Girl wants me to go on fake date with her!

[Dave111]

Girl Im mates with wants me to go on a fake valentines date with her, because she is single. This girl is hot!, but cant seem to find a boyfriend, I used to be interested (well I still am to be honest), but I think I'd been firmly put in the friendzone.

She asked me yesterday if I would go on this valentines date with her, as she said she was fed up being single, butI told her to forget it as I think she just wants me to be her friend. You's guys reckon I did the right thing.

She confuses me a lot, sometimes I feel like she would be interested in more than friends, then other days she makes me feel as though there is nothing more than friends in it.

What do I do in this situation?

 

[DankNuggs]

Why not go out with her and not worry about putting boundaries or definitions on what the get together represents...

Valentines Day isn;t for a month, she has plenty of time to go meet a guy in the next few weeks so she'll have a date for valentines...But she wanted to go out with you...

Tell her if she wants an escort for the evening, she is going to have to treat you...Play the C&F that she is getting a high class escort, get real drunk together and make a move...guaranteed ass.....

Tip: Going out to the bars on Valentines Day is the easiest day in the year to go pick up chicks, all of them are dying for male companionship...

 

[squirrels]

She asked you on a "fake date"? LOL

There are two possibilities:

99.99% probable: She couldn't get a date for whatever reason, but all her friends have dates, so rather than sit home like a loser with a bowl of ice cream and a corny "romantic comedy", she's asking a guy who she thinks is either into her enough or desperate enough to say YES no matter what. (that's YOU)

00.01% probable: She's really interested in you, but is afraid, for whatever reason, to say anything, so she's setting this up as a way for the two of you to get together.

Either way, your response should be the same, specifically...NO. You should not go on the date with her. You have better things to do than stroke her ego.

If you really want to account for that 00.01% probability, say NO to this date and ask her out a few weeks later, when "your schedule clears up and you're not so busy." If she's interested, she'll go out with you REGARDLESS of the day, as long as she's free.

If you want to be clever, ask her, "Fake date, huh? Do we get to have 'fake sex' at the end of the night? It won't mean anything, I'll just stick my pen!s in your vag!na...you know, just to keep up the illusion."

 

[NewMan]

Fvck that.

You got better sh#t to do that go on a fake date - you want a real date.

What you should have told her is that your looking for a real date - so if she knows anyone, to let you know.

 

[bman]

be ****y. tell her "i know you're shy... but if you want to take me out on a date just say so. dont give me this 'fake date' nonsense"

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Yeah Squirrels, the illusory sex act was in my head also!
I like your probability ratings although the probability of .01% or .0001 (1 in 10,000) her liking him is kind of high

Actually Bro this was a perfect chance for her to make a real date with you cause she knows you aLready like her, but instead she chose to ask you for a 'fake' date? Is that the word she used! That's insulting, and you should tell her so - you are a man and not a valentine's once a year toy!!!

You said she confeeses to you alot - are you a catholic priest? No, you say? Then why in the hell are you listening to a 'hot babe's' confessions and not pursuing her. If she says no, then move on and quit talking to her!!! She has no problem disrespecting you as a man because you are not acting like one - jump her bones until she slaps you, then she'll have some renewed respect for your manhood!

Valentines day is for lovers to celebrate - are you her lover? Why is she so adamant about going out that day - she obviously has a motive - no? She is under no obligation to leave the house because it's feburary 14th - huh??? Is she embarassed - why? Is she under surveillance? Who is she trying to falsely impress? Another man? Her friends? I really don't get it!

Ask her to introduce you to women, and then you hang out together -go dancing and meet other singles....otherwise quit being her emotional tampon, as they say here and quit talking on the phone with her as if you are chums!!

 

[DankNuggs]

You guys don't realize that you sound like a GIANT pvssy asking for a 'real date,' use the time together to show her your worth it...

Its all in your attitude, if your her tampon, you're finished, and it would only make it worse to meekly say 'I WANT A REAL DATE'

If your a man, and not another one of her gf's, she'll have a great time and you'll have the chance to get closer...use alcohol to your advantage to loosen things up and give each other the chance to do things/behave differently than the gf dyanamic you seem to have

 

[TooColdUlrick]

yeah, just tell her you want a fake fvck along with the fake date.

with this "fake" stuff she just gave you some good ammo to screw with her.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by DankNuggs
You guys don't realize that you sound like a GIANT pvssy asking for a 'real date,' use the time together to show her your worth it...

Its all in your attitude, if your her tampon, you're finished, and it would only make it worse to meekly say 'I WANT A REAL DATE'

If your a man, and not another one of her gf's, she'll have a great time and you'll have the chance to get closer...use alcohol to your advantage to loosen things up and give each other the chance to do things/behave differently than the gf dyanamic you seem to have

Maybe he CAN get her interested by playing the suave super-male. But given the context of this post, do you really think he can pull it off?

No offense intended, but I just don't think he's ready to make something like that work. I stick by my original advice.

