Girlfriend Going Clubbing

[INXS]

I agree. A woman is either the type to cheat or she is not. You can't expect to keep a cheater faithful by cutting off all her opportunities to cheat. She has to WANT to be faithful to you.

I mean, let's say that she is going to the club with the intentions to pick up another guy. Would preventing her from going make her less of a cheater?

For a relationship to work, you must have confidence in yourself and you must trust her. You can't go through life worrying about what could happen or you will never leave your bed.

As others have said, go out with your buddies and have a lads night instead of sitting at home feeling paranoid. Sometimes I genuinely want nights with my friends and time apart from my girlfriend. It does not mean I want to cheat on her, I just want to catch up with my friends and have a change.

There is not much else to say.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

u could always date women that dont club

 

[DonJuanForever]

What Latinoman said was right.
Gone ahead and tell her you and your boys are going to Magic City to find Bobby a girlfriend. Then tell her you guys are going to bring some girls back to a hotel room so that you guys can have a group orgy with some women to help Bobby relax more around women.

Then bring some women over and you and your boys and the girls are all on the couch making out. Tell her that you are doing this so Bobby can finally relax more around women and see that women are wonderful to be around.

Tell her she can come sit on the couch as well.

And oh yeah by the way, I was seriously when I made this post, really do this. See, a woman once she thinks she's "got you" will become bored. Her "going to the club to find Cheyenne Kimball a man" is complete and utter bullshyt. She wants to have a "thrill again" and wants to get some exciting guys coming in, but she does not want to break if off with you yet because if she can't find anybody she'll be lonely.

When you tell her what you are about to do, and she sees you doing it, she'll see what she's goes to find she already had, and since she wanted to try and play you, switch it around and tell her honey, "I think we need some space." Now watch (what she was going to have you doing in a couple of days), watch how she starts to beg and plead for you not to leave.

The only way to beat a fox is to out fox him. When you out fox a fox, because he's a fox, he'll respect you even further.

 

[Testiculz]

when you make a fuss about your girlfriend going out, you send her a message that you are a low-ranking male. what happens next? think about it.

 

[Jariel]

when you make a fuss about your girlfriend going out, you send her a message that you are a low-ranking male. what happens next? think about it.

Precisely! It makes you look insecure...and well, if you worry about her cheating on you that must mean that you ARE insecure.

Insecurity is not an attractive trait!

 

[DonJuanForever]

Test, you are good that you are thinking from a female perspective, but your reasoning is wrong.

Women are not stupid, they go to clubs to have FUN. Occasionally, they run into guys in the club that would consider fvckin. If she is so dedicated to her relationship, why go to the club? Your girl needs a man, why can't the other girls go with her?

It's like if I want to lose weight and my friends want to go to eat at a all you can eat fried shrimp buffet, and I say, I'll go with you guys but I am on a diet and I am not eating any shrimp.

Does that make any sense?

First off, I am paying to get into the buffet, "even though I won't eat anything," hahaha, then why go?

Second off, say if I am just "paying to be with my friends" the temptation to eat is just too much defiantly when you see everybody having a good time.

Why would his girl pay her money to go to the club, IF she isn't going to enjoy it as well?
IF she is JUST going because the girls are going or to help her friend, is she superwoman? The temptation to dance, kiss, flirt, ONS, will just be too much, ESPECIALLY if her friends are doing it. haahah, the original poster is lucky I wasn't at that club with my boys, because we would have easily gotten "the group," and guess what, because his girl is in the group, she gets dycked too.

Women already know this, they just string dumb guys along who don't use their heads. ahahah, Test, you say it's a sign of a low status male, hahhah. So having your girl get butt fvcked by me and me buddies makes you alpha or makes you look stupid?

The thing is, she already knows what COULD HAPPEN, that's why she's going. And if it DOES HAPPEN, she won't tell her ol' boyfriend anything.

 

[Jariel]

If she is so dedicated to her relationship, why go to the club?

That's like saying she can't go to the cinema, any bars, to the mall, or basically anywhere a guy could hit on her. No one should put their lives on hold and give up time with their friends just for a relationship.

As I've said, I like to go clubbing with my friends. It's fun, I like their company, I like dancing and it's nice to have a break from couply stuff once in a while. But I have no intention of cheating on my girlfriend, even when hot girls hit on me. It's the same for her.

The temptation to dance, kiss, flirt, ONS, will just be too much, ESPECIALLY if her friends are doing it.

I don't find these things a temptation when I go out because I'm happy in my relationship. I get emotional and sexual satisfaction from my girlfriend, so there's nothing that random women in clubs have to offer me. It's like being offered a bag of sweets when you already own a sweetshop. There's just no point nor temptation to take them.

As long as your girl thinks the same about you, there's no problem. And you should assume she does feel this way about you!

