I've been together with my girlfriend for over a year now. We first met on January 1 at work (same office) and spent quite some time together among friends. Pretty soon we were in the talking phase and then we both felt, that there was more than just talking. We wanted to date around february 26, but i was sick. So the talking went on and we fixed another date for March 11. After that, everything happened fairly quickly and we were officially together on March 18.
March 25 she told me that she didn't go on a skiing trip on March 23 with a female friend (like she told me) - she went there with her ex. She said, they planned it long before and that she told him on this trip, that she wanted to be with me.
Three month into our relationship i found out the following: she slept with her ex on March first (she told me). that was before we "officially' dated, but after we fixed our date and clearly after she had feelings for me (thats what she told me). Bottomline is, that she had sex with him just two weeks before we were together, and well after we were getting close. I'm having still trouble to accept that. We talked about it, but she didnt seem to really understand the issues i have with what she did. she said it was "just sexual". I'm often thinking that maybe she got turned down by her ex on the "skiing trip" and only then chose to have me as a boyfriend (as kind of a backup), but maybe I'm totally wrong.
Half a year in to our relationship she got a "happy birthday" message from her ex. she smiled and said to me: "Look, he still likes me." At that time i lost it. she went crying and told me i was unfair.Am i totally wrong having concerns about her behaviour? Should i tell her, that i sometimes feel, that i was only second choice after her ex?Thanks for your opinions.
March 25 she told me that she didn't go on a skiing trip on March 23 with a female friend (like she told me) - she went there with her ex. She said, they planned it long before and that she told him on this trip, that she wanted to be with me.
Three month into our relationship i found out the following: she slept with her ex on March first (she told me). that was before we "officially' dated, but after we fixed our date and clearly after she had feelings for me (thats what she told me). Bottomline is, that she had sex with him just two weeks before we were together, and well after we were getting close. I'm having still trouble to accept that. We talked about it, but she didnt seem to really understand the issues i have with what she did. she said it was "just sexual". I'm often thinking that maybe she got turned down by her ex on the "skiing trip" and only then chose to have me as a boyfriend (as kind of a backup), but maybe I'm totally wrong.
Half a year in to our relationship she got a "happy birthday" message from her ex. she smiled and said to me: "Look, he still likes me." At that time i lost it. she went crying and told me i was unfair.Am i totally wrong having concerns about her behaviour? Should i tell her, that i sometimes feel, that i was only second choice after her ex?Thanks for your opinions.