Girlfriend stealing

[mamefan77]

ummm sorry extreme newb here...... did a little searching and checked the DJ bible....
This topic might be a bit frowned upon.... but...

Ive got the hots for a gal that I work with thats had the same steady boyfriend for over 5 years. Little things she says about him tell me that he really isnt the guy for her. Frankly I think she's bored to death of him, but its hard letting go of a relationship that has gone on that long....

Ok so I need some advice. I want to make this girl mine. How would u suggest movin in on a girl with a boyfriend like this? I dont want to just blatantly ask her out --- she knows that I KNOW that she has a boyfriend. So I need to be as sneaky as possible....

Any ideas greatly appreciated!!!!

 

[MVPlaya]

Be as sneaky as possible? Trick her into a date and sneak up on her for a kiss? No, you do NOT want to be sneaky. Be funny, show her you're a cool guy. And don't be fazed by her having a boyfriend.

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Also, guys, stop yelling about "No! I lost my gf, don't do that."

You are all GWOBs for saying that (Guys Without *****es who lost their EX's to DJ's and now scour SoSuave to put down upcoming DJ's).

 

[joey37]

Don't listen to MVPLAYA he's a moron. If the girl really is bored with the guy, tell her to break up with him and then go for her. Why the **** go behind someone's back?

Another thing to remember, if she'll mess him over for you, she'll most likely do the same to you.

 

[sux2bu]

Go here and read up:

http://www.pickupguide.com/layguide/bfsmash.htm

You have to have BALLS to do it, though. That's how I met the girl I'm seeing now.. I got my foot in the door while she was (sorta) seeing another guy. Your attitude has to be full-bore right out of the gate with your intentions, but never display insecurity or jealousy. Act as though she is ALREADY yours.

 

[becker]

Here we go again...don't mess with a girl with a BF unless you can get her to break up with him. That's the only exception.

Most of the time, a relationship that long, even if it were to break up today, it will go through a period of get back together-break up again crap before it gets cut off for good, if at all. Quite a pain in the arse if you're waiting in the wings. Best to move on unless you know they definitely don't want each other and are in that period where they are totally sick of each other (which doesn't happen that often if they've been together that long).

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by joey37
Don't listen to MVPLAYA he's a moron. If the girl really is bored with the guy, tell her to break up with him and then go for her. Why the **** go behind someone's back?

Another thing to remember, if she'll mess him over for you, she'll most likely do the same to you.

Dood your a complete AFC!!! MVPlaya its completely right!!! You treat girls who have boyfriends EXACTLY like you treat girls who are single. But keep in mind, the only way she'll leave her boyfriend for you or even cheat on him is if

A) she's already bored with ther relationship
B) you've created attraction between the 2 of you.


So work on being confident, and Alpha. Trust me, if she's interested she'll let you know.


Last thing: Don't fall into the trap of being the guy who listens to her problems!!! If a girl has a boyfriend and she constantly talks about him in front of you (good or bad) she's still into him!!




PIMP

 

[joey37]

There's nothing AFC about it. You wouldn't like it if somebody did it to you and I'm thinking it's happened quite a lot to you. All you're getting is a classless ***** who can't be trusted, if you want to steal that, then you might be sorry.


Some of these so called Senior DJ's need to get their heads out of their asses and start socializing in real life.

 

[Monkey]

Originally posted by mamefan77
Ive got the hots for a gal that I work with thats had the same steady boyfriend for over 5 years. Little things she says about him tell me that he really isnt the guy for her. Frankly I think she's bored to death of him, but its hard letting go of a relationship that has gone on that long....

Ok so I need some advice. I want to make this girl mine. How would u suggest movin in on a girl with a boyfriend like this? I dont want to just blatantly ask her out --- she knows that I KNOW that she has a boyfriend. So I need to be as sneaky as possible....

Any ideas greatly appreciated!!!!

Dont be sneaky at all, show her what a great guy you are, keep making her laugh, but show you can be serious when the time calls for it. Throw in a few very light suggestive comments about you and her but always in a joking way ...at first.

Her boyfriend does not even come into the equation, all you are doing is giving this girl an opportunity to leave him and hook up with you.

The thing is many, many girls in LTRs will stay in those relationships even if they are medicore. Most women need a bf in their lives and the thought of being alone, especially after such a long time with someone, scares them to death.