 

[Last Man Standing]

Only a disrespectful hor goes to a club without her man leading her - don't listen to these young chumps who have no self respect nor an ounce of dignity, when they say you are being "insecure"!!!!!

There is NO justifiable reason for a girl to go to a club without her man!!!

Don't be afraid to dictate to her your demands - if she doesn't comply then be ready to walk and leave the club-ho!!!!!!

 

[jonwon]

Only a disrespectful hor goes to a club without her man leading her - don't listen to these young chumps who have no self respect nor an ounce of dignity, when they say you are being "insecure"!!!!!

There is NO justifiable reason for a girl to go to a club without her man!!!

Don't be afraid to dictate to her your demands - if she doesn't comply then be ready to walk and leave the club-ho!!!!!!

I guarantee if he goes through life with this ideal he will be going through GF like no bodies business never keeping one.

No women unless she has LSE wants to be with a jealous controlling tit who cant have his own space.

So what she cheats, this is about her not you, but i 100% guarantee if he continue's down this path she will f**k off! Unless she like an insecure guy controlling all her moves.

Relax sit back chill let hit happen, if she cheats move on, not brain surgery, never try to control, just judge by her actions and be the man all the time.

Showing you are concerned shows a lack of self esteem and you have placed her nicely back on the pedistal and placed her far above you. Never EVER let control her in this manner.

Has for the PU here who seem to think they can F**K anything that walks, dream on not all birds are available to you, if you really think so then the only thing your pulling is the cr** from your ass with your teeth since your heads is so far up it.

Chill relax life is cool, there is no problem here at all.

 

[The Truth]

I guarantee if he goes through life with this ideal he will be going through GF like no bodies business never keeping one.

No women unless she has LSE wants to be with a jealous controlling tit who cant have his own space.

So what she cheats, this is about her not you, but i 100% guarantee if he continue's down this path she will f**k off! Unless she like an insecure guy controlling all her moves.

Relax sit back chill let hit happen, if she cheats move on, not brain surgery, never try to control, just judge by her actions and be the man all the time.

Showing you are concerned shows a lack of self esteem and you have placed her nicely back on the pedistal and placed her far above you. Never EVER let control her in this manner.

Has for the PU here who seem to think they can F**K anything that walks, dream on not all birds are available to you, if you really think so then the only thing your pulling is the cr** from your ass with your teeth since your heads is so far up it.

Chill relax life is cool, there is no problem here at all.

I'm with this guy! A very sensible and correct reply.

Remember all these PUAs giving you advice have no idea how to hold down a relationship. Even if they are for real and great at picking up women it does not mean they know how to keep them.

Now I confess I would be on edge if my girlfriend went to a club with her friends but I would NOT ban her from it. If my girlfriend stopped me going out with my friends and started dictating to me what I was allowed to do, she'd find herself single before too long!

 

[CORVETTE06]

Whattup.. i can help you. I used to post the exact same things. I am 19 and i had a girlfriend for two years. i just broke up with her a few days ago. One of the many reasons why I broke up with her was because I couldnt ****ing trust her. she used to go out to clubs (and didnt invite me - her friends wouldnt let me come!)...she called me up DRUNK saying she danced with some guys that i knew( i wasnt really friends with them, they wanted to **** her).. they sandwhiched her and grinded on her and told me that. i still went out after this, but it just got worse. when she went back home from college she went out to the club every weekend. she got drunk, drunk called guys.... then she also hung out with her x bf alone and her x hook up alone...after a while i couldnt take it anymore and i dumped her....

although if u trust a girl, u gotta trust her. u cant be too possessive - but its a double edged sword --you can't let them walk all over you. from experience, you should do nothing. if she does it again, you should only mention that you are conerned with this one time and one time only. if you tell her once and she doesnt change, she never will. ur girl can lie and pretend shes not going to a club when she really is..

my x-g/fs best friend used to do this. she would call him at 10 30 and say she is going to bed, and then as soon as she got off with him she shut her phone off and went to the club. girls are crazy man.... i wish i dumped my g/f a year ago.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Yes, the insecurity is running rampant.....

It's the girl's responsibility to say no to a guy's advances. If she doesn't, and ends up cheating, she just saved you alot of time, money and energy. What a lot of you don't realize, is that the "club" isn't the only place girls get hit on. She's going to be by herself at some point and will probably be hit on, more than once, and there's nothing you'll be able to do except trust that she says no. Geez it's not rocket science....

Exactlly! A woman who is satisfied in her relationship will easily say no to advances. Ones who don't, well; it is better that it comes out sooner than later.

Chris Rock accurately said that its easy for the typical woman to turn down sex because she is offered it several times a day. Every time a guy does something nice for a woman, it's usually because he wants sex (and a smart woman knows this). A guy says "Let me get the door for you." What he means is "Do you wanna have sex?" When he asks "Would you like for me to carry your bags?" What he means is "Do you want some d1ck?"

