This is going to hurt. It reminds me of that scene from fight club....
" This...is a chemical burn. It will hurt more than you've ever been burned and you will have a scar."
Tyler: Stay with the the pain, don't shut this out.
Narrator: No, GOD!
Tyler: Look at your hand. The first soap was made from the ashes of heroes. Like the first monkeys shot into space. Without pain, without sacrifice we would have nothing.
The longest relationship I had was only a year long and it hurt when we split ways but that is nothing compared to what you're probably feeling after six years. Not to mention that she essentially cheated on you. Like others have said....the chances of her "just talking" to this guy is highly unlikely. Telling you about this guy is not a small decision on her part and do you really think that she would leave a six year relationship to go be with a guy she hasnt slept with yet?? It is important that you realize what is going on here...because the human mind is extremely good at rationalizing things like this....telling yourself "she's my sweet angel" "she never meant to hurt me", etc.
EMBRACE THIS PAIN. This pain will either cripple you more than anything you've ever experienced or it will motivate you more than anything you've ever experienced. Do not try to block this out with rationalizations. Get angry, however not at her directly. Don't lose your cool and do anything stupid. Come to grips with this pain and then analyze your relationship and OBJECTIVELY and try to remember the little things that she did that annoyed you or the parts of the relationship that made you feel claustrophobic.
This is an exceptional opportunity for you to reawaken. Rise from these ashes and learn from this experience.
She has all of the power at this moment. She has you on the ropes and she knows it. The ONLY way you can regain some of the power (and not ironically the ONLY way you might be able to "win her back") is man up and show her that you're willing to walk away.
Shes swinging between branches. Her saying that shes going to "see where things go" with this new guy is her way of telling you nicely that she has been seeing him (read: Having sex and cheating) already.
We are talking about a six year relationship here....she is very aware of what she is doing and made a very conscious decision to tell you about this guy and essentially end the relationship.
In terms of "winning her back"...its all about attitude. You need to be willing to walk away, but you can't just act like it. You have to accept that she is essentially gone and that you two are finished. The other posters on here will tell you that she greatly disrespected you and as a man you don't deserve that and you need to dump her ass and move on. Which I basically agree with. The attitude you need to have to "win her back" is the exact same mindset you'd have to let her go...so you need to just let her go.
Here is what you are going to do:
1) Buy a bottle of very nice whisky. Give your phone to a friend so you dont make contact with her at all.
2) GET ABSOLUTELY TRASHED. Cry your eyes out, punch things (not people), blast Metallica, watch a depressing movie, read Nietzsche, do whatever. Expel this tension that is built up. Make sure you have a friend to make sure you dont do anything too stupid. This is a one time thing, this is not an excuse to start drinking every day. This is a one time release. Prescribed by Dr. Gravityeyelids to be taken orally ONCE, NOT as needed for pain.
3) Your hangover may be the worst hangover ever. You will feel sorry for yourself. Wallow in it and let it out.
4) The following day when you are recovered, you will awake as a new man. You are going to go and get a haircut. Clip your nails, take care of your appearance. Have a friend who's style-conscious come with you to the mall and help you pick out a new outfit for going out. If you have the money, go to TJmaxx and get some new cologne.
5)You are going to start reading up on weight training and nutrition. Even if you already "workout", you are going to plan out a set fitness routine for the next two months and STICK WITH IT. Working out is what all the pu$$ies at the gym do. Progressive overload training is what champions do.
6) If you havent already, you are going to get balls deep into books like the Book of Pook, DJ Bible, Double Your Dating, etc. You have come to the right place. Browse these forums and begin immediately working on your game. THE ONLY WAY YOU ARE GOING TO GET OVER HER IS BY BANGING OTHER GIRLS. You might not want to. But you have to.
Do not let this depression/pain make you lazy or apathetic. I recommend drinking coffee if you're feeling lazy, or get caffeine pills or preworkout or even green tea. It is important that if you dont already eat healthy, that you begin doing that. Eating clean and staying hydrated keeps your head clear and prevents you from being as depressed.
She wants you to chase after her and go "no baby! please come back! i need you!" so that she can rationalize that you were just a pathetic, needy wuss when she leaves your a$$. You cannot allow this to happen. If this happens you lose. No contact, effective immediately. No contact means no contact. Dont snapchat her, dont read her facebook, dont text her "whats up?". nothing.