This girl is putting out the feelers right now for a better deal. It shouldn't be thought badly of and you can't blame her for doing this.

But there has to be a time when you do make a suggestion to go out with her. If you don't then she'll probably never ask you out straight, why should she, if she thinks like most women she'll expect the guy to make that move and anyway it would be too much of a risk for her.

If she was happy with her bf theres no way you'd be getting the signals that she is bored with him.

Ignore bf, proceed as though she is single.

 

[drixsa]

i find that most guys that go after girls that have boy friends dont have any other prospects (or very few for that matter)

go out and find 5 other girls and get to know them and tell me this girl is still worth it.

MVPlaya said: No, you do NOT want to be sneaky. Be funny, show her you're a cool guy. And don't be fazed by her having a boyfriend.

i fail to see how this is AFC whatsoever. he is saying be yourself.

see my quote,

Becker said: Here we go again...don't mess with a girl with a BF unless you can get her to break up with him. That's the only exception.Most of the time, a relationship that long, even if it were to break up today, it will go through a period of get back together-break up again crap before it gets cut off for good, if at all. Quite a pain in the arse if you're waiting in the wings. Best to move on unless you know they definitely don't want each other and are in that period where they are totally sick of each other (which doesn't happen that often if they've been together that long).

so true, unless the guy does something horrible, he is not going to vanish from her life.

even if she wants to break up they have both been using each other as a clutch for so long, that they dont even know they are wobbling.

joey37 said: There's nothing AFC about it. You wouldn't like it if somebody did it to you and I'm thinking it's happened quite a lot to you. All you're getting is a classless ***** who can't be trusted, if you want to steal that, then you might be sorry.

Some of these so called Senior DJ's need to get their heads out of their asses and start socializing in real life.

joey i am a firm beliver that you cannot steal someone unless they want to be stolen. And if you are dating a girl, and you find a better one for you, does it make you a "classless *****" to go after her? can you still be trusted? sometimes things have to get a little complicated and sometimes people have to get hurt.

if you found that better chick you would be doing the first girl a favor becuase she really isnt for you, thus you arent wasting her time and just staying with her b/c you have been together so long.

this is the DJ long term process to find the best chick for YOU.

if she is happy with this guy then the original poster is not going to succeed.

 

[joey37]

Originally posted by drixsa
i find that most guys that go after girls that have boy friends dont have any other prospects (or very few for that matter)

go out and find 5 other girls and get to know them and tell me this girl is still worth it.



i fail to see how this is AFC whatsoever. he is saying be yourself.

see my quote,



so true, unless the guy does something horrible, he is not going to vanish from her life.

even if she wants to break up they have both been using each other as a clutch for so long, that they dont even know they are wobbling.





joey i am a firm beliver that you cannot steal someone unless they want to be stolen. And if you are dating a girl, and you find a better one for you, does it make you a "classless *****" to go after her? can you still be trusted? sometimes things have to get a little complicated and sometimes people have to get hurt.

if you found that better chick you would be doing the first girl a favor becuase she really isnt for you, thus you arent wasting her time and just staying with her b/c you have been together so long.

this is the DJ long term process to find the best chick for YOU.

if she is happy with this guy then the original poster is not going to succeed.

Well, what you said makes sense. It's true, if the girl really loves the guy, no amount of DJ'ing is going to make her leave him.

 

[joey37]

A quick word of caution: the reason I so vehemently advise agaisnt going after another guy's girl, is because you are taking some big risks. For example, I have a friend who thought he was going to be Mr DJ and steal this girl who he worked with. He was aware that she was engaged, but that didn't matter to him. Well, it turns out the guy she was engaged to was an ex-con, with a slight "anger management" problem.


He did manage to get a date with this girl, but her fiance found out who he was and he ended up getting his jaw broke in 8 places. He had to have several corrective surgeries and still has problems chewing. And btw.........the girl dumped him and went back to her fiance....LOL.....


So you hotshots who think you're being cool macking on other guy's girls, better make sure she's worth it.

