable, possessive or exhibit any of the chump tendencies that scared so many of them off to begin with - and you should be fine.
Like I said there are no guarantees, but you can greatly influence the odds based on how you play the game.
