RickTheToad
Moderator
BG is not 1/16ths of a man. He has social difficulties. He will learn in time if he allows others to teach him.
Going to meet that cute 49 yr old teacher tonight. How to keep frame?
- Thread starter biggoal
- Start date
Right now he is perhaps 1/18th of a man simply because he hasn't the balls to produce the DM's to his peers.
RickTheToad
Moderator
He has a tendency in bloviating his experiences. His threads are strictly for entertainment value only. I hadn't read this thread since page 2. It's now page 15. You guys have to stop encouraging this wreckless behavior on his part.
What is your text opener? I'll give it a try.
What r u talking about?
Have you read the entire thread yet to understand the context herein?
He won't be giving you anything unless you provide us with those DM's
RickTheToad
Moderator
In general, BG is a bit over-zealous in his text/message exchanges with these ladies. Would you not agree? No, I gave up after the first few pages. Same story, different thread.
Do you understand the reason why we are asking him for those DM's?
This is about 2 weeks after meeting her and her 50 year old friend at Starbucks.
Me:
So I was just wondering if you'd like to meetup and hangout sat or Sunday afternoon or evening. Why I was wondering what you were doing this weekend didnt get to chat for long when we met at the mall.
Her:
Tom I think you're as nice as can be and I really like talking to you, but I don't want to lead you on in any other way. It was important to me that we meet that you could see for yourself that we're not a match in that way. I really appreciate the thought and you're asking, but I don't want to hurt you. One of the things that happens when you try and make it work with someone that's not right is that you could miss out being on the person but you're meant to be with. We both deserve better than that. I hope you understand
Me:
Why dont you think it wouldnt work?
Her:
There's too big of an age difference, I have kids and you don't, when you work different schedules, our life experiences and almost everything is different. We understand each other and that is special, but it's not enough for a romance.
Me:
I mean the work schedule isnt a big deal I can pretty much take off when I want to
That's why I figured we should hangout a couple times other than that brief meeting we had so we could get to know each other .more. I mean I like your personality and all a lot. That's why attracts me to you
Her:
The bottom line Tom is I'm at a point in my life where I'm not looking to try and make it work with someone. I want the kind of relationship that is naturally compelling and passionate. I usually date guys that are older than me, hardly ever younger and certainly not as young as you. The range is just to keep things open to possibilities, but it's not very realistic. You're just going to have to trust me that I am not the woman for you and you are not the man for me. I know this and I'm sorry if I gave you false hope and that way.
Me:
I understand. Well on top of your kind personality I'll be honest you look young for your age. You're cute as a button as well I found you to be really adorable. All major reasons I reached out to you.
Her:
You're really sweet Tom and you're going to make some woman very happy. I really do like you or I wouldn't have talked to you and open up to you. But I also am old and wise enough to know that some relationships are just not meant to be romantic because timing and other things are just wrong.
Me:
So you're just looking for an older guy basically? Nearly all the dates I get from online dating the women are older than me actually.
Her:
It's not that I'm looking for an older guy, but I've never met someone my age or younger that had all of the things/qualities I'm looking for
Me:
Like me just using you as an example I would prefer over a immature 30 year old woman if I had to chose.
Her:
I understand Tom. There's a term for it. We are both old souls. Even when we were younger, we had old souls which means that were more mature than other people our age.... that's part of what Drew us to each other. It's just that there's so many other factors that is not enough to make it work.
Me:
That's a good way of putting it. I mean honestly, overall I think we should hangout a couple more times before totally writing it off though because we do have a lot in common other than a few things. I mean no one has 100 percent in common with each other anyway. Again that's just my opinion because I'd hate to lose the chance to knowing a wonderful person and missing out because we rushed to judge too quickly.
Honestly with the age thing and all if I didn't think it would work I wouldn't have talked to you all this time. You impress me a lot.