 

[BGMan]

Treat girls with BFs like any other girls. If they go out with you and you end up kissing, then 1) the BF is on the way out, or 2) the girl is a wh0re. And if you have been with women for a while, you should be able to tell if a girl is a wh0re or not. And even if the girl is a wh0re, if she was really in love with her BF she wouldn't make out with another guy.

Stay away from married women, however. That's not just a DJ rule, but one of the ten commandments.

BGMan

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by joey37
Well, what you said makes sense. It's true, if the girl really loves the guy, no amount of DJ'ing is going to make her leave him.

So your eating your words now??? Dood I've never had a girl leave me for another guy....LOL And like I said above, you don't steal girls away from their boyfriends, because if they cheat on their boyfriends then they were already looking to get out of the relationship. And like Drixsa said, if your seeing a girl, and you find another girl, that doesn't make you an ******* for leaving girl A!! It makes you an Alpha male who is open and honest with his intentions and desires!!!


AND YES THIS "SENIOR DJ" KNOWS HIS ****!! LOL


PIMP

 

[FitnessGuy]

IMO a girl with a boyfriend is simply not worth it.
1. It can cause problems for you with the boyfriend, you might have to fight him etc.
2. You will hurt the boyfriends feelings if you f4ck his girl, think about it, how would you like it if someone banged your girlfriend after you were with her for FIVE years.
3. If the girl cheats on her boyfriend then that means she will cheat on you.

There are plenty of other reasons, the list goes on dude. There are millions of hot women, forget about this one and move on.

 

[joey37]

Originally posted by Pimp-sicle
So your eating your words now??? Dood I've never had a girl leave me for another guy....LOL And like I said above, you don't steal girls away from their boyfriends, because if they cheat on their boyfriends then they were already looking to get out of the relationship. And like Drixsa said, if your seeing a girl, and you find another girl, that doesn't make you an ******* for leaving girl A!! It makes you an Alpha male who is open and honest with his intentions and desires!!!


AND YES THIS "SENIOR DJ" KNOWS HIS ****!! LOL


PIMP

I'm not eating my words. What the guy said makes sense. Heads up though with the psycho boyfriends.


BTW, I don't think you know ****

 

[Frank Zappa]

Originally posted by joey37
BTW, I don't think you know ****

I think he does... Read his title... it says senior DJ...
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it says SENIOR DJ... What are you... Bull from Night Court?

 

[becker]

I remember not too long ago, I had a one-itis and she had a BF. It was a pretty long, drawn out thing, and she finally got engaged to him. I slowly disappeared from the picture, and now I've moved on to another girl, this time without a BF (but broken up not too long ago).

For this reason, I know what it's like from both sides of the coin. It's easy to sit back and say "why go for the girl with a BF", but now, even though I'm no longer pursuing a girl with a BF, it's still easy to see how one can be attached to a girl who is compatible with them, with the only obstacle being that she has a BF.

Remember, attraction is not a choice, so if you're into a girl, the BF does not kill that attraction, it just makes you have to refrain from acting on it. That's the tough part.

 

[Monkey]

Originally posted by becker
the BF does not kill that attraction, it just makes you have to refrain from acting on it.

IMO you should act on it, you owe it to yourself AND her. If theres a mutual attraction between the two of you, you have nothing to lose by asking for her number or out on a date and then let her decide how far to take it.

You never know, there may a situaton - you meet girl, have great chemisty and she is hanging in there with mediocre boyfriend just waiting for you to ask her out.

But you never do, just because she has a bf and then she thinks you have no interest in her. She then settles down with mediocre boyfriend because hes the safe, secure option never knowing and always wondering if only he would have shown some interest and balls I would have dumped bf and hooked up with him.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Originally posted by joey37
I'm not eating my words. What the guy said makes sense. Heads up though with the psycho boyfriends.


BTW, I don't think you know ****

Bro you said what Drixsa said makes sense right?? Well he said you CANNOT steal a girl away from her boyfriend unless she wants to be stolen. Well gee...ummm. WTF did I say in my initial post??

I believe it says:

1) unless she's already bored with the relationship!!!

Gee that looks like the same exact **** that Drixsa said. Hey you can sit there and be blind to how this works and that's fine by me. But don't come *****in' to us when your next girl leaves you for a real DJ.



PIMP-(AND YOUR RIGHT...I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS.... )

 

[AFC-Murdaz]

don't do it unless you can do it safely