Girlfriend Is Behaving Distant?

[Ranger]

Understanding the nature of arguments is something that a man needs to understand.
Unless it’s something like her or you wrecking a car etc. , arguments are the result of undisclosed intent or results from acts that are not disclosed to you.

Simple disagreements are pretty normal. Just don’t participate. They really are simple to defuse. They are designed to trigger your stupid ego and your pathetic drive to be right.

It is used against you. Arguments are a result of a justification machine.

Here’s an example....
She went in a coffee date. She knows that it is implied that you are bother exclusive.

She feels an impulse towards a man and she acts in it. Now she has to work backwards. There must be something wrong with the two of you or she wouldn’t have done it in the first place.

She may even take something you did a month ago and now it’s a HUGE problem. Don’t fall for this. By adding up all those “faults” and compiling them, she is now vindicated.

The Argument is even more validation as she now baits you into one. Every word you speak only enforces how much she was right about you. It’s something men fall for nearly every time.

This is how you handle it.

Susie: “I don’t like that when you do it and there’s that time you did such and such.” - criticism

Me : “Is that so?” With a steady look, right into her eyes. Calm. Reserved. Certain.
“So are you going to tell me?”

Susie: “Tell you what?” Her demeanor is changed. She is ready to blow up. Why? You have her.

Me: “Are you going to tell me what you did that I don’t know about?”

Prepare yourself for a blow up. It’s automatic. Let her stomp off. The second she got critical...she was already gone.

 

[soulforge]

@flowtheory i think your gf told you the same thing read this thread



The too scared of getting too emotionally involved sound a big load of BS

I can see alot more going on than just a disrespect when a woman says things like that.
It seems to me like a warning of things to come, it sound like she is giving him an excuse for the break up thats gonna happen soon.

Nah man.. Seriously that dude has a hold on her.. He just walks through the door into her house without even knocking on the door.

Like I said.. Damaged fuking goods

 

[lamath]

Understanding the nature of arguments is something that a man needs to understand.
Unless it’s something like her or you wrecking a car etc. , arguments are the result of undisclosed intent or results from acts that are not disclosed to you.

Id say that every time the reason for a fight seem stupid and ridiculous this is the case.

Took me a very long time to understand this because they almost never gonna tell you the real reason, you got to guess

 

[lamath]

Nah man.. Seriously that dude has a hold on her.. He just walks through the door into her house without even knocking on the door.

Like I said.. Damaged fuking goods

Be glad then, she did you a favor!!



You think something happened with ex recently that made her break up with you?

 

[SoSuave666]

I was not there to look at the details which led to the quoted point but this would be a deal breaker to me simply because she placed another above me in terms of her emotional investment. That’s an ultimate form of disrespect to our relation, and I likely would have ended it right there out of the felt insult.

I don’t believe she was looking for reassurance there, but rather a willingness to share such an insult to potentially drive you away. Here is where she already checked out, IMO, especially your treating it as if It were unsaid and not dealing with her accordingly.

Looking deeper though, I would be more interested in the dynamics which got her to that point.

Yep - I would have been GONE the second she started blabbing about her ex and how he emotionally damaged her. If you have an alpha widow on your hands it is always best just to leave.

 

[lamath]

Once had a woman bring up something I did before we even had a first date, at the end of a 1yr relationship lol. Really amazing.

As a man i find this very hard to understand. And this is how ex was able to drive me mad with anger by starting argument about insignificant things that was going much deeper

 

[Ranger]

Once had a woman bring up something I did before we even had a first date, at the end of a 1yr relationship lol. Really amazing.

Men are so easily duped that it was them. It’s a total mind fuk. Men walking around thinking they lost her because he accidentally ran over her teddy bear or didn’t seem too verly concerned that her mom was mean to her.

Arguments are a smoke screen. Nothing more, nothing less.

 

[SoSuave666]

@soulforge I always became less sexually interested in my woman when in LTR first. Always. Then, when we inevitably broke up, all I could think about was who she was sleeping with/I wanted to sleep with her. It's all about scarcity mindset. If you had hotter HBs wanting to smoke your pole, you wouldn't give a ****.

 

[stevieLA]

@soulforge I always became less sexually interested in my woman when in LTR first. Always. Then, when we inevitably broke up, all I could think about was who she was sleeping with/I wanted to sleep with her. It's all about scarcity mindset. If you had hotter HBs wanting to smoke your pole, you wouldn't give a ****.

He said he laid an hb8 same night or day after the breakup. If he has the ability to pull an hb8 right after a breakup I don't see why he's still pining over a 40 something, emotionally damaged, single mom out of town.

But you're right, the times when I've met a girl who was hotter than my ex right after or shortly after breakup, I got over the breakup real fast!

 

[soulforge]

@soulforge I always became less sexually interested in my woman when in LTR first. Always. Then, when we inevitably broke up, all I could think about was who she was sleeping with/I wanted to sleep with her. It's all about scarcity mindset. If you had hotter HBs wanting to smoke your pole, you wouldn't give a ****.

