ghosting. Do you confront?

[Mbuckets82]

I’ve been ghosted on a date where she said she was getting another drink and never came back. Also a chick at my gym just stopped responding to me even though I see her at the gym. I don’t say a word to her.

 

[Suave88]

I’ve been ghosted on a date where she said she was getting another drink and never came back. Also a chick at my gym just stopped responding to me even though I see her at the gym. I don’t say a word to her.

You mean she told you she was going to restroom/bar, but got up and never return? Bytch!

 

[Mbuckets82]

You mean she told you she was going to restroom/bar, but got up and never return? Bytch!

Yup. Ate my food and rolled. Bartender was like, I don’t think she’s coming back bro. I said yup and rolled.

 

[biggoal]

Well she sent me a text tonight. Saying how shes been busy the last 3 weeks. Like last week I asked her if its low interest on her side because she rarely was talking to me always keeps in short and she never initiated contact with me after the date. I had to initiate each time with her. When I asked to hangout again she said she like to but would never commit and have excuses so that's why last week I asked her so I could move on.

Anyway she chewed me out saying I'm rude and all and called me names. She had a party last night she said and used that as an excuse not being able to contact me.

So I told her to give it a few days to cool down and I'll talk to her then about it. Is she worth trying to salvage?

 

[Suave88]

Well she sent me a text tonight. Saying how shes been busy the last 3 weeks. Like last week I asked her if its low interest on her side because she rarely was talking to me always keeps in short and she never initiated contact with me after the date. I had to initiate each time with her. When I asked to hangout again she said she like to but would never commit and have excuses so that's why last week I asked her so I could move on.

Anyway she chewed me out saying I'm rude and all and called me names. She had a party last night she said and used that as an excuse not being able to contact me.

So I told her to give it a few days to cool down and I'll talk to her then about it. Is she worth trying to salvage?

Why did you ask her about interest level???? WTF man! What kind of question is that one????? I told you NOT to ask a woman that question! And how the fvck you giving her days to cool down???? That bytch is selfmanaged and independent. She don't need you to give her darmn days to cool off. She can take as much as she want and probably won't even txt you back. Man chill up!!! You txt her too much!!! Go get yourself an escort when you feel down and don't ask stupid questions....

 

[Apex]

I've been ghosted several times. Confronting doesn't help anything. It only confirms to her you weren't worth being with.

On another note, it may turn out you will eventually want to ghost someone. I admit, I have done this. I am not proud of it. The girl was dragging me along for awhile, flip flopping her intentions, talking to me about other guys, claiming to be asexual (after we had already been intimate), etc. She was also a single mother, which was another problem entirely.

 

[Epic Days]

Well she sent me a text tonight. Saying how shes been busy the last 3 weeks.

yep. Real busy. Sucking someone else’s dik. LMAO

 

[biggoal]

yep. Real busy. Sucking someone else’s dik. LMAO

She really did have a trip. She told me on the date. It's the two weeks leading to it though. Which I agree with you too. She was very low end hb7 so I guess no huge loss.

 

[corrector]

Yea never had this problem 12 years ago ghosting as much as it is now. Wasnt as common. To stand someone up on a date as well.

Well she sent me a text tonight. Saying how shes been busy the last 3 weeks. Like last week I asked her if its low interest on her side because she rarely was talking to me always keeps in short and she never initiated contact with me after the date. I had to initiate each time with her. When I asked to hangout again she said she like to but would never commit and have excuses so that's why last week I asked her so I could move on.

Anyway she chewed me out saying I'm rude and all and called me names. She had a party last night she said and used that as an excuse not being able to contact me.

So I told her to give it a few days to cool down and I'll talk to her then about it. Is she worth trying to salvage?

Yes she is worth the salvage. Ask her if she has cooled down yet and if she has changed her mind because you are tired of her playing games. Tell her if she does not get her act together you will tell on sosuave and show her this website too. Give her a link and claim you are bigoal. She will marry you afterwards.

 

[2Rocky]

She really did have a trip. She told me on the date. It's the two weeks leading to it though. Which I agree with you too. She was very low end hb7 so I guess no huge loss.

Dude what side are ya bro?

 

[Suave88]

It happens to all of us, but when you're ghosted after going on a date and talking back and forth do you ever confront and call them out on it? If anything to make them feel guilty so they don't do it to another guy.

I think you need to pack and move out of that **** hole where you live in Florida. There are no women in that area anyway. Jus move the fvck out.

 

[biggoal]

I think you need to pack and move out of that **** hole where you live in Florida. There are no women in that area anyway. Jus move the fvck out.

Or you can just drive to them. On old most of them are at min 40 miles from me. There are about 5 women in my county who use it daily. Most of my old dates lived 30 or more miles away. One was 60 miles. The average age in my county is 56. Maybe I need to try 50 year olds on up lol. Lots of them around here

 

[Suave88]

Or you can just drive to them. On old most of them are at min 40 miles from me. There are about 5 women in my county who use it daily. Most of my old dates lived 30 or more miles away. One was 60 miles. The average age in my county is 56. Maybe I need to try 50 year olds on up lol. Lots of them around here

What do you do for a living? You own or rent your house?

 

[biggoal]

What do you do for a living? You own or rent your house?

Own. I sell phone accessories. I thought about selling in Tampa on the weekends see how that goes. I can stay with my aunt up there and younger people.

 

[Suave88]

Own. I sell phone accessories. I thought about selling in Tampa on the weekends see how that goes. I can stay with my aunt up there and younger people.