Guys, stop acting like worried little sissies and date women who are honest AND who are into you. Finally, keep them interested in you so that no other guy would make her stray.

 

[Cod3r]

Women that are in committed relationships do not go to nightclubs with SINGLE girlfriends to "find a man" for one of them.

^ ^ That's all that needed to be said.

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The mere fact that you're even posting this 'situation' already tells me that you KNOW this relationship is about to go down the ****ter. Don't lie to yourself, you've seen the clues, she's about to break this thing off. I already know you've been acting AFC with her, myswell break up with her befoer she does it to you... dosen't matter what she does, this LTR is about to end...

A man that is in a successful relationship with a woman dosen't post questions regarding what his woman does when he's not with her. I have a gf that I have ZERO problems if she goes anywhere, BUT she dosen't even WANT to go anywhere without me... frankly tad annoying, but whatever...


-Cod3r

 

[MightyMate]

I just made topic in discussion about trusting girls. I think it may explain You some stuff.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You guys sound really have no idea about what women want. One of the things that they are most fearful when getting into a relationship is loosing their identity. I have no idea why guys feel that once a woman commits she has to give up her friends and interests to help stroke your egos and feed their insecure nature. I'm curious on just how long women you date put up with this until they move on.

 

[Last Man Standing]

I guarantee if he goes through life with this ideal he will be going through GF like no bodies business never keeping one.

No women unless she has LSE wants to be with a jealous controlling tit who cant have his own space.

So what she cheats, this is about her not you, but i 100% guarantee if he continue's down this path she will f**k off! Unless she like an insecure guy controlling all her moves.

Relax sit back chill let hit happen, if she cheats move on, not brain surgery, never try to control, just judge by her actions and be the man all the time.

Showing you are concerned shows a lack of self esteem and you have placed her nicely back on the pedistal and placed her far above you. Never EVER let control her in this manner.....

Chill relax life is cool, there is no problem here at all.

Your whole post is in error!!! A woman has her "own" space - we are talking about a club here --- please focus! This is not about "jealously" or "control" - it is about being respectful in a relationship - women are pursued at clubs and she knows this - thus her interest in going. She can go anywhere with her girls - anywhere and yet she goes to a club?? HUH???

A man rules in the relationship and not the woman - a man's dignitiy and self respect is above the company of a disrespectful club girl -- only chumps are worried about losing a girl and thus chumps have no power in the relationship, in effect, by being timid in their demands they become the woman!!!

Know this. when your woman goes to a club this means she is already gone from you - it is only a matter of time --- she has decided to look for a new shiny penis!! This is the first message that you should receive when your girl goes to a club, not a restaurant or a movie, but a club!!!

Jonwon, know this, only insecure chumps are afraid to make good demands on their girl for fear he will lose her - you and others who use the "insecure" label have it completely backwards!! Only insecure men would NOT confront their girl for fear he would lose her!!!! You have it wrong and it is the complete opposite of what you say insecure means!!! A secure man is one who does not fear the loss of his girl for being in control and making demands - let the ho go if she doesn't comply - because you already lost her! once she doesn't respect your demands!!!

DJ Foomee, you have a problem - don't be shocked if she has another dude - this is what hors do today - just know that hors are not loyal!!! Only trust your wife who is committed to you and OBEYS you!!!!!!!

 

[The Truth]

You guys sound really have no idea about what women want. One of the things that they are most fearful when getting into a relationship is loosing their identity. I have no idea why guys feel that once a woman commits she has to give up her friends and interests to help stroke your egos and feed their insecure nature. I'm curious on just how long women you date put up with this until they move on.

Exactly what I was thinking. A lot of the replies here sound controlling and kinda creepy. I cant see many women sticking around with guys like that for long!

You made a good point about women fearing losing their identity when they get into a relationship. Its true, especially with younger women. They dont want anyone to restrict them or pull them away from friends, ambitions, socialising etc and the last thing they want is some posessive and paranoid nut acting like she's his property!

 

[The Truth]

Your whole post is in error!!! A woman has her "own" space - we are talking about a club here --- please focus! This is not about "jealously" or "control" - it is about being respectful in a relationship - women are pursued at clubs and she knows this - thus her interest in going. She can go anywhere with her girls - anywhere and yet she goes to a club?? HUH???

A man rules in the relationship and not the woman - a man's dignitiy and self respect is above the company of a disrespectful club girl -- only chumps are worried about losing a girl and thus chumps have no power in the relationship, in effect, by being timid in their demands they become the woman!!!

Know this. when your woman goes to a club this means she is already gone from you - it is only a matter of time --- she has decided to look for a new shiny penis!! This is the first message that you should receive when your girl goes to a club, not a restaurant or a movie, but a club!!!

