as long as you are neutral and not acting too aggressively then you should be fine. I only see this happen to guys that obviously deserved it or were trying to make power play moves over it. Everyone is the victim in their own story. I know a guy that got fired for selling leads for *******s at a company and he is still crying about it to this day about the meanie HR.
While I would generally agree with this advice, remember the context here. He is working as a barback at a nightclub. This is a short-term service industry job. I doubt he would be losing any sleep if he got fired from it. And I also doubt that he would get fired for sleeping with a co-worker. They would have to fire half their staff.
All I'm saying is he could just sleep with the patrons rather than the staff, and have zero risk.
Becoming the best he can be at what? Restocking bottles and clearing tables?
Barbacks are. At the college bars I'd been to they were often just as popular as the bartenders and often rose into those positions.
When it became knowledge that I was now single, a number of the girls at work (and client sites) got a lot more friendly and expressed interest. A lot of sexual comments.
So instead of explaining why you didn’t lose frame, you get defensive and insult.
You've been there 2 days and you know everything already? Sounds like you are a genius. Also, you need to demonstrate high value, flirting with them and giving them attention is what literally other men do, what is the rush? Are you desperate for sex?
This what I call a loser mentality. If that his job then fine. Be the best doing that, make connections with customers, find ways to save money to that company or bar, be a fvcking winner. Learn how what other above you do, so you can cover them when they're off. Ask the boss where is the help needed, accounting, financing, marketing, be a go getter. You might start as restocking bottles, but with a great attitude towards the job, towards customers, towards the business, can make you a shift leader, then manager, and later managing multiple restaurants. Then with that experience, you can even start your own restaurant. People today have no aspirations, pathetic.Becoming the best he can be at what? Restocking bottles and clearing tables?
Yep, sure I made it up because you didn't like what i said. Like I said, lame
Bokanovsky is kinda right. I don't really get to interact with customers much. I just pre-bus tables, immediately clear a table with it's half, stock bottles, clean glassware, etc. I do face the customers but it would be frowned upon for me to talk with customers at the bar/table, since it's left up to the server or bartender. I get smiles from the patrons and what not, but not much else I can do unless they make it a point to talk to me. I just started though, so maybe I can get away with or try new things. Time will tell
That's nutty. Never really had that happen to me with co-workers except maybe a couple times
I was trying to remember why I had you already blocked, and now I see why. You're not the sharpest tool in the shed
Not everyone is ready to hear/read the truth. I guess, that's why you are just restocking bottle guy, who puts puzzy on a pedestal and who cleans the table of successful people like me. You are going in the right direction brother, keep it going.
That’s the tip of the iceberg. I’ve had some interesting experiences at work.
Were you a manager? I briefly worked with a guy that used to be a restaurant manager at Twin Peaks and he said that the girls would always hit on him, some even sent him nudes. Short, fat, older, but very fun, charismatic guy in that position. Said he never took the dive since he had a couple flings outside of work. Hell, I don't think I'd be able to resist
Sometimes I was.
From what you told me, sounds like they made a move on you first, not the other way around. So you just tried to have a good time, tease, maybe flirt here and there and they'll come to you so you're not known as 'that guy'?
