Girls keep thinking I'm gay

[Chamber36]

Hey, I dunno if any of you other guys ever experience this. It's sort of been getting on my nerves though. I did get a make-out from 1 of the girls who asked me this.

I remembered Pook mentioning something about girls saying he's gay on page 224 of The Book of Pook.

He says that it's good because they see you in a sexual context. I feel it has enabled me to get close to women, but it's like every single 2-set I see whispering in each others ears is talking about the same damn thing - whether I'm gay or not - and I am getting tired of it. I wish these girls would be a bit more respectful.

I sort of get the feeling it marks the start of a new era for me though. I guess my game is really on-point and I'm not releasing any unwanted IOI's. I suppose it means I'm not simping.

This is a topic which isn't duscussed much, so I'm wondering what anyone has to say. Do you guys ever experience this, and do you use it to your advantage?

 

[Mike32ct]

I used to get that a lot, but not so much lately. My original high energy style has probably toned down a lot as I got older.

I say just own it. Don't give a F about it.

I took a private training with a former top PUA and a few girls asked me if he was gay. I don't want to name his name. But this guy had amazing game.

 

[Mr Wright]

I am as camp as they come and pretty much every girl i've been with has asked me if i was gay at some point, even my own mother has questioned me. Tbh it used to bother me but now i dont even think about it, i see it as a quirk thats different, i still lead girls, i still press all the attraction triggers, i just act a little camp sometimes. Truth be told, when a girl asks if im gay, i pretty much know im in there, its like her subconsciously trying to work me out, which creates mystery and mystery equals attraction.

I have a girlfriend at the moment who used to date a boxer or something, which could have intimidated me quite a bit but because im so chilled in how i am, she digs it.

 

[WorkingDJ]

I'm sorry, but if a girl thinks your gay, in my opinion, you are giving off the wrong signals.

 

[floydb25]

I used to get that very often, but only because I wouldn't have sex with the person who was saying it. Or, they tried to degrade you by talking down about your sexuality. That's where they thought it hurt you most.

It was mostly the *****es that did this, though. I find its best to avoid them and/or agree with everything they say. They can't stand not getting to you, or not having you pine after them / seeking their approval. Jerks are weak.

 

[MaudGrimes]

I've had girls ask if I'm gay and 9 times out of 10 I've known that it's because they're either trying to get a reaction out of me or they can't tell if I'm interested in them or not so they try and test me.

I just give a sarcastic/funny reply...

 

[Chamber36]

This. Or when I was really AFC, some relatives asked me if I was gay, how embarrassing

Lol, I had relatives hint that I may have been gay too. Weird fvckin sh!t. I was quite offended. You live and you learn. It's nothing like that now.

One girl while we were talking: I asked her what she had in bed, and she said she had a guy with a big d!ck. I didn't laugh or anything, I just thought to myself: "ok, I can forget about you then!!". Then I see my colleague walk by and she's like: "look, there's one, you want it?" I was like: "If you think that's what I want, then you are mistaken", she laughed, and I made out with her 20 minutes later. These girls probably have real hard time decyphering the guys they're attracted to. I never really see them spot gays that well either. I can see a gay guy from a mile away. Women can never tell imho.

Recently I approached a girl while smoking a cig and she was like: "excuse me, don't take this the wrong way, but are you gay?"

I said "no". Then she said: "Are you a goth?"

I was like: "Why do you ahve to put me in a box?"

And she said: "I don't but there's something about you! what is it?"

I said: "I just know what's going on in the world around me"

Then she started blabbering about her brother being in afghanistan waging war, and I was like why the Fvck are we talking about war, and the conversation finished. She totally misconstrued what I meant.

Anyway, I see it like this. If you show a primitive tribesman a watch, he won't be able to appreciate all the intricacies. The tribesman see's it as a funny wristband. I feel like a watch among primitive tribeswomen. They want to know what I am. They just don't get it.

Acting ambiguous usually makes them divert their attention away though. Most of them don't really want to chase. But that last case with the girl who started talking about Afghanistan, I bet she had issues, lol.

 

[Single4Life]

A lot of girls I have talked to -LOVE- gay men.

Because they are nice and take care of themselves, very good hygiene, cultured, intelligent....

so take it as a compliment, but you might need to introduce a little bit of heterosexual behavior, a little bit of masculinity to let a girl know you like her.

 

[Mike32ct]

This. Or when I was really AFC, some relatives asked me if I was gay, how embarrassing

My aunt met some dude and GOT his number for me. She wasn't joking. She was really trying to fix me up lol

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

I've had 2 girls think this about me before. Each time I took it as an invitation to f$&@ the @#$% out of them. I'm sorry but if a girl questions if Im gay. Im gonna take any opportunity to prove her wrong. Alot of gays typically have confidence or act more poised than their straight friends may act. So they may mistake you for one. So in some ways it's a good thing. I can see where pook is coming from. But he isnt entirly correct.

