Girl who trains boxing? Red flag?

[Sebastian2005]

Hey G's, recently I met a girl that is pretty attractive to me.

She is travelling a lot, have friends and seems like a good girl.

But what made me kinda shocked is that she said she is training boxing and she will beat me up. (not in a rude way, more like a joke)

So is that a red flag for you guys? I mean she is kinda pretty but that's one thing that confuse me.

And she said she wants to spar with me but I don't want to beat a woman.

Not sure if she's just flirting. Especially considering that she texted to me first.

And now she's not responding for 2 hours. Not sure if now she play some games and ignore me or she's just busy.

Any suggestions?

 

[Dr.Suave]

You are too young, grasshopper. Im assuming she´s very young as well.

I think you should be cautiously optimistic about this young, hot girl. Dont rush into exclusivity but keep things moving forwards. Dont forget about logistics that make sex possible and escalate.

 

[BPH]

Just go on some other date.

You don't HAVE to set up a boxing match...

 

[Pandora]

I think it is a big red flag depending on how much she trains. It also depends on the gym that she trains at. If she trains a lot at a serious MMA/ Boxing gym then its a red flag. She will most likely be a gym hoe and sleep with one of the trainers.

Also a girl that trains MMA/ boxing usually has a competitive streak against men. Its not natural for a women to be interested in getting punched in the face. Thats the equivalent of a man whose hobby is making cup cakes or something.

If she is just doing cardio boxing here and there then it might be ok. No biggie.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Boxing is not a fight. Sparring is not beating up people for fun. She will likely be able to teach you some basics about the sport.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

It's not a red flag...just female delusion. I am pretty tired of women who take some self defense/martial arts classes and then walk around thinking they can take on men. A a typical female boxer/martial artist would likely get destroyed by an untrained, unfit man in about 30 seconds.

What I have done with women who display this attitude is ask them to wrestle me. It's highly amusing. Break it down into 3 rounds:
1) Ask her to pin you down and overpower her. This takes maybe 25% of your strength.
2) Ask her to pin you down, but this time can only use 2 limbs. This takes ~50% of your strength.
3) You have to pin her down, but you can only use 1 limb. This takes about ~75-100% of your strength.

She will be shocked and realize how much stronger men are, and this attitude of hers will vanish and she likely won't bring it up again.

 

[Clockwerk50]

It has only been 2 hours since you sent the text message. Stay busy and try to not invest too much brain power on this girl.

She will text later. Crack a couple of jokes, build a little bit of rapport and ask her out.

Also, I don’t see any red flags here. There is a saying in my country, it loosely translates to “in times of war every hole in the ground is a trench”. Just try to get to know her on a deeper level and you will know what she is about. It might be something good.

Keep it up!

 

[SW15]

I think it is a big red flag depending on how much she trains. It also depends on the gym that she trains at. If she trains a lot at a serious MMA/ Boxing gym then its a red flag. She will most likely be a gym hoe and sleep with one of the trainers.

Also a girl that trains MMA/ boxing usually has a competitive streak against men. Its not natural for a women to be interested in getting punched in the face. Thats the equivalent of a man whose hobby is making cup cakes or something.

If she is just doing cardio boxing here and there then it might be ok. No biggie.

Cardio boxing is not a big deal at all. Many women do cardio boxing classes. They are a good workout in general but they don't train you a lot for fighting.

If a woman trains at a cardio boxing type gym, that might be more of a green flag because she might get a hot physique from it.

I think a woman who trains at a more serious MMA/Boxing type gym is more likely to have issues. Those issues are more likely found in women a lot older than the ones @Sebastian2005 would be pursuing.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

And now she's not responding for 2 hours.

Two hours?!

Damn dude, this is finished.

You'd better go monk mode for the next ten years to build a better frame!

 

[Sebastian2005]

Two hours?!

Damn dude, this is finished.

You'd better go monk mode for the next ten years to build a better frame!

Yeah now I see I overthink a bit too much because she was replying so fast and suddenly stopped.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

There are few things better in life than a masculine social butterfly travel junkie good girl who seeks to subject you to unpleasurable physical activity. Hang on to this chick OP, you've got a keeper.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Yeah now I see I overthink a bit too much because she was replying so fast and suddenly stopped.

She was probably taking a 2 hour dump OP.

Jokes aside, let her come to you. The more you try to catch her the more she will run away.

 

[Sebastian2005]

She was probably taking a 2 hour dump OP.

Jokes aside, let her come to you. The more you try to catch her the more she will run away.

It's been 8 hours and nothing. Now I'm working so I don't think much about it but should I for example follow up with her after let's say 24 hours? Or just let her come back to me?

I hate these "games" especially that I like get straight to the point since I'm a busy man.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Lol I always say when it comes to Martial Arts....For Fun I'm learning Tai Chi, Kung Fu and Kalari....but when it comes to a street fight I'm gonna rely on my Boxing, Muay Thai and Wrestling/ Brazilian Juijitsu grapples lol haha

 

[Clockwerk50]

It's been 8 hours and nothing. Now I'm working so I don't think much about it but should I for example follow up with her after let's say 24 hours? Or just let her come back to me?

I hate these "games" especially that I like get straight to the point since I'm a busy man.

There’s no game here—she’s just an acquaintance. A lot of men make the mistake of coming off as too relationship-focused. Your goal is to keep things flowing naturally, meaning you want her to make herself available to you, while you create opportunities for romantic intimacy.

You also need to understand that she uses her feminine energy to nurture the relationship while you focus on providing security and taking action. How does she show this? By texting you regularly, making herself available, and taking care of your needs, among other things.

So no, don’t double text her. Let her put in some effort. However, if she’s putting in effort and you haven't asked her out yet, you might be giving the impression that you’re not interested.

Talk to more girls so you don’t get oneitis. Good luck.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Lol I always say when it comes to Martial Arts....For Fun I'm learning Tai Chi, Kung Fu and Kalari....but when it comes to a street fight I'm gonna rely on my Boxing, Muay Thai and Wrestling/ Brazilian Juijitsu grapples lol haha

Walking red flag lol

 

[The_Sea_Wolf]

If she is hitting you, that is not ok, reverse your genders, if it was a male boxer punching a girl for funzies would it be right?

This chick has problems.

Not against a woman training, in fact for many doing combat sports actually teaches them reality that they cannot take on most men.

The other thing is she will probably understand not to try and hold you back if you are in a situation where you might need to fight.

 

[plumber]

It's not a red flag...just female delusion. I am pretty tired of women who take some self defense/martial arts classes and then walk around thinking they can take on men. A a typical female boxer/martial artist would likely get destroyed by an untrained, unfit man in about 30 seconds.

What I have done with women who display this attitude is ask them to wrestle me. It's highly amusing. Break it down into 3 rounds:
1) Ask her to pin you down and overpower her. This takes maybe 25% of your strength.
2) Ask her to pin you down, but this time can only use 2 limbs. This takes ~50% of your strength.
3) You have to pin her down, but you can only use 1 limb. This takes about ~75-100% of your strength.

She will be shocked and realize how much stronger men are, and this attitude of hers will vanish and she likely won't bring it up again.

haha, I watched a young girl that I know well take down a muscular guy that had 30+ kilos on her. He went down hard, and then went to sleep. It can go either way. Watch out for the quiet ones.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Focus on other women. Find something to do in life so that 2 hours doesn't feel like an eternity while staring at your phone