Well im glad that you and your girl are having sex maybe I'll give you a cookie. I never said it was okay not to have sex. But rather than just end the relationship its a way for him to work her back into sex rather than dumping her.backbreaker said:
Do you just want him to walk up to her and say "hey give me sex or Im breaking up with you"
I dont know I always fight for the other person and I try my best to see if they're going through something or not.
The thing is that there are woman who were my friends have actually expressed the same thing about their bf's to me that she is saying to him. Its good having female friends so when you are dating a woman even though a womans advice can be wrong it helps to get a balanced perspective. ANd yes these women are still with these men, one couple together for 5 years another for 7 years. And the guys are my good high school friends.
Sometimes they can be right. Women that is.
Its simple She has decreased interest in sex, why she lost that interest could be a number of reasons. From what she said it appears she wants more romance, give it to her in a PUA way, ****y funny way play with her. Give her a date to the beach and grab her and kiss her and say "uhuh you cant have this" with a smile.
I mean do you want him to whine to his woman "give me sex now...why wont you give it to me....why"
Play the game. Should he start an argument with her over it "hey give me sex" and guilt her into it.
Yes my ex used to give me sex when she wasnt in the mood at times and even told me, "Baby I want to keep you happy and if Im not turned on doesnt matter" and I said "baby i feel the same, You know I cant get enough of you and if you want me and Im tired im still gonna go between your legs" and just stick my tongue out at her.
So why isnt she giving him sex even though a good woman is supposed to even though she might not be turned out. Maybe there is something DEEPER going on with her.
1) Maybe she is cheating
2) Maybe she is hormonal
3) Maybe she doesnt feel attracted to you but isnt cheating
4) Maybe she is telling the truth and wants to feel special
Which one are you going to pick?
1) If you pick cheating then you obviously have to confront her about it, in a offensive manner and end it with her right there and then.
2) Ask her if she is hormonal, she will get pissed and women have no idea when they are or arent it comes and goes so asking is pointless
3) Asking her if she isnt attracted to you anymore shows weakness and insecurity and if you can sense it you can try to work your magic, but do you think asking her "hey baby are you not attracted to me anymore?" is going to create anything positive? You could ask her in a masculine way at some point but not yet.
4) Ah the last option even though you have no idea that if this is the problem or not, its what you can play on and keep the relationship together, do you just want to end it over speculative cheating WTF is that. Romance her in a PUA way and then wait and observe her.
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You'll know when you've turned enough of the charm on and if she still isnt responding, then just ask her "hey baby why arent we in between the sheets, are you still feeling down about it?" and if she says she is, just ask her "What would you say it was thats holding you back"
Then just use your BS meter to gauge her
1) she starts crying and says baby I dont feel loved by you (real)
2) She says "Idk its just im not sure hmm..." (WARNING bull****)
Just about any wishy washy answer is BS. Thats when you hold her hand and say, "(her name) I need to know whats going on with you its really starting to bother me"
if she avoids the subject or just walks away in anger or doesnt take you seriously.
breakup.
You did what you had to do, and didnt just assume she was cheating without any proof. Assumptions make you into an ass, I lost a decent girl because I would always be questioning her because this site seems to be paranoid.
"what no sex" means she is cheating
"what she flaked on you" she is losing interest
"what she said this and that" dump her ass
I just think you need to be a bit more balanced. Make your moves like a silent killer instead of big bang. Keep your cool, play along jump through a few hoops, re-evaluate, know that you are strong and will walk away at anytime but still play the game. Once it reaches your threshold of "enough is enough" Break up. Use some finesse you cant have a strong relationship if you keep threatening to leave every time you dont get what you want.
What do you think I did with my ex. I was always willing to walk away. If she had to cancel plans to take care of her mother or was late to a date, I told her "hey if you cant respect me I dont think this is going to work between me and you Im going to leave" => fight.
Turns out I didnt even bother to ask her why she was late or why she couldnt make it to our date. She was late because her mother had to be taken to the hospital and later I drive her to visit her there. She couldnt make it because her younger brother had just gotten arrested and she didnt want to tell me she was embarrassed, and I know its true because Ive been to her house and I knew the whole family was upset.
Pace your woman, apply suave and PUA techniques and observe reaction, SEX yes? ...good SEX No?....not good maybe breakup but first talk about it.
Sometimes threatening to walk away all the time can be some deep insecurity of being hurt and not being able to keep yourself a little bit open to possibly being hurt by a woman.
If he finds out she WAS cheating on him, is he going to feel a bit sheepish for not walking up to her and saying "Hey your c*nt smells now get your a** out of my house"
But a strong man doesnt always run for the hills every time a problem appears and he doesnt get what he wants. He stays even though he could get hurt, but in the back of his mind he always has his ACE card waiting if he needs to use it.
And dont kid yourself with that Abundance mentality and spinning plates, if youre with a woman for 18 months its not something you can just turn around and replace with another woman so you kind of owe to yourself to work a bit to save it.
Sure a girl you met two weeks ago shuts you down, no big deal you're spinning plates who gives a damn i got more girls. But 18 months slow down and pick your move player
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