Gladiators!::Approach Anxiety Competition!

Gray The Prince

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*Flint enters the arena, the crowd goes wild*
"For those of us about to die we salute you"!
*Crowd goes wild*

haha Hey guys so my understanding of the task for this week was we had approach a girl in any setting, and go for her number. If we got the first girl's number then we were covered for the week, if we didn't we had to approach and go for another number and then we're good. If that's what we had to do then I passed because the first girl I approach rejected me but the second girl gave me her number.

Approach 1:

I enter this place that looks like a club although it was a little small for one. There's smoke machines, strobe lights everywhere, etc and I'm there with my friend from high school who is conversational but doesn't know what to do.

I see these three girls in this one area kind of near the bar but barely on the dance floor, and even though I notice there are dudes everywhere I'm like "Okay I'll be the bold one".


*Flint walks by three girls, stops, pats one on the shoulder with a smile and laughs*

Flint: "Guys I'm really concerned right now, like really concerned"

*Girls all look at me quizically*

Flint: "Well my dad told me that he went here for lunch last week around 1 and now I'm afraid he's a f*cking raging alcoholic.

*Girls laugh instantly*

We start talking about how they just graduated from the campus nearby, and how they're still partying like crazy. My friend jumps in kind of suprised that I'm talking with these girls. Later the dancefloor gets going and my buddy starts putting on his aviators which we all started to pass around as a joke.

Now although I had a funny opener and we were all talking I didn't build enough rapport with any one of them individually, so about 30 minutes later I go for a number and she wouldn't give it to me. Oh well.


Approach 2:

Walk into this other place. It looks like a bar in the front and a club in the back. I realize how important body language is and setting the tone once you walk into a place so I'm keeping my shoulders back, walking confidently etc. Luckily by this point as well I've had two mixed drinks so I'm a little more social and everything.

I go up to the bar and see this short girl (she's like only an inch taller than me which makes her like 5 2 or something) and she's ordering a drink.

I order my drink and notice that her drink is really clear, but I decide to tease her about it. So I tap her on the shoulder and go:

Flint: "Hey if there's more than one fruit in your drink that makes it juice"

HB7 laughs: "This is a gin and tonic you're nuts"

Flint: "Oh sh*t what are you Charlie Sheehan or something?"

HB7 laughs: "Noooo!" taps me (starting kino)

Flint: "So did you go to ______ university?"

HB7: "Yeah I did and I'm trying to become a social worker so there's no way I'm trying to be like Charlie Sheehan"

Flint: "Coulda fooled me"

*At this point we go back and forth for maybe 15 minutes and towards the end I mention I need to find my friend cause he's hammered, and she needs to meet up with her girlfriends. Lots of kino.

Flint: "Well hey it was nice meeting you, how can we meet up again?"

HB7: "Oh I'll give you my number."

*Pulls phone out, type in her name in my phone which she made sure I spelled correctly (score she's interested) and then typ her number*.


So I think that covers me for this week.


Announcer- "Flint is the victor!"

*Crowd goes wild*
:cheer: :cheer: :cheer:
 

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Gray The Prince said:
BUMP!!! Let's go other gladiators, y'all only TWO days to post results!!



Oh and me and HBLatina went out on a date tonight. It was short, only 2 hours but I kinoed and made a lot of progress. At first, i was worried that she was going to flake on me, but when she asked what time to meet up, I realized that she was interested. (I asked her out)

We went to this place and only got a few wings, neither of us were really that hungry, so we didn't get much. I remember jumping from topic to topic nd there wasn't really any awkwardness from what I remember, I was def confident but hesitated at times. For example when we were going for a walk, the wind was blowing a lot and she said she was getting cold, which of course, was an obvious sign right there. I hesitated and only put my forearm on her shoulder. My AFC remnants were taking control after a about 2 minutes, I had a conflict with myself internally and of course she didn't hear it lol.

Earlier we were also talking about Batman and she said she couldn't remember a lot of stuff, and said she was going to end up rememering after I left. (another sign? lol)

My Inner DJ: Gray's arm needs to be around her waste. (She's pretty small so this is obviously no prolem)

My AFC: No! That'll make her feel uncomfortable and make things really awkward!

My inner DJ: It's a fucking date, obviously she wants Gray to touch her, plus she keeps playing with her hair and when Gray was all close to her sitting down, she liked it when he was close to her.

My inner AFC: We have to play it safe!

My inner DJ: You've been in control for YEARS and nothing you've done has ever gotten you far or laid. We're doing things MY WAY and MY WAY ONLY.

