Girls keep telling me "I'm a nice guy"

[Quinzio]

Each time I know a girl, after a while she says I am a nice guy.
I don't know why, and I get pissed off.

Last time I knw a girl, and there was no way to get her phone n.
Three weeks later I found her hand in hand with a guy who surely has no money, no high degree, not handsome, but definetly has not the nice guy look.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Cause women arent attracted to nice guys. You were probably trying to act like a nice guy, i.e. building comfort and rapport the whole time, and thats the wrong way to do it.

 

[Quinzio]

Originally posted by I'm Joe Dirt
Cause women arent attracted to nice guys. You were probably trying to act like a nice guy, i.e. building comfort and rapport the whole time, and thats the wrong way to do it.

Hi,
if you had a minute more for me, you could explain me more what means building comfort and rapoort.

I.E. yesterday evening I exaggerated.
I stopped beside that girls, and told her how she was cute, that I wanted to be in a relationship with her.
She told me that with her boyfriend she just wants a lot of babies and to make cakes. HUH ??? what does it mean.

Then she told me she has a "pseudo-boyfriend" (her exact words)
What's that ? A guy that doesn't **** her ?
Do girls talk a different language I don't understand ??

 

[Omni]

When a woman announces to a guy that he's "nice," it means she's aware that he's interested in her, she's not attracted to him, and she wants to make clear to him that she doesn't see him as a romantic prospect.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Originally posted by Quinzio

I stopped beside that girls, and told her how she was cute, that I wanted to be in a relationship with her.

You broke 1 of the cardinal rules of the DJ bible: NEVER ASK A WOMAN FOR AN EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. Desperation is the ultimate turn off for a woman and you let your desperation for a GF get the best of you. You need to seriously study the DJ bible and Don't post anything else here until you do.

 

[Don Ronny]

GIRL: You are such a nice guy.

ME: It's all an illusion. I am really nothing but bad news and will most certainly be a terrible influence on you, my sweet and innocent friend.

HAHA...they ALWAYS protest and try to prove to me how naughty they are after that. Women are so predictable sometimes.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

A pseudo-bf is probably a guy she fvks a lot but doesnt get all the niceties she can get from "nice guys" like flowers and dinners and commitment.

If you give a girl compliments, let her know you are interested, give her direct answers, always be nice, always be on your "best behavior", you are being a "nice guy" and her IL is lessening by the minute.

You gotta be kidding me that you actually said you want a relationship with her and that you like her. That's total AFCness.

If you act ANY different around a girl than you do around your regular guy buddies, thats a good indicator you're probably putting on a fake persona and selling yourself short by not showing her the true you which is attractive but showing her instead the fake nice you which is a wussy and not attractive.

 

[Quinzio]

Originally posted by I'm Joe Dirt
A pseudo-bf is probably a guy she fvks a lot but doesnt get all the niceties she can get from "nice guys" like flowers and dinners and commitment.

If you give a girl compliments, let her know you are interested, give her direct answers, always be nice, always be on your "best behavior", you are being a "nice guy" and her IL is lessening by the minute.

You gotta be kidding me that you actually said you want a relationship with her and that you like her. That's total AFCness.

If you act ANY different around a girl than you do around your regular guy buddies, thats a good indicator you're probably putting on a fake persona and selling yourself short by not showing her the true you which is attractive but showing her instead the fake nice you which is a wussy and not attractive.

"
You gotta be kidding me that you actually said you want a relationship with her and that you like her. That's total AFCness
"

I did.

So, do I have to keep the same "roughness" I may have with my male buddy, when i'm with a girl, too ?

What is "IL" ?

Thanks for your time. (Am I nice with you, here, with this sentence ?)

 

[Quinzio]

Originally posted by Dust 2 Dust
You broke 1 of the cardinal rules of the DJ bible: NEVER ASK A WOMAN FOR AN EXCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. Desperation is the ultimate turn off for a woman and you let your desperation for a GF get the best of you. You need to seriously study the DJ bible and Don't post anything else here until you do.

Thanks for your reply.
From the DJ bible:
Tarry! Then I will step aside and let you speak.

