Girl says she used to be addicted to heroine

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tryst type said:
She's been 6 months clean. Should I stay clear?
Ever watch Requiem For A Dream?

Do you ever think what this girl must have done to obtain the junk?
 

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I would. I mean, you dont wanna judge her as a person...who knows what she's been through...but still, with something like heroin, I'd steer clear. Opiate addictions have a very high relapse rate.
 

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expos said:
Ever watch Requiem For A Dream?

Do you ever think what this girl must have done to obtain the junk?

Wow very true! And according to her she only ever used clean needles/never hated and has been tested since.
 

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i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.


but 6 months isn't long enough. i wouldn't date a chick that doesn't have a year clean .
 

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I just wonder how easy it is for a recovering heroine addict to relapse if they ever do.
 

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backbreaker said:
i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.

Could you explain why?
 

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backbreaker said:
i clean addict if they are working a program is one of the best dates you will ever find. women in NA generally have their **** in order moreso than avg women if they are doing what they are supposed to do.
This is fvcking retarded.

On another note, does your past drug addiction explain your lack of proper punctuation, backbreaker? Maybe your brain shrank?

OP.....steer clear. Let another ex-drug addict share sex fluids with this broad.
 

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I know a girl like that, incredibly beautiful and a complete psycho. I know her history, but they still line up.....

She stabbed one of her boyfriend's ex's just recently. complete train wreck. she might be clean but they never change. The madness is there just under the surface bubbling away ready for the next eruption.
 

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There HAS to be better options Tryst.

Why bother?
She seemed cool and we were hitting it off pretty well, which is why she felt she should be honest about her past.

She says it was after a breakup and it was because she was young and depressed.
 

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tryst type said:
She seemed cool and we were hitting it off pretty well, which is why she felt she should be honest about her past.

She says it was after a breakup and it was because she was young and depressed.
really?

did she tell you about the 10 dudes who ran a train on her while she was using?

no

didn't think so.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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tryst type said:
Could you explain why?

part of NA is to help get off drugs, but the main jist of NA is to show you how to live like a well adjusted member of society. most of the time the **** you talk about in NA has nothing whatsoever to do with drugs.

today's topic for instance was gratitude. being grateful. how many times do you come here on this forum and talk about ungrateful *****es lol? *****es that ain't grateful for ****.

a woman who is seriously working a program is going to understand things like tolerance, acceptance, patience, empathy, how to deal with haters, how to deal with success, how to deal with failure, w hat is and what is not a normal sex life, self reliance, gratitude, that a lot of skanks you deal with aren't going to have, or better stated, don't have a program where you go and work on these things everyday or most days.


I'll say this, I've been in NA/AA for 8 years. there are plenty of people who I know who hooked up and got married in NA/AA and i don't know one that's divorced. okay i take that back one lol. one dude but seriously dude has issues i don't blame the chick.

if something were to happen to my wife i would have no qualms in the least bit in dating or even marrying if the right one came along a recovering drug addict under the assumption hat they are seriously working their program.

but that's not something you can tell in 6 months.

the only thing is trying to find one without bagage like kids or ****. that's pretty hard lol. but i'd have no problem at all dating a recovering addict if they were doing what they were supposed to do.

siht, I'm a recovering addict and all things considered, i'm a tad arrogant at times, i can ramble but for the most part there is nothing about my life today that would make you assume i used to do hard drugs.


Now with all that said, i will tell you like I tell my male sponsees. she's probably going to relapse. that's just pure statistics. But generally if a person can make it a year without doing drugs and you can honestly see the change in your life they have a pretty good chance to stay clean.

If you really like her keep her around but don't' commit to anything until you see what's seriously up. some addicts like to replace sex with drugs / relationships with drugs and if that's what she is trying to do you haven't seen the depths of hellt hat this girl can take you to lol. but if she is really clean and is trying to change she could be catch.
 

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Tryst, dont.

Addicts can be great people once clean, but I'm telling you, opiate addictions have an extremely high relapse rate. She may never relapse, but she just as likely may.

Also a good point was made about the underlying psychological pathology in many addicts. I'm sure BB will flame me for this but in my personal experience with addicts/alcoholics, there are some underlying personality dysfunctions there that dont ever truly go away. Of course, many get clean and live prosperous, productive lives and help a lot of individuals. So I am generalizing. I just think when you are this early in the dating stage with a RECENT opiate addict, why risk it? Do you want her to bring your life down with her if she slips?
 

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I'd go with absolutely not. I stopped a heroin user and she gave me her i.d. She was absolutely beautiful in the picture but looked like a zombie in person. She also prostituted herself so she could retain such a habit.
 
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if you end up with her have her tested for stds.
Well yeah, but how is anyone going to pull this off?

"Hey, I like you, but could you take a drug test before we have sex?"

Sure.

The fact is that you contract a virus through blood to blood contact; the people with the most blood to blood contact are intravenous drug users and people that have unprotected anal sex. Sure, she'll say she's never shared a needle, but I have a lifetime of experiences where people have lied to me for no reason, other than that it benefited them in some way.
 

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