Change your location to Tampa on match.com. Start to tell women you live in Tampa. In the interning, put a for sale sign and move the fvck out...... You probably live in the jungle in Ocala.....

 

[biggoal]

Change your location to Tampa on match.com. Start to tell women you live in Tampa. In the interning, put a for sale sign and move the fvck out...... You probably live in the jungle in Ocala.....

Not there, BUT I live in the oldest average age county in FL which is worse. The county to my north is about the same age and to my south not much younger even though this is a populated area.

I can imagine Ocala is pretty bad. You have the Villages there which is the old fart capital of the World up there. Also a lot of hicks too.

IF I had to live that far north in FL I would live in Gainesville, a college town swimming with girls.

 

[Suave88]

Not there, BUT I live in the oldest average age county in FL which is worse. The county to my north is about the same age and to my south not much younger even though this is a populated area.

I can imagine Ocala is pretty bad. You have the Villages there which is the old fart capital of the World up there. Also a lot of hicks too.

IF I had to live that far north in FL I would live in Gainesville, a college town swimming with girls.

Just move the fvck out before you grew old enough to not have children. Move now, run away...... Go to Orlando, Miami, Tampa. Just move and dont look back.....

 

[Jager]

It happens to all of us, but when you're ghosted after going on a date and talking back and forth do you ever confront and call them out on it? If anything to make them feel guilty so they don't do it to another guy.

Make them feel guilty? For what? Rejecting men? Being female? The only reason that thought exists is because you have an attachment to her affection. It’s a neediness that needs to be eliminated.

Yea never had this problem 12 years ago ghosting as much as it is now. Wasnt as common. To stand someone up on a date as well.

Then you need to evaluate the past 12 years. Women have followed their biology for thousands of years. The manipulation of weak men, nailing down cucks for resources, then sleeping with the men that turn her on behind the cuck’s back has been going on since the beginning of mankind.

Instead of blaming the women for being female, and calling her out on something she’s going to do anyway, you need to analyze how you’ve changed in the past 12 years, because I guarantee that’s where you’re problem is, and it wasn’t a positive change, because back then women were more attracted to you, evidenced by the fact that you weren’t rejected as often.

I didnt use old much or talk to any girls during that time because I was focusing on her because she said she wanted to go out again.

That’s where you fvcked up. You immediately latched on to the first woman that showed affection for you, and forgot about all others.

Just move the fvck out before you grew old enough to not have children. Move now, run away...... Go to Orlando, Miami, Tampa. Just move and dont look back.....

Listen to this man, biggoal. He’s right. I’ve lived in the middle of nowhere most of life, where the only available women were fat small town girls with every desperate guy trying to bed them. Get out of there. Run fast. Run far. No excuses. Just go, because your inaction on your life and your location is turning you into a needy wimp no woman wants to be around.

 

[Serenity]

It happens to all of us, but when you're ghosted after going on a date and talking back and forth do you ever confront and call them out on it? If anything to make them feel guilty so they don't do it to another guy.

No, never. There is no point, they have made up their mind and ANY further contact will only serve to make them hate you more. If you think you could make them feel guilty about it you'd be deluded, they absolutely will not feel guilty and they will definitely do it again with another guy they don't like.

Women go ghost when they believe a guy will persist after rejection. The entire reason for ghosting is to not have to argue with an idiot who won't take no for an answer.

If you get ghosted it means they aren't interested in any further contact. Continuing any communication with them after that point is disrespectful and on top of that REALLY shows your desperation and lack of maturity. Your best move to preserve your self-respect, your time and your energy is to accept it and move on. Simple and efficient.

Especially if you don't like women who go ghost, do they really deserve further attention be it positive or negative? No, they do not, move on.

TL;DR If she doesn't want you, don't waste your time, just move on already.

 

[corrector]

Make them feel guilty? For what? Rejecting men? Being female? The only reason that thought exists is because you have an attachment to her affection. It’s a neediness that needs to be eliminated.

Then you need to evaluate the past 12 years. Women have followed their biology for thousands of years. The manipulation of weak men, nailing down cucks for resources, then sleeping with the men that turn her on behind the cuck’s back has been going on since the beginning of mankind.

Instead of blaming the women for being female, and calling her out on something she’s going to do anyway, you need to analyze how you’ve changed in the past 12 years, because I guarantee that’s where you’re problem is, and it wasn’t a positive change, because back then women were more attracted to you, evidenced by the fact that you weren’t rejected as often.

Are you living under a rock? Technology and negative cultural attitude and even crackdowns against PUA groups probably have a chilling effect overall. Plus smartphone and social media have doomed most people to compete online.

So in all fairness it sounds like an easier world 12 years ago than today for an average or below average guy to meet a woman.

That’s where you fvcked up. You immediately latched on to the first woman that showed affection for you, and forgot about all others.

That is because OLD makes you desperate. He making up excuses but he simply does not have the looks. He can only be used by women if they are bored or sorry for him but to find one that actually takes him seriously as a man is a tall order. That is why I quit OLD and got into movies because I realise you are just wasting your time and end up with hot garbage if you are lucky or be pathetic like biggoal due to lack of options.

Listen to this man, biggoal. He’s right. I’ve lived in the middle of nowhere most of life, where the only available women were fat small town girls with every desperate guy trying to bed them. Get out of there. Run fast. Run far. No excuses. Just go, because your inaction on your life and your location is turning you into a needy wimp no woman wants to be around.

That still would not help him since women wi still ghost him. He is way to clingy and desperate that he looks like he will jump off a cliff to chase a breadcrumb. He needs to serioysly work on his inner game or go to another country where its easier to talk to girls.