"Testosterone is clearly correlated in both men and women with psychological dominance, confident physicality and high self-esteem. In most combative, competitive environments, especially physical ones, the person with the most testosterone wins. Put any two men in a room together and the one with more testosterone will tend to dominate the interaction."

Gentlemen, this is your secret 'ingredient' to that 'alpha-maleness' you keep longing for.


I already read the bible.
So, do I have to inject testosterone in my vein ?

The bible eventually doesn't tell what you have to do to act like a jerk, or to beacome a , or how to fake like a jerk.
Or a nice guy like I am really cannot really understand where the point is ?

Maybe do I have to put my hands on her hands after 10 minutes I talk to her ?

 

[PeoplesChamp]

I like what Don Ronny said.

So adding to that scope of advice. Be quick to point out how niave that opinion is. "God you're niave."

 

[Docs]

The DJ bible is a guideline, not a tutorial. It's up to you in the end to figure out how to handle women. You will hear mountains of sh!t (and some useful stuff) in these forums, you have to take it all, throw out the crap and take your knowledge, apply it and see what provides the most benefit. Evenually, you will find that the bible...doesn't apply to you, because you will have developed your own style of meeting/keeping/dealing with women, and that is the ultimate goal of a DJ, along with being self-satisfied.

So don't go running to K-MART for some shots of T, or drinking fountains of beer, it comes with time. All of us have made mistakes.

 

[Docs]

you must be talking about how 'naive' he is?

 

[00Kevin]

the most you can do in this situation is just tell her about all the dates you are on with other girls and tell her some of the bad things you think when you are with them.


most importantly, you need to just next her

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Originally posted by Don Ronny
GIRL: You are such a nice guy.

ME: It's all an illusion. I am really nothing but bad news and will most certainly be a terrible influence on you, my sweet and innocent friend.

HAHA...they ALWAYS protest and try to prove to me how naughty they are after that. Women are so predictable sometimes.

lol! now that is ****y & funny! adding it to my list!
btw Quinzio, READ THE DAMN DJ BIBLE!

 

[BackToTheMack]

A lot of times when a woman describes me she says im "Nice" but i am never nice to girls. I think they say it because they are so used to saying they want a nice guy so when they are attracted to a guy they say "he's a nice guy" not taking into account his actual personality traits.

"your a nice guy" in reality means "im attracted to you" it has nothign to do with youa ctuly being nice.

BUT of course somtiems you can just be a nice guy so she says you are nice.

 

[Lost In Translation]

BackToTheMack
"your a nice guy" in reality means "im attracted to you" it has nothign to do with youa ctuly being nice.

WRONG !

women don't want a nice guy

ignore the babble that spews forth from their mouths

WOMEN WANT A MAN

nice guy = pu$$y

and guess what ! she already has a pu$$y so she don't need another !


Lost In Translation

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[BackToTheMack]

You misunderstand im not saying she wants a nice guy i am saying that she says she wants a nice guy. So when she is attracted to you she thinks your her perfect guy she just says you are nice without actuly meaning you are a nice guy.

It is just her saying i am attracted to you. Women always say they want a "nice guy" so when they meet a DJ and they are attracted to him they will just say "he is nice" not because he is nice but because thats the word they use to describe there perfect guy.

I know women do not want a true nice guy.

Understand?

 

[Lost In Translation]

clear as mud

chicks usually say " you're mean "

etc etc and by that i know they like me

if some chick said nice i would be wondering where the f*ck i went wrong lol


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[BackToTheMack]

That is diffrent again i am talking about when i say to a chick something along the lines of "why do you keep calling me?" she replys "because your nice" Me "hahahah sinc ewhen have i been nice to you?"she replys "no its i dont know i cant explain it".

This is just one example that happend last week. A lot of girls say nice without meaning nice guy.

If you are getting it a lot than it may be a problem.

I love it when they say "ur mean" and hit u thats when you know your about to have sex.

 

[Jariel]

There's a lot of confusion here about being nice and being a "nice guy".

This following article explains the differences:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82097