Girlfriend stealing

[becker]

Originally posted by Monkey
IMO you should act on it, you owe it to yourself AND her. If theres a mutual attraction between the two of you, you have nothing to lose by asking for her number or out on a date and then let her decide how far to take it.

You never know, there may a situaton - you meet girl, have great chemisty and she is hanging in there with mediocre boyfriend just waiting for you to ask her out.

But you never do, just because she has a bf and then she thinks you have no interest in her. She then settles down with mediocre boyfriend because hes the safe, secure option never knowing and always wondering if only he would have shown some interest and balls I would have dumped bf and hooked up with him.

I guess the main problem with acting on it is that she may reject you because she doesn't want to seem like a total cheat, rather than because she doesn't like you. Maybe you have to have a long deep talk with her about what's going on with her, and try to find out whether she is in fact tired of the BF and willing to break up with him if you are interested. I don't know, it's a tough situation either way, and probably not one that can be done easily. That's why people argue against it.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Becker: You don't want to talk to the girl about the situation with her boyfriend EVER. In most situations where the girl is already bored with her boyfriend and starts hanging out with another guy, she'll break up with her boyfriend and continue hanging with her new fling. Once she's certain that the new fling is a good candidate she'll let him know that she's offically single, in essence saying, "I want to be your girlfriend." Patience is key in this process.


PIMP

 

[becker]

I agree that you want to avoid the BF talk as much as possible. However, I have never heard a girl say "I want to be your girlfriend"?

 

[MVPlaya]

Originally posted by joey37
Don't listen to MVPLAYA he's a moron. If the girl really is bored with the guy, tell her to break up with him and then go for her. Why the **** go behind someone's back?

Another thing to remember, if she'll mess him over for you, she'll most likely do the same to you.

*Slap!*

Anyway, GWOB, what you need to understand is that, first of all, no one forces the girl to leave her man. Now, my friend stole his current girlfriend from some other guy and he's with her for 2.5 years and she's bomb. Now, about stealing, are you trying to tell me you've never been in a relationship and suddenly lost attraction or decided you were more attracted to someone else? Same with the chick, if you can steal her only 2 possible things happened:

1. She wasn't so attracted to her man anyway.
2. Our man is more attractive.

Now, you don't need to go behind someone's back. I've seen guys steal girls by suaving them but not doing anything and making it clear the girl would have to break up with her man before going for him. All in all, stealing girls is not a taboo, if you can, go for it. However, I do have 2 rules when it comes to stealing or cheating or whatever.

1. If she has a fiancee, husband, kids.... back the ƒuck off.

2. If you are friends with her boyfriend... back the ƒuck off.

Anything else is fair game.