Girl just re-confirmed it: Women cannot be trusted.

[SandHawk]

I've been dating a girl for the past 3 months, and we've been exclusive for about 2 months and I just found out what I already expected but couldn't prove: I've been led on.

When we started f*cking, she was seeing some other dude from the dance school we both go to. While I was fine with that in the beginning, I gradually discovered that this dude was a major **** and after about a month and discovered that she had a pretty high IL, I told her it was either my way or the highway(ie, get rid of him). Next day, she was in my bed in a corset and stockings. Ever since, the sex has been on a rise and was getting better and better.

However, I was suspecting she was still in contact with the other dude but that she didn't have sex with him. However, through a mutual friend, I just discovered that she still hasn't told him about me, doesn't know what to do and apparantly still has some feelings for him, even tho telling me other wise, how she moved on and ****.

In short: Women cannot be trusted, I should have known better.

I'm not looking for advice here, because I'm dumping her.

 

[PokerStar]

well if the sex is getting better, i say stick it for a bit knowing that youll be on the hunt before and after you dump the load.

 

[Kailex]

Whose idea was it to become exclusive?

Just asking since it was basically a month after meeting her.

And can the person with the 411 really be trusted?

 

[SandHawk]

While I agree with the general notion that women are difficult to trust, I think you are a little scattered right now.

Perhaps I am.

Dating 3 months and exclusive for 2? That is way too compact of a timetable. That means you dated "casually" for one month before YOU decided she should stop seeing the other guy and be your steady sweetheart. You didn't even give her a chance to figure it out for herself.

We've been seeing other for longer than that, but I agree with you here. I just fell for her while I shouldn't have fell for her so quickly. I've acting way to quick here. It's weird, I haven't fallen for any of my plates in the past 2 years, and this time I did, and it turned into a major one-itis.

The "your way or the highway" business only gave her a reason to shut up about the other guy, for now. Of course, she says she's "confused." In reality, she's banging two dudes, and probably having a ball. You, on the other hand, are banging one and ready to dump her due to Oneitis. How do I know this? Simple - if you were spinning plates, you either a) would keep banging her and laugh it off, or b) dump her without hesitation and go back to your harem.

You are right. I really need to get my feelings in check on short notice, or just dump her and get some new plates. I did a pretty decent job in the past with spinning 3 plates, and with only 2 months out of the game, I can go back to spinning plates with a tiny amount of work.

 

[squirrels]

This is what happens when you're "exclusive" after a month.

 

[Razor Sharp]

All this woman confirmed was your own lack of discernment in the game - you let a pretty face win your confidence. That is something you should only reserve for people who have consistently had your back, and demonstrated that they are trust-WORTHY.

That's right - trust is something that needs to be EARNED, not taken at face value (or ass value in this particular case)

You can't figure this out in a question of 30 days - but you can look back on all the signals she was giving you and take note of the red flags so you will recognize a ho when she comes along trying to play wifey.

Glad you are dumping the b*tch - but don't just stay angry or be hard on yourself. LEARN from the experience and apply that hard-earned wisdom in the future. It will save you from a lot of BS!

Good luck man, and welcome back to the hunt

 

[Trader]

I've been dating a girl for the past 3 months, and we've been exclusive for about 2 months and I just found out what I already expected but couldn't prove: I've been led on.

When we started f*cking, she was seeing some other dude from the dance school we both go to. While I was fine with that in the beginning, I gradually discovered that this dude was a major **** and after about a month and discovered that she had a pretty high IL, I told her it was either my way or the highway(ie, get rid of him). Next day, she was in my bed in a corset and stockings. Ever since, the sex has been on a rise and was getting better and better.

However, I was suspecting she was still in contact with the other dude but that she didn't have sex with him. However, through a mutual friend, I just discovered that she still hasn't told him about me, doesn't know what to do and apparantly still has some feelings for him, even tho telling me other wise, how she moved on and ****.

In short: Women cannot be trusted, I should have known better.

This is why induction is a *problem.*

 

[zekko]

We've been seeing other for longer than that, but I agree with you here. I just fell for her while I shouldn't have fell for her so quickly. I've acting way to quick here. It's weird, I haven't fallen for any of my plates in the past 2 years, and this time I did, and it turned into a major one-itis.

Funny how there's always that one girl that does it to us, no matter how many plans we lay to prevent it.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

Cut bait completely. Drop all ties. End it.

Staying in contact WHILE she dates another guy or even bangs him shows that you are weak and willing to accept the behavior of a loose woman. You essentially condone her behavior so long as you remain in a position of dominance. Behave as if she was your daughter and acted badly, otherwise she will push the boundary until such a point as she can get it.