Next thing I know, my arms is wrapped around her waist and her head is on my shoulder. So she went on to spend the night at her friends apartment to go help her out. So, when we split, we didn't kiss, but when we hugged she put her arms around my neck and mine were around her waist, and she asked what my plans for tomorrow were, and I told her "Idk yet, this is rare cause I'm actually free this weekend." So we may doing something again today, either way, I'm gonna kino it up some more and see what happens next.
Haha, that conversation between the inner AFC & DJ cracked med up, GTP!

As for the progress, well done, bro. A small tip for you though: dooon't see her again today. You're BUSY with a LOAD of stuff to do. My rule is usually seeing the girl once a week. You don't want to go in LTR mode or she'll hold her hoohaa and make you work for it. :mad:

Give her the privilege of missing you (which she will from the sound of the story). And also, make sure you kiss the next time you see her. Friends don't kiss, lovers do!:rolleyes:
 

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great work gray. That girl is choosin lol. If you go with her today I can gurantee you will be going the LTR route. Depends on what you want to do.
 

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Robyn923b said:
Haha, that conversation between the inner AFC & DJ cracked med up, GTP!

As for the progress, well done, bro. A small tip for you though: dooon't see her again today. You're BUSY with a LOAD of stuff to do. My rule is usually seeing the girl once a week. You don't want to go in LTR mode or she'll hold her hoohaa and make you work for it. :mad:

Give her the privilege of missing you (which she will from the sound of the story). And also, make sure you kiss the next time you see her. Friends don't kiss, lovers do!:rolleyes:
Lol when you're taking action with a girl, you'll notice how it'll come up. The AFC is waaaayyyyy more powerful than he seems, so it takes A LOT to overcome him and that's what I'm thinking, I hope not though lol.


great work gray. That girl is choosin lol. If you go with her today I can gurantee you will be going the LTR route. Depends on what you want to do.
Idk man, I've been stomping my approach anxiety into the ground and then this chick comes along. She like gaming, football, basketball and she's 21 so we all know what that means. ;) And she's not a fattie or anything, so idk what to do lol.
 

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i'm facing my first elimination this week! only one approach and i didn't build enough rapport to number close.

sh1t man. The only time i man up and approach is when i think a chick is fvcking hot. For the cute ones or hb7's i don't have any desire. Hopefully this won't end in a elimination let alone double elimination.

I have next week's topic in mind already.

RAPPORT.
 

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AAAgent said:
i'm facing my first elimination this week! only one approach and i didn't build enough rapport to number close.

sh1t man. The only time i man up and approach is when i think a chick is fvcking hot. For the cute ones or hb7's i don't have any desire. Hopefully this won't end in a elimination let alone double elimination.

I have next week's topic in mind already.

RAPPORT.
Oh no! The host can't be eliminated! D:
 

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When you talk to girls you must act like the prize. Regardless if you build rapport or not I still encourage you to ask for the number. Don't even think about building rapport. Just go with the flow and at the end ask for the number. The worse thing that happens is you get rejected.... So What??
On to the next one.

And Gray... she seems very nice... and she is latina?? Double Positive lol. I'm not saying that you have to go out with her again today but bag that man. Bag it!
 

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PrettyBoyAJ said:
When you talk to girls you must act like the prize. Regardless if you build rapport or not I still encourage you to ask for the number. Don't even think about building rapport. Just go with the flow and at the end ask for the number. The worse thing that happens is you get rejected.... So What??
On to the next one.

And Gray... she seems very nice... and she is latina?? Double Positive lol. I'm not saying that you have to go out with her again today but bag that man. Bag it!
She's half-Mexican and half-Peruvian, so we'll see and as of right now, I have no plans of seeing her tonight. I also need to pull some more numbers and have some more plates spinning.
 

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Ya, I feel you. I'm looking forward to the next challenge because this whole week I am away from college. So it'll be more challenging for me.
 

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Well its 12 and I think that only like 5 of us did anything haha.
 

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Damn, you woulda thought more people woulda moved on. If you really want to get girls that bad you could just cold approach.
 

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First challenge completed!

On saturday, I was taking a walk at the beach by myself to clear up my mind. I was feeling really crappy and wanted to get away. Anyway, when at the beach, I saw this cuuute Asian girl that looked at me and smiled.

My inner AFC: ahhh...she's just being nice. You do NOT have a chance with that beauty and if you get close you'll simply be a creep.
My inner DJ: Phuck you AFC! A glance and a smile directly at you?! Phuckermother, that green light is more solid that San Patrick's suit! Get your ass over there before I smack you.
My inner AFC: You love your ex. This is a betrayal to her.
My inner DJ: You haven't heard from her in two months. For how long do you plan to put your life on hold?
My inner AFC: You didn't even get her a Christmas present!
My inner DJ: That's because she b!tch was acting cold, but you have a good voice Robyn. Record her favorite song with you singing instead of the original singer and she'll melt knowing what she lost, plus you love to sing anyway.
My inner AFC: No comment.
My inner DJ: Hello!? Asiiiian babe right in front of you, sucka! Go, go, go.

