The most beautiful thing about my marriage is that I never 'fell in love'. So while I do trust my wife, any breach of that trust gets her nixed immediately, she is keenly aware of this. I don't believe in love for a mate, only lust and obsession. You can love your brother/sister/mom/dad/wife but not really truly love your mate, we all know 'when a man falls in love, he loses control of the frame'. My wife is a best friend and I have love and respect for who she is, while the lust and one-itis has long since gone and the sex is a little boring, I have a love for her the way you would love your best male friend. I think she is good mothering material and I trust that she will be able to put our future children first, over her and my wants and needs. To me that is tantamount to a constructive and progressive marriage. I hope she never breaks the trust we've created as friends because she would wake up the next day and I would be on the first plane out. Don't hope I'm not one of those, I've created a win/win situation for me. If she decides to break that trust, I can find a much younger, hotter woman to fill her position within a day. The best way to maintain a frame is to be with someone you will never compromise your own principles for.
I actually married my wife because I don't find her very attractive, nor am I infatuated with her or her personality. I know she is pretty and my children will be somewhat attractive but I could really care less about my personal satisfaction in this regard. In fact I am quite indifferent to her sexually now even though she is cute for an Asian girl, looks never factored into my decision to marry and I was quite out of love when we tied the not. As far as I am concerned, she allows me to concentrate on my greater mission by providing periodic sex and the ability to autonomously (on her part) accomplish a secondary goal in my life (children). My primary goal to concentrate on the world, hobbies and interests and continue my business goals with the minimum of distractions. Strange enough, I don't want to be part of the game anymore as I find it too distracting to concentrate on both women and business, I think I can accomplish far more in the business world without women on my mind. Having a marriage in which I am the controller allows me to get far more work done on myself than I ever thought possible. I am finally making leaps and bounds in my career, net worth and small business and as far as I'm concerned, I will be able to father a baseball team sized family without any worry. Some swamis say that you need to abstain from sex to achieve fulfillment, I believe that to be somewhat true... I want as much sexual energy to convert into my hobbies as possible and being only somewhat attracted to my wife allows me to do this quite well. If you are curious as to what these business goals are, well I have a growing obsession to get the human race into space/Mars. I would like to see intersolar travel become a reality before I die.
Get your head around that one.
Anyway, don't mean to derail the thread. There are better women out there for you OP.