Damn, this sucks. I think I posted something about this in the past, but I was thinking about this today and I am starting to see things differently.
So here's the deal. A good friend of mine has been dating this girl for over a year. Lately their relationship has been on and off, and currently they haven't been together for awhile.
Ever since I met this girl we have gotten along really well. She is actually one of the very few people that I can really talk to about almost anything. She has even shared some of her "secrets" that I promised never to tell my buddy. She has LOTS of hot, young friends, and takes every opportunity possible to try to hook me up with them.
I know it's a bad situation to be in, but what happens when you start to consider the GIRL to be a really good friend? I'm not going to blindly say "Fukk the chick, my boy comes first", but at the same time I don't want to ruin my friendship with him either.
Actually, the last time they broke up, my buddy calls me up and tells me that he is dumping her and doesn't want to be associated with anyone who talks to her, basically making me choose between the two of them. A couple of days later she calls me up crying saying they got into a fight and he pushed her or something (I made sure she was ok, of course), and was pissed that I would "take his side" after he would do such a thing. Of course they were back together a week later, so I'm glad I didn't "take anyone's side".
So now that they are once again broken up, she is calling me up asking me to do stuff with her and her friends all of the time. Last Saturday night she invited me to hang out at her cousin's beach house with a bunch of chicks, cause she wanted to hook me up with her cousin. This weekend she invited me to hit the clubs Friday and Saturday. I met up with her for awhile on Friday, but didn't on Saturday cause I'm still trying to keep relations with my buddy and didn't want to chance it.
Okay, so I've known my buddy for LONGER, but I have a closer friendship with the girl.
It sucks having to choose between friends, cause I think they are both great people and consider them both to be good friends, but I guess that's the nature of something like this. Don't know if there is an easy way around this other than to chill and watch my step and see if things cool off in the future.
Thoughts?
So here's the deal. A good friend of mine has been dating this girl for over a year. Lately their relationship has been on and off, and currently they haven't been together for awhile.
Ever since I met this girl we have gotten along really well. She is actually one of the very few people that I can really talk to about almost anything. She has even shared some of her "secrets" that I promised never to tell my buddy. She has LOTS of hot, young friends, and takes every opportunity possible to try to hook me up with them.
I know it's a bad situation to be in, but what happens when you start to consider the GIRL to be a really good friend? I'm not going to blindly say "Fukk the chick, my boy comes first", but at the same time I don't want to ruin my friendship with him either.
Actually, the last time they broke up, my buddy calls me up and tells me that he is dumping her and doesn't want to be associated with anyone who talks to her, basically making me choose between the two of them. A couple of days later she calls me up crying saying they got into a fight and he pushed her or something (I made sure she was ok, of course), and was pissed that I would "take his side" after he would do such a thing. Of course they were back together a week later, so I'm glad I didn't "take anyone's side".
So now that they are once again broken up, she is calling me up asking me to do stuff with her and her friends all of the time. Last Saturday night she invited me to hang out at her cousin's beach house with a bunch of chicks, cause she wanted to hook me up with her cousin. This weekend she invited me to hit the clubs Friday and Saturday. I met up with her for awhile on Friday, but didn't on Saturday cause I'm still trying to keep relations with my buddy and didn't want to chance it.
Okay, so I've known my buddy for LONGER, but I have a closer friendship with the girl.
It sucks having to choose between friends, cause I think they are both great people and consider them both to be good friends, but I guess that's the nature of something like this. Don't know if there is an easy way around this other than to chill and watch my step and see if things cool off in the future.
Thoughts?