So I got myself walking while thinking of my escape route to wuss out, but I didn't. I went straight to her and talked.

me: Heyy! I don't have much time cause I have to go, but I'm here for two reasons: I saw you from over there and thought you were kinda cute, so I decided to come see what you're like cause I wasn't too sure about you.
Aaand, the second one is I need a female opinion on something.
hb: (Smiling) Ohh, really? What is that?
me: My friend has al this stuff from his ex and his new gf wants him to burn it...blah, blah, blah. What do you think?
hb: gives opinion
me: disagree in some ways
hb: reframes her opinion and says I'm right, but yada yada yada...
me: man, jealous and insecure guys are everywhere. The good ones are few!
hb: giggles, that is veeery true.
me: the beach is my place of to relax, blah blah blah...what brings you here?
hb: tells reason
me: Cool, hey I gotta go, but let's catch up sometime. What's the best way to reach you?
hb: Ummm...I don't usually do this, but I'll give you my #
me: haha..yeah right. We'll nice talking to ya. Have fun on the beach!
hb: You too! =] Hey, you didn't even tell me your name
me: (walking away pretending I didn't hear her)

That closes the deal for me! I got two numbers in two approaches AND I got a third one from an HB9 that I don't feel like posting cause I'm sick to my stomach. I'll talk to ya homies later!
 

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well,

that girl that I picked up in the rain.

Went to her house. She lives around the corner from me, thus probably why we met in the first place. She lives with her parents. I thought that was kind of weird. Anyway, her mom made some killer snacks. I ended up making out with her for a while and fingering her.

It turns out shes 17.

WHOOPS!

Anyway, cats. I am very proud of all the ballsy people who did what they had to do and had fun doing it.

I had a revelation today. I have been drowing myself in 7, 8, 8.5. I blame the fact that my Japanese is really poor. ****, even my stripper girlfriend is an 8. Saw her without makeup. Told her to put the icing back on the cake.

From today forth, I am not gonna give my time to anything beneath a 9. Im going big. My genetic bloodline will not be passed to a sub 9. Thats ****in ridiculous, you know what Im saying? So, my fellow don juans - if I fail, I fail going big. And that 9 better have some skills. Like archery. Or read Dostoyevsky. Or be remarkable in some other way than her looks.
 

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Addendum - I am gonna keep my stripper girlfriend. Shes a total slut but she buys me lots of cool stuff and I like when people stare at us walking down the street because they know Im reeming it.
 

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This competition was the spark I needed to light a fire under my ass. My inner DJ has been conquering my Inner AFC, who even though is a major chump, is still very powerful. (It's amazing realizing how strong the inner AFC truly is.) As of right now, they're at a stalmate, with my DJ having the small edge atm.

I really hope the others don't get eliminated, but if they do...oh well, that weeds out all of the guys with no balls and leaves the serious competitors in.


And Powpow, I really like your new mentality with nothing bellow a 9. I'm not going for anything below a 7, but soon enough, after I get better game and get in even better shape to walk on my college's football team. (Were a Div 1 school) I will up my standards to 8's and eventually 9's as well.
 

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what school do you go to?
 

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Less than 2 hours remain to post.

Those who do not post completion results will face their first of two eliminations.

I will post results tomorrow of those who have completed and those who haven't.


This week's tasks is RAPPORT.

As last week, we've opened for many of you that outer shell that has been holding you back. You've cracked a bit of that approach anxiety shell by putting yourselves out there and approaching. Some of us have been clearly successful, some experienced a bit of both, and some experienced utter failure.

Last weeks task was to just break you guys out of the shell. This week's task is to build on your approach and develop communication skills. Learn to hold a good conversation to build rapport. Some of us go straight in for the kill and fail miserably. Some of us even though we clearly know we will not get the number, ask for it anyway. These trials are required to be gone through by all of us but let us learn them only once.

OUR task for this week is to once again cold approach 1-2 females. You must introduce yourself and get the females name. Do not force a number close unless you believe it will be successful. The whole purpose is to develop communication skills. Make the girl laugh, comfortable, c+f, etc.

Minimum time length of a conversation is 2 MINUTES.

2 failed number closes will result in a elimination. 2 successful number closes with no rejections will give you an additional elimination round (+1), those of you that haven't received an elimination will get 3 available eliminations. 0 approaches will result in an elimination.

To be successful this week, all you have to do is approach a girl and talk to her for 2 minutes.
 
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