You should take that as a compliment
Her:
I definitely take it as a compliment Tom. That being said, I am also sure but I won't change my mind. I think hanging out would be fun, but I also think it would send mixed messages and again, it would keep you from being available to someone else. We can still chat from time to time, but I think you're better off putting your focus on meeting someone new. That's my opinion
Me:
So I was just wondering if you'd like to meetup and hangout sat or Sunday afternoon or evening. Why I was wondering what you were doing this weekend didnt get to chat for long when we met at the mall.
Her:
Tom I think you're as nice as can be and I really like talking to you, but I don't want to lead you on in any other way. It was important to me that we meet that you could see for yourself that we're not a match in that way. I really appreciate the thought and you're asking, but I don't want to hurt you. One of the things that happens when you try and make it work with someone that's not right is that you could miss out being on the person but you're meant to be with. We both deserve better than that. I hope you understand
Me:
Why dont you think it wouldnt work?
Her:
There's too big of an age difference, I have kids and you don't, when you work different schedules, our life experiences and almost everything is different. We understand each other and that is special, but it's not enough for a romance.
Me:
I mean the work schedule isnt a big deal I can pretty much take off when I want to
That's why I figured we should hangout a couple times other than that brief meeting we had so we could get to know each other .more. I mean I like your personality and all a lot. That's why attracts me to you
Her:
The bottom line Tom is I'm at a point in my life where I'm not looking to try and make it work with someone. I want the kind of relationship that is naturally compelling and passionate. I usually date guys that are older than me, hardly ever younger and certainly not as young as you. The range is just to keep things open to possibilities, but it's not very realistic. You're just going to have to trust me that I am not the woman for you and you are not the man for me. I know this and I'm sorry if I gave you false hope and that way.
Me:
I understand. Well on top of your kind personality I'll be honest you look young for your age. You're cute as a button as well I found you to be really adorable. All major reasons I reached out to you.
Her:
You're really sweet Tom and you're going to make some woman very happy. I really do like you or I wouldn't have talked to you and open up to you. But I also am old and wise enough to know that some relationships are just not meant to be romantic because timing and other things are just wrong.
Me:
So you're just looking for an older guy basically? Nearly all the dates I get from online dating the women are older than me actually.
Her:
It's not that I'm looking for an older guy, but I've never met someone my age or younger that had all of the things/qualities I'm looking for
Me:
Like me just using you as an example I would prefer over a immature 30 year old woman if I had to chose.
Her:
I understand Tom. There's a term for it. We are both old souls. Even when we were younger, we had old souls which means that were more mature than other people our age.... that's part of what Drew us to each other. It's just that there's so many other factors that is not enough to make it work.
Me:
That's a good way of putting it. I mean honestly, overall I think we should hangout a couple more times before totally writing it off though because we do have a lot in common other than a few things. I mean no one has 100 percent in common with each other anyway. Again that's just my opinion because I'd hate to lose the chance to knowing a wonderful person and missing out because we rushed to judge too quickly.
Honestly with the age thing and all if I didn't think it would work I wouldn't have talked to you all this time. You impress me a lot.
You should take that as a compliment
Her:
I definitely take it as a compliment Tom. That being said, I am also sure but I won't change my mind. I think hanging out would be fun, but I also think it would send mixed messages and again, it would keep you from being available to someone else. We can still chat from time to time, but I think you're better off putting your focus on meeting someone new. That's my opinion
Are you 100% sure he's not big Dave... I know you see the same patterns that I'm seeing... he's definitely a troll though either way
I just posted some of the text messages.
So you ignore me up until I ask spaz if you're Big Dave, and you tell me you posted text messages, but they are the same text messages that you already posted
Yea... now I KNOW you're Big Dave
Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
No he ain't him.
As certain as I can be.
The only thing they both have in common is their aspergers.
Send us those DM's at the start of ur interactions with her up until ur date.
That one is important.
BTW, there's no need for you to retype it here, just take a screenshot of it. Easy as abc.
RickTheToad
Moderator
Why did you keep on pestering her to change her mind? You should had just said, ok, take care.
You are giving up on Biggoal too? That means you are a quitter. Are you a quitter?
Stop second guessing biggoal. It is mental abuse to do so.
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.