I hate dating. It's a confusing, gaming time table that just ends up with random babies, drama, abortions, potential diseases, confusion, random dudes and AMOGs, etc. I've told girls that with no problem either. It's probably more of an inducement to actually be with me, if that's what I want.

Needless to say, you are playing with fire here. Of any creature, a woman can't be convinced into or out of a feeling, so I feel your pain and confusion here. But I've always had the standing belief that if a girl is with me, it's me only. I'm not sharing her nor am I trusting her with other men. If it's hard for her to just see me or she isn't excited - MOVE ON.

Chasing after w hores is the most confusing thing I read on these boards. I'd rather a 6/7 that's chill, cool, down to earth and likes me, than some hot booty (that will lose it sooner or later) and creates drama. Those girls are just trying to cash in on their looks before they fade anyways.

The solution is to draw out the time period it takes to get to know a girl, unless of course all you want is to bang, and then there's no guarantee, because any girl who bangs so quickly can't be trust she won't with another guy or that she won't catch feelings so fast with another dude. Got me?

These girls are truly w hores, but it is so normal and all their friends do it, so it doesn't seem insane. It's like mob madness and people are all insane so that they cannot see the consequences of their actions BECAUSE everyone is doing it. This doesn't make a ho behavior right and in the long-run, ho women can't be housewives. So if you meet ho, know that it won't last.

 

[SoldMySoul]

I do not remember A-Unit, but he was here before I signed up and Not sure when he departed. But his advice so far has been excellent and other members sure vouch for him!

His advice about having a 6/7 that is on your team and acts right is dead on!! Unit, I have to agree with you, I hate dating too! It is a pain in arse! Some guys like it, but I am not one of them.

OP, you could stay for the sex alone, but your emotions will get the best of you! I could not stick around with someone like your girl. It would bother me too badly.

 

[5string]

Funny how there's always that one girl that does it to us, no matter how many plans we lay to prevent it.

Ain't that the truth^^^

 

[Warrior74]

Like Player Supreme says..you're only renting time in the pvssy. A true player has to know and understand you will NOT be the only one in it. You'll be in auditions to be the only one in it.

 

[SoldMySoul]

Like Player Supreme says..you're only renting time in the pvssy. A true player has to know and understand you will NOT be the only one in it. You'll be in auditions to be the only one in it.

By using The Player's logic it puts things entirely into another perspective!! Actually, that was well put quoting Supreme... If most of us could only remain faithful to the understanding of the rent/ lease agreement with the pvssy, we would be better off. At least I would and I am trying to change my mentality towards this sort of thinking.

 

[backbreaker]

the probelm here is not her wanting to see this guy


the problem is that you put yourself in a position to even want to be exlcusive with this woman after 1 month anyway.


SPIN MTHERFREAKING PLATES MY BOY


she's seeing some other guy. who gives a ****. you are seeing 2-3 other girls. go have fun.'

the only reason you give a **** is becuase she is ****ing someone else and you are not. you caught feelings.


what did you honestly, honestly,e xpect to happen. seriously. you met a girl that you have not proved jack **** of worth to and tell her your way or the high way.

trust has to be earned on both sides. you dont' know her from the girl at your job but yet you are telling her to stop ****ing this guy who she has knownw

and who are you to make judgments on his caracter. do you not thinks he is telling him the same **** about you, about how you are such an ******* and how he is the guy she really wants?

come on man.

spin plates. spin plates. splin plates. spinning plates solves about 80% of the issues men have with eomwn.

she should be the one coming to YOU saying hey man, i want you.. like.. to not **** other women. and then you say that is something she has to EARN and then in the back of her pretty littl ehead she says gosh darnet i am going to earn him.. i'm going to be a good little girl and **** his brains out every night.. make her earn that.

i don't see3 what she did wrong her. i'm sorry. you get into something what you out out of it. you tell a girl you just met for 1 month to be exclusive, and you expect her to actually to it, well that's what you had coming. this isn't high school. you aren't going study.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Backbreaker! You're a dyslexic mtherofukecr, but I love you.

 

[SoldMySoul]

Backbreaker! You're a dyslexic mtherofukecr, but I love you.

I thought he was PUI, posting under the influence.... Even still he had good info!

 

[mrRuckus]

Subject line is confirmation bias.

 

[Zarky]

I agree with the advice given above.

 

[SandHawk]

This thread is over. There is plenty of good advice in it, and I've learned from my mistake. Time to spin more plates.

 

[mrrippey]

Why would you dump her?

The BEST thing is to know what you have. If the sex is good, keep her around, she can be the default jump-off and keep things moving. Act like (and it really shouldnt) it doesnt bother you. Like her when she is in front or you (or on top) and any other time, she is out of mind. Simple actually.

That is why I love dating married women. I know what I have.....