Here is the thing.. I do recruitment and deliver training for my company.. We have young chicks come and go on a daily basis in our training academy.. Most are prime to ****.. The temptation is always there.. Currently have a 19 year old who wants to suck hard on my nut sack.. But I don't think mixing business with pleasure is the way forward.

Here is where I fuxked up.. I dropped two hot fukin plates in order to be with this chick.

Why? Because I chose quality over looks.. However only recently I realised, she wasn't the girl I thought she was.. She hid it well.. She is still under the spell of her Ex..

Plus I can't do this LONG distance BS anymore.. ***** did me a favour, otherwise I would have continued on with her, wasting my fukin life..

Thanks.. Now I leave you to the fukin animals lol

 

[soulforge]

He said he laid an hb8 same night or day after the breakup. If he has the ability to pull an hb8 right after a breakup I don't see why he's still pining over a 40 something, emotionally damaged, single mom out of town.

But you're right, the times when I've met a girl who was hotter than my ex right after or shortly after breakup, I got over the breakup real fast!

Bruv thanks to my job.. I've got access to puzzy all day long from work... But I wanted something more in my life.. Tired of fukin woman, meaningless sex.. I just took a shine to her... And for two years she was a fantastic Girlfriend... I think

 

[stevieLA]

Long distance, emotionally damaged, single mom, late 30's or 40's is not quality. It's the exact opposite.

 

[Billtx49]

Bruv thanks to my job.. I've got access to puzzy all day long from work... But I wanted something more in my life.. Tired of fukin woman, meaningless sex.. I just took a shine to her... And for two years she was a fantastic Girlfriend... I think

Well you emotionally invested and that comes with risks. Try to invest wisely now…

 

[Ranger]

However only recently I realised, she wasn't the girl I thought she was.. She hid it well.. She is still under the spell of her Ex..

This will always be the case. There is no exception. There is always someone else. The one who got away.
It’s funny as hell. Learn to laugh at them. They really are dumb as a post.

 

[soulforge]

This will always be the case. There is no exception. There is always someone else. The one who got away.
It’s funny as hell. Learn to laugh at them. They really are dumb as a post.

And this is the realisation.. The dudes that treat them like fuking garbage, these woman become addicted to them like a crack *****s.. The ones that treat them well don't mean chit!!

 

[guru1000]

I can see alot more going on than just a disrespect when a woman says things like that.
It seems to me like a warning of things to come, it sound like she is giving him an excuse for the break up thats gonna happen soon.

Not necessarily. She was looking to get dumped like her ex dumped her to re-ignite those feelings of abandonment and lust. If not from OP, then from someone else.

Something clued her in that OP was not so willing to walk away so she advanced that statement (although true), a shlt text of sorts, as the final test (meaning there were other failed tests that led to this).

But OP stuck around.

Understand, a girl would not advance such a statement unless she knew she could. If she never knew where she stood with OP, she would fall in line and not likely jeopardized the relation.

Her lost interest is due in part to her KNOWing her status with him rather than guessing and second-guessing. Nothing bores a person more than something or someone whom has been (emotionally) conquered.

 

[soulforge]

Well you emotionally invested and that comes with risks. Try to invest wisely now…

Bruv this is why I feel this break up is exactly what I needed.. A fukin wake up call..

 

[soulforge]

Long distance, emotionally damaged, single mom, late 30's or 40's is not quality. It's the exact opposite.

Wisest words.. All day!

 

[Robert28]

And this is the realisation.. The dudes that treat them like fuking garbage, these woman become addicted to them like a crack *****s.. The ones that treat them well don't mean chit!!

They become addicted to ****bag men because truthfully THATS WHAT THEY WANT. There’s no such thing is “ooops I didn’t know he was a jackass for the 7 years I dated him”. You know why? Because when they date a guy like you that treats them halfway decent, they run the other way. Those girls are pros and know how to suck you in though, it’s happened to me. Now when I meet a girl and she tells me how bad her ex was I run the other way, I save myself the trouble because I know how it’ll end up. Everything is sunshine and roses at first and she will tell you how wonderful you are, a man like she’s never dated, you’ll buy into it and then bam.....you get the exit you got.

 

[soulforge]

They become addicted to ****bag men because truthfully THATS WHAT THEY WANT. There’s no such thing is “ooops I didn’t know he was a jackass for the 7 years I dated him”. You know why? Because when they date a guy like you that treats them halfway decent, they run the other way. Those girls are pros and know how to suck you in though, it’s happened to me. Now when I meet a girl and she tells me how bad her ex was I run the other way, I save myself the trouble because I know how it’ll end up. Everything is sunshine and roses at first and she will tell you how wonderful you are, a man like she’s never dated, you’ll buy into it and then bam.....you get the exit you got.

Bruv... Anyone can call me what they want on here... But from here on I will treat every woman that I meet like a fukin professional C#Nt..

Believe me, dudes who give zero fuks about them, get the most out of them!


I will give you an example... My recent ex!

Her - My ex always treated me Like crap and even hit me.

Me - How long was you with him? 15 years and had 3 kids with him.

I rest my fukin Case!