 

[zekko]

Supposedly Tyler Durden and Mystery often got asked if they were gay. Partly because part of their game was "flipping the script" - trying to get girls to chase them instead of being the pursuer (which is the natural male role).

Then being a high energy type that talks to a lot of girls can come across as feminine. To my eyes, MeHow comes off as extremely gay. I wouldn't be at all surprised if he actually was. I could see how a gay guy would make a good pickup guru, since he probably wouldn't suffer from approach anxiety, or be bothered by the hormones that can screw up so many men.

 

[Chamber36]

I also sort of got a gay vibe from Neil Strauss and Tyler Durden as well, but not from Mystery.

Lots of girls are tactless about it though. They might just say the word 'gay' out loud a few times to see if I react. Sort of like they might start talking about some guy (with their girlfriends) to get a reaction out of you.

Last year in england a girl said to her gay friend: "he looks like he might be interested", audibly for me to hear, I said: "No, but I'd be willing to double-team you though!" She was like 0_0. She said: "That was unexpected". I said: "why do you think I'm gay?", and she said: "You've got the whole gold-chain thing going on". Lol. Doesn't matter. Another girl svcked my **** that night. Right in public. I was on fire, and loaded on alcohol. Plus I was on holiday. Being a foreigner with game will probably get you put in the 'gay' category very quickly. Still, that was one of the most successful nights out of my life.

Come to think of it... It doesn't bother me when they're open. Only when they start gossiping about it to get a reaction.

 

[Single4Life]

That sounds amazing, Chamber36.

As I said, girls love gay men. Just add a bit of masculinity into your game, so they know you are sexually interested in them, and you are golden.

 

[JCballin88]

My most recent major fling told me she thought I was gay at first, simply because I was so genuine and nice and not a major tool/douchebag like most of the guys she knew.

 

[Chamber36]

That sounds amazing, Chamber36.

As I said, girls love gay men. Just add a bit of masculinity into your game, so they know you are sexually interested in them, and you are golden.

Thx for the spirit boost.

But if I let them know my intentions, then it might be game over.

How do you suggest I add masculinity without becoming a horn-dog? Stare at their boobs?

NOT looking at boobs is part of my game!! lol

Having your sexuality questioned is a side-effect of having game. Girls project their insecurities. I'll just try and keep it that simple.

I guess when it happens there is nothing left to do but escalate.

Edit: BTW, I could be wrong,. Maybe the phenomenon could be eliminated entirely and my game might increase as well. But how do you suggest I add masculinity. Which aspect? I can't grow more facial hair. I don't want to cut my hair. More manly body-language?? I don't think that'll fix anything. I am already quite alpha because I feel right at home in the club. I just feel IOI'ing too much is dangerous.

 

[Aaron B]

if they think you are gay that means you get to touch them all over without resistance...

 

[Mike32ct]

Ouch

They don't understand how hard it is to get with women these days, especially if you have some self-esteem issues(even if those issues are just from being frustrated from not getting with women).

Exactly.

 

[tomato]

Hey, I dunno if any of you other guys ever experience this. It's sort of been getting on my nerves though. I did get a make-out from 1 of the girls who asked me this.

I remembered Pook mentioning something about girls saying he's gay on page 224 of The Book of Pook.

He says that it's good because they see you in a sexual context. I feel it has enabled me to get close to women, but it's like every single 2-set I see whispering in each others ears is talking about the same damn thing - whether I'm gay or not - and I am getting tired of it. I wish these girls would be a bit more respectful.

I sort of get the feeling it marks the start of a new era for me though. I guess my game is really on-point and I'm not releasing any unwanted IOI's. I suppose it means I'm not simping.

This is a topic which isn't duscussed much, so I'm wondering what anyone has to say. Do you guys ever experience this, and do you use it to your advantage?

I get this quite a bit - even gotten some unwanted male attention because of it in the past - I think it was because I wasn't sexual and masculine/aggressive enough and I dressed well.

 

[PapiChulo]

It does not mean anything at all imho. At work we discuss the same thing when a woman is 'questionable' in her orientation, meaning we have no proof that she prefers d!ck over a vajajay or uses the word "girlfriend" too much. I think you all fail at being sexual....and women just can't tell which box to put you in, or more precisely where to put you on the "sexual threat scale". If you look like a bad boy, you are already highly sexual, but you are a skinny nice looking guy you have to compensate with your words and actions, which all should be very sexual! Look at Barny from How I met your Mother, it is a straight role played by a gay actor.

 

[Chamber36]

Do you really think masculinity can solve the problem??

And is it really a problem??

I'm sure there are macks who never experience this.

But I don't think I'll be able to do anything. I'm gonna own it. I'm gonna see how far it takes me. It won't last for ever. But I'm just gonna ride this out.