 

[Shiftkey]

99.99% probable: She couldn't get a date for whatever reason, but all her friends have dates, so rather than sit home like a loser with a bowl of ice cream and a corny "romantic comedy", she's asking a guy who she thinks is either into her enough or desperate enough to say YES no matter what. (that's YOU)

This might be true if it was closer to V day. I agree with DankNuggs, but I'd still look for another girl for a date and blow miss fake date off if I could. It would only make her more interested.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You've done the right thing so far, keep it up. What she is looking for is an escort. She could easily find one in the local newspaper, but she would like to get all of the benifits of having one without the cost.

Stick to your guns on this one, if she changes her mind and would like to move beyond friends, that's fine. Let HER make the first move towards that, however don't be fooled into thinking that 'play dating' will lead to anything.

 

[golf299]

i say go on the "date" with her. but, make her pay, her pick you up, her entertain you. dont go out of your way to do anything...let he do everything.

 

[Hubris]

There has been alot of bad advice in this string already.

This is what you do. Agree, but you're still looking for a 'real' date with someone else. So you'll say something like "Yes, if I'm free on V Day, then we can go do whatever".

If you get a date, great, cancell your fake date and go have a good time.

If you don't get a date for Valentines day, then you go on the date with your hot friend.

Treat her like a date. Use Kino, go dancing. The fact that you're going on a "fake date" opens up some much room for being funny and romantic leeway. Like, if you pull out her chair she'l' logically think that you're just acting your role as the "fake date", but she'll emotionally be turned on by it. Same if you use Kino.

Use this to test the water. Use your DJ skills to elevate her IL. *THEN* withdraw, then you let her come to you.

Playing 'hard to get' as has been suggested in this string, only works if the girl knows what she's missing. At this point, she doesn't.

Unfortunatly you've already declined, so you look like a jackass if you come crawling back. I'd wait 2 weeks, bring up the fake date again (say that you're plans fell through and now a fake date seems like fun), then use DJ skills to increase her IL.

Then report back to us after V day. And Post a picture of her naked.

 

[Slickster]

Whenever a chick tells me she can't find a guy or she can't get a date I bust her on it right away.

I'll say something like, "What's wrong isn't your ad in the personals working?" Gets them everytime.

She actually asked you for a fake date?

I would have laughed at her.

Say something like, "Well a fake date sounds fun. That way I won't have to worry about you falling for me. Actually I have a couple real dates lined up but if you're really desperate let me know, I might be able to squeeze you in."

The fact that she's asking for a "fake" date means that she isn't really interested in anything more but doesn't want to be alone for V-day.

Don't bring it up again if she doesn't.

Dank Nuggs is right. Going out on V-day you'll find plenty of single lonely women looking for a Valentine. Better prospects than this low interest chick.

Don't you think that going on a fake date just shows that you are a total chump with nothing better to do? Are you really going to let her use you like that?

 

[DJ_Dork]

Do what Dank and Francisco suggests. If you are interested in this girl - and she shows some interest. Take her out on a fake date and then try to impress her.. use minor kino and try to slip in a kiss. Crash through the friends barrier and see what's up.

Important thing is to get what you want.. (you want her lips) but if you take her out on a fake date and you still act all friends and stuff.. DUDE you messed up!

I dunno what game this girl is playing. Perhaps she wants to see how many strings she can pull or she wants to see what it would be like going on a date like you and that Valentine's day would seem like an innocent excuse.

 

[prosemont]

one word: chump

 

[( . )( . )]

hows about a "fake" bl0wjob to go with the "fake" date"?

Originally posted by prosemont
one word: chump

testify.

congrats, you just re-joined the majority of men., did you even leave?

 

[Jake Steed]

I also think you should turn her down for Valentines Day. Just simply tell her you appreciate the offer, but you already have plans on Valentine's Day. Don't elaborate any more than that.

Then take her out the next night (waiting two weeks is overdoing it) and make her inspect your ceiling. I'm not kidding here. Take her out, get her drunk and fvck the **** out of her. Be really fun, but aggressively go for what you want. You need to get out of this friend's category you put yourself into. Make sure you assert yourself because women will almost never make the first move.

Jake

 

[Hubris]

Dudes, a hot girl is asking him out on a date on a day that heavily favours getting some.

The only thing that is keeping him from dating a hot girl is the word "fake". Who cares what she calls it? Who cares how she rationalizes it in her own mind.

But hey, leaving her without a date on valentines day for a whole month, just to ask her out 5 days after V day *might* be a good idea.

Maybe...

 

[Cremasta]

Originally posted by Dave111
Girl Im mates with wants me to go on a fake valentines date with her, because she is single. This girl is hot!, but cant seem to find a boyfriend, I used to be interested (well I still am to be honest), but I think I'd been firmly put in the friendzone.

What do I do in this situation?

Dave, do YOU have any other options for V day? If you do, then go after them instead. If not just tell this girl that you going on a fake date depends on what she has planned and how much fun its going to be.

I think Golf was on the right track. Though if she is a friend then you don't need to make her do absolutely everything, but she should definitely be the one making most of the effort.

Personally though, if I don't have a steady girl, Valentines is just another day to me. I save my money while all the other poor saps are blowing their cash on dinner and flowers.

You could even test the waters and tell her that V day should be very romantic and you wouldn't want to 'waste' it on just a friend. If she insists on going ahead with it, then that is a green light in my book.

Do you want to get out of the 'Friendzone'? - this is definitely an opportunity... your call