University.Kid
Don Juan
What's up guys? So I guess I haven't been here for nearly 4 years. I'm having some trouble with my girlfriend and honestly have no idea where to go for advice.
Here's the situation.
I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months. We've known each other for 2.5 years, have hooked up on and off over that time frame, getting serious at times then scaling back. The reason for this is because she lives 1.5 hours away from me both in the summer and also during the school year. I have lots of friends at her University and vice versa so we (now) see each other every weekend.
I originally (stupidly) brought up exclusivity before school started last year, but she said that she didn't think she could do the distance so we just stayed casual. At the start of this school year (after hanging out every weekend in the summer) she asked me to be exclusive.
Recently I found out that she slept with someone else last school year. I'm not sure of the exact time frame, but she lead me to believe it was before Christmas. Now we weren't exclusive but we were sleeping together quite often, and sex was a big deal to her (had only slept with 1 other guy once before me, then this guy in the middle). She told me she slept with 2 other people when we discussed sexual history, but lead me to believe that they were both years ago. For the past year (during time frame they had sex) we haven't worn condoms.
Also last year she met someone on a trip to Europe and ended up flying down to the US to spend a weekend with him in April before going to see her parents. We slept together both after she returned from her original trip, as well as a couple days before she left to go see him, and she only told me about going to see her parents.
So she broke things off with this guy during the summer when we started getting closer and hasn't talked to him since. She also claims the guy she slept with last year was a one-night stand and she doesn't even know the guy.
Should I get out before this gets worse or am I overreacting to her simply pursuing other guys when we weren't dating? She has done nothing to make me believe anything has happened since we started dating.
Thanks in advance.
Here's the situation.
I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months. We've known each other for 2.5 years, have hooked up on and off over that time frame, getting serious at times then scaling back. The reason for this is because she lives 1.5 hours away from me both in the summer and also during the school year. I have lots of friends at her University and vice versa so we (now) see each other every weekend.
I originally (stupidly) brought up exclusivity before school started last year, but she said that she didn't think she could do the distance so we just stayed casual. At the start of this school year (after hanging out every weekend in the summer) she asked me to be exclusive.
Recently I found out that she slept with someone else last school year. I'm not sure of the exact time frame, but she lead me to believe it was before Christmas. Now we weren't exclusive but we were sleeping together quite often, and sex was a big deal to her (had only slept with 1 other guy once before me, then this guy in the middle). She told me she slept with 2 other people when we discussed sexual history, but lead me to believe that they were both years ago. For the past year (during time frame they had sex) we haven't worn condoms.
Also last year she met someone on a trip to Europe and ended up flying down to the US to spend a weekend with him in April before going to see her parents. We slept together both after she returned from her original trip, as well as a couple days before she left to go see him, and she only told me about going to see her parents.
So she broke things off with this guy during the summer when we started getting closer and hasn't talked to him since. She also claims the guy she slept with last year was a one-night stand and she doesn't even know the guy.
Should I get out before this gets worse or am I overreacting to her simply pursuing other guys when we weren't dating? She has done nothing to make me believe anything has happened since we started dating.
Thanks in advance.