Girl said we’re not compatible in bed after 1st date

[BackInTheGame78]

Totally agree and my first thought when I read the initial post.

OP- most of these women with high body counts are traumatized, damaged, train wrecks. Most, not all.

They are fun for a short period of time but not someone you want hanging around for LTRs. You had your fun, now focus your attention to other women who can check more of your boxes.

Win/win. Go celebrate. You got all the perks without any investment.

And got some free advice that his bedroom skills aren't up to par and he should work on them.

 

[Baibars]

Thanks for your advice but tbh this is probably just not my world.
I don’t think I will ever will be or want to be good enough to please women with such a background.
I prefer girls that don’t have more experience than me and are not that fcked up in the brain yet.
These are the girls that make me hard, not the experienced ones like this. I have another girl I’m seeing for 2 months and as soon as I see her it’s different and I also last longer.
she doesn’t expect that much and sex is not the only reason she’s with me.

I want the shy girl that can’t help herself when I make out with her in my car on the first date, not the woman that had countless bodies and now I have to prove myself.

 

[Stanley]

Don't allow women to affect your ego and self esteem

Matched with this 35 yo single mother on a dating app.
Met her last Friday and we had sex 3 times.
she slept at my place.

Congrats! you landed a single mommy

She's a very promiscuous woman, she doesn’t hide this and talks a lot of bs.
she cheated on her husband and obviously meets a lot of men.

So she's literal trash?

You made a post last week detailing comparing your self worth with the quality of women you attract. So what do you do? You decide to fixate on some woman who pumped and dumped you and told you sex was inadequate. Was it? Maybe, but this shouldn't weigh heavily on your mind. No wonder you talk about having self doubt and esteem issues.

You give too much credence to an easy woman who put out for you and cheated on her husband in the past. You should not care about the opinions of women in this caliber. If the sex was bad then... it was bad! but that can be improved. Don't get in your head on that. Also, this woman is more or less a COMPLETE STRANGER who hit it and quit it, she is not the judge of your character. Who is she to say you are a good person? She doesn't know you!

You seem to compare yourself to your ability to attract women (again) and have voiced concern over not getting "not super good looking women", yet you seem to associate and give credence towards women who aren't worth your time. Why do you give a rats a** about this woman's opinion? It should have no worth to you and you need to care less. Instead, maybe embrace your original sentiment wholeheartedly?

"Hey, I just got laid! cool, but this woman isn't worth an ltr so I should not even consider it or dwell on the past. Plenty of other girls to pursue"

See this as a win and not a loss.

Reflect on ways you can improve (sexually potentially), put this in your memory as a learning experience and pursue other women.

Thanks for your advice but tbh this is probably just not my world.
I don’t think I will ever will be or want to be good enough to please women with such a background.
I prefer girls that don’t have more experience than me and are not that fcked up in the brain yet.
These are the girls that make me hard, not the experienced ones like this. I have another girl I’m seeing for 2 months and as soon as I see her it’s different and I also last longer.
she doesn’t expect that much and sex is not the only reason she’s with me.

I want the shy girl that can’t help herself when I make out with her in my car on the first date, not the woman that had countless bodies and now I have to prove myself.

Abandon this bleak outlook. Date more women, consider going younger and care less about what they think about you

 

[Hal9000]

Never had a woman tell me that but I've definitely dumped a woman for being bad in bed, although incompatible doesn't necessarily equate to bad. I'd always give them a second opportunity to change my mind but if they were lousy the first time they were lousy the second time as well.

 

[SW15]

Congrats! you landed a single mommy

Single moms can be good for recreational sex. Some men are willing to put up with someone with difficult logistics for arranging sex. Most women with children under 10-12 or so have rather difficult logistics. If all her children are 13-17, she might have slightly easier logistics since all her children are more independent. The downside is that she's likely nearing menopause age if her children are 13-17 years old.

 

[Manure Spherian]

She's a very promiscuous woman, she doesn’t hide this and talks a lot of bs.
she cheated on her husband and obviously meets a lot of men.
However I texted her today and she said we’re not compatible in bed but otherwise I’m a good person.

Exactly why do you care what this woman thinks or says?

Do you like her?

 

[kavi]

You cannot turn a hoe into a housewife bruh

 

[Mike32ct]

You had regular/vanilla sex and was happy to just get laid. Nothing wrong with that.

She wanted to be railed into next week.

It was a mismatch of expectations.

 

[Smok1nAce]

Matched with this 35 yo single mother on a dating app.
Met her last Friday and we had sex 3 times.
she slept at my place.
She's a very promiscuous woman, she doesn’t hide this and talks a lot of bs.
she cheated on her husband and obviously meets a lot of men.
However I texted her today and she said we’re not compatible in bed but otherwise I’m a good person.
I asked her why but she just said we’re not compatible.
I mean she’s not a long term candidate anyways but it would be nice keeping her as a plate. Had no other choice than wishing her good luck.
It hurt my ego tbh.
Did something like this happen to you before?

So you already Fuked, and now your wondering why she left? dude you dodged a bullet.

This is a good example of why the game is what it is today, dudes would rather waste time and give up their balls to sleep with a *** receptor then putting in work for a higher value women just for "easy sex". Women who talk like this are a pump and dump, not some ...well I'll put her in rotation, tolerate her bad behavior and bs talk so I can score. This diminishes you and elevates her. leave this women for a lesser man and let him deal with her f'd up attitude.


what you did...

what you should have done...

unless your really handicapped in that department, you probably did fine in bed. She just f'd up in the head and needs a dude who gonna treat her like ****. If that's a path you want to go down fine, but remember that type of behavior only diminishes you and elevates her.

 

[member162951]

I have another girl I’m seeing for 2 months and as soon as I see her it’s different and I also last longer.
she doesn’t expect that much and sex is not the only reason she’s with me.

I want the shy girl that can’t help herself when I make out with her in my car on the first date, not the woman that had countless bodies and now I have to prove myself.

These two quotes say it all especially what's bolded. Stick with that. It's what you want anyway and what you respond to, sexually and emotionally.

Don't fight with yourself trying to desire something you don't and be someone you're NOT.

You're not bad in bed you were simply with the wrong person and not compatible.

That said, it wouldn't hurt to watch some videos to learn technique and improve performance, generally.