girl says she'll "think" about going on a date

[Raikojo17]

and yet she insists on calling/textign me everyday of her life. she even gave ME her number and everything, without any effort on my part. we talk alot and have similar personalities. i hit her with the ****y funny and she likes it, but when i ask her out, she says she'll "think" about it. even my being decisive doesnt help, because she still says it. wat the hell is this? seems to me if she was into me she would jump at the chance to go out.

 

[itishe]

**** her. It's her loss.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

... seems to me if she was into me she would jump at the chance to go out.

So what's your question?

 

[Aaron B]

She loses.

Plain and simple, she loses.

She is unwilling to go along with your program, so she loses out to the women who are truly interested in you as a person.

 

[Raikojo17]

So what's your question?

sorry, tried to edit it but it wouldnt let me. but is this some type of game she is tryin to play? because other than that she shows very much positive interest towards me.

 

[Mental]

and yet she insists on calling/textign me everyday of her life. she even gave ME her number and everything, without any effort on my part. we talk alot and have similar personalities. i hit her with the ****y funny and she likes it, but when i ask her out, she says she'll "think" about it. even my being decisive doesnt help, because she still says it. wat the hell is this? seems to me if she was into me she would jump at the chance to go out.

I believe that any answer other than "yes" answer is a no. Drop the subject, and move on.

So she gets nothing! She loses! Good day, madam!

 

[onyx]

ive had it a few times in the past, its always been a game when they've said it to me, like playing hard to get

 

[syemour]

this ***** just wants your attention. cut all communication cold and see how see reacts, and in the mean time be talking to other chicks.

 

[The Comeback Kid]

She loses.

Plain and simple, she loses.

She is unwilling to go along with your program, so she loses out to the women who are truly interested in you as a person.

I agree with this.

In these situations, I am not content with "waiting" for her to decide...I get a decision out of her, for better or for worse. No, I don't really "force" it, but I will start discussion plans for our date - this shows confidence as well. Sure, she gets the attention she wants, but it also doesn't leave you dangling. Either:

A.) You'll get the date - congrats!
B.) It's her loss.

If you get the date, then your're set. If not, then it allows you to flirt/mack with other chicks and not have this one on your mind.

I compare this to a pitcher (you) charging at a runner who is stuck between
3rd and home and the runner (girl) has to make a decision on where to go.

 

[2Cool]

Move on. She's doing this because she can. Find something else or someone else to do.

 

[kdnash82]

Before I even read the comments below I decided it was a lost cause. Cut your strings, find someone else and see what happens. And I mean this. Do not call, text, instant message, nothing for about 2 weekends, even if she calls or texts. After that, when you call and she asks why you didn't call her, don't make up an excuse, but don't make it seem like you're changing the subject on purpose.

 

[Ace_McGregor]

If you've got that "feeling" that she is into you, then she's probably testing you with this, "I'll think about it" crap.

Maybe your problem is you're being too open ended on how you're asking for the date (Do you want to go out sometime?)..... be specific.... say something like, "Hey let's go out Tuesday night blah blah..." If she hits you with the "I'll think about it line" then freeze her out. Let her know your not going to beg for the date like a loser. Say something like, "Oh hey... someone's knocking at my door, can I call you right back?" Then don't call her (or respond to her calls) for a few days to a week. Then call back and ask for the date again. If she pulls the same crap ditch her.

 

[splinterkb]

Sounds like she wants to keep you wanting her, but she doesnt really want it. Sorry pal. Next that skank.

 

[rrrrr]

sounds like a textbook attention ***** line. yeah, if she was into you, contacting you, etc, but will not go on a date, it just doesn't add up. me thinks you're getting played.

 

[DJF or John]

Dude, you need to UP your sexual attitude, sexual state, seductive mindset, seductiveness.

No matter what your mother says, no matter what women say, no matter what some of these guys say on this forum.....women are ONLY going to FVCK the guy with a HIGH SEXUAL VIBE. You need to carry a high sexual state, if you don't, you AIN'T getting no azz, period.

Stop with all the theories and analyzing what she said, how she moved, how she ate her popcorn at Norbit, read Gunwitch, he explains this better than I do.

 

[Ratisson]

no Raikojo this chick isnt showing u positive interest. I dont know how u came up with something silly like that. Ur saying that a girl shows positive interest in a guy when she calls him and then doesnt want to go out with him. What planet have u been living on?
ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS. Its that simple. When u want to know a girls interest in u , u look at her actions. She might give u compliments, she might be phoning u ( and the reason she might be phoning u is because she loves the attention of talking to guys on the phone), but the bottom line is that her actions arent showing u she likes u. If she liked u, she would show it with her actions by going out with u.

 

[Kev07]

next time she texts or calls, just tell her, "hey lets talk this over some cofee/jamba/insert other idea.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

sorry, tried to edit it but it wouldnt let me. but is this some type of game she is tryin to play? because other than that she shows very much positive interest towards me.

You answered your own question in your original post.

 

[Raikojo17]

so get this. she's now telling me to call her so we can arrange a get together. she is bringing one of her friends, and she's asking to bring one of my friends for her friend. she also agreed to our little date too, saying that she had to see wat her mom was doing first. I guess she was just playing hard to get, cuz she and her friend are tryin to get me to call her, and she's callin me "beasty",soo...

 

[silenthill]

just wait and watch her flake