Jonwon, know this, only insecure chumps are afraid to make good demands on their girl for fear he will lose her - you and others who use the "insecure" label have it completely backwards!! Only insecure men would NOT confront their girl for fear he would lose her!!!! You have it wrong and it is the complete opposite of what you say insecure means!!! A secure man is one who does not fear the loss of his girl for being in control and making demands - let the ho go if she doesn't comply - because you already lost her! once she doesn't respect your demands!!!

DJ Foomee, you have a problem - don't be shocked if she has another dude - this is what hors do today - just know that hors are not loyal!!! Only trust your wife who is committed to you and OBEYS you!!!!!!!

All that sounds like complete paranoid nonsense!

You don't have a long term girlfriend do you?

 

[jonwon]

Your whole post is in error!!! A woman has her "own" space - we are talking about a club here --- please focus! This is not about "jealously" or "control" - it is about being respectful in a relationship - women are pursued at clubs and she knows this - thus her interest in going. She can go anywhere with her girls - anywhere and yet she goes to a club?? HUH???

A man rules in the relationship and not the woman - a man's dignitiy and self respect is above the company of a disrespectful club girl -- only chumps are worried about losing a girl and thus chumps have no power in the relationship, in effect, by being timid in their demands they become the woman!!!

Know this. when your woman goes to a club this means she is already gone from you - it is only a matter of time --- she has decided to look for a new shiny penis!! This is the first message that you should receive when your girl goes to a club, not a restaurant or a movie, but a club!!!

Jonwon, know this, only insecure chumps are afraid to make good demands on their girl for fear he will lose her - you and others who use the "insecure" label have it completely backwards!! Only insecure men would NOT confront their girl for fear he would lose her!!!! You have it wrong and it is the complete opposite of what you say insecure means!!! A secure man is one who does not fear the loss of his girl for being in control and making demands - let the ho go if she doesn't comply - because you already lost her! once she doesn't respect your demands!!!

DJ Foomee, you have a problem - don't be shocked if she has another dude - this is what hors do today - just know that hors are not loyal!!! Only trust your wife who is committed to you and OBEYS you!!!!!!!

If you are in a position where you cant trust the women you are with then you need to leave the relationship not control.

How do you build trust judge by her actions not by her words.

Going to clubs is fine going to clubs with mates is fine.

Going to clubs and telling you she has a new shiny peni* is not.

Dont make this out to be something this is not.

A giu posted above who was with the worng type of girl, this does not mean the OP posters girl is like that but lets face it here if she does turn out like that trust me this guy is better off single.

But she is most probably a decent women, controlling her WILL make her loose respect for you, since you come across very insecure and this will ONLY push her more to cheat if she is the type of girl to cheat on BF.

No not all girls cheat, some break up with you first then sleep with another guy.

Clubs are sexually charged places guaranteed, so i suggest you dont even think about your women there and if you do take a step back let out a smile and think.

Dam she is going to be hit on she is the finest women in there and just think she is coming back to me to sit on my DI** all those guys trying is not gonna go anywhere, becasue you know what i TRUST her 100%.

Actually do this.

When she says i am off out with the girls, say "great have a good time, dont get too drunk a good few wierdo's in those places".

If she says "dont you mind me going out"

You say "No because i trust you"

This WILL get her more involved with you, since not many guys can do this and it seperates you from all the other insecure loosers of this world.

If there is a problem afterwards deal with the problem, not some fantasy.

Granted if she is going to clubs to meet guys, has a string of male friends from these places, making excuses to not come home, sleeping out at other ppl house (guys and saying it was a mate).

Then dump her, but not by just going to bars or clubs.


Also if she wants to cheat she can do it far easier from not going to nightclubs. Women haver far more options then men do, esp' if they are attractive and approachable.

If she is gonna cheat she does not need to go to a club to do it.

Just going to a club does not mean some super PU artists it gonna game her and FU** her, simply this is a fantasy, unless she is looking for it.

This is the difference and from the OP this girl has done NOTHING wrong.

 

[Jariel]

One thing I want to add about strong relationships is this:

There are more attractive people. There are more charming and successful people. But none of those people have the history, the memories, the emotion, the sexual comfort or the security that you and your girlfriend share. This by far outweights the type of initial superficial attraction you get in clubs!

You should be more concerned if she regularly spends time with a male "friend", because at least then she's getting to know him beyond superficial attraction and there's a chance of feelings developing.

But generally the only way a girl will be charmed away from her boyfriend is if the relationship is not going very well or the boyfriend has been unfaithful or cruel to her in the past.

I have pulled women out of relationships myself, but it has taken a lot of time getting to know the girl and in all cases, they were not satisfied with